Do nice guys exist or are they mythical?  

Linha28 38F
151 posts
7/24/2006 10:23 pm

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Do nice guys exist or are they mythical?

I've been on this site for sometime and have met a few "people"...short, tall, skinny, fat, blonde's, redheads, brunettes, old, young and etc. Funny enough I have yet to find a respectful nice guy. I don't want someone who is clingy but it would be nice to find someone who is somewhat affectionate and mean what they say. I thought I met a nice guy sometime ago named Paul. Paul and I had a lot in common because we loved cooking and we are/were married to different people. It wasn't a one night stand...which of course made me very happy. He was seeing someone else besides myself, a woman named Randi which was fine, but he would become jealous of my husband whenever he found out we slept together. He would tell me all about Randi and how she had 2 kids, and it seemed as though she had feelings for him but he didn't feel the same because he didn't like the fact she had children. Funny enough he wouldn't tell her anything about me or my existance even when she would ask why he wasn't coming around any longer or as much. My husband told me that this guy was trouble because he had too much drama going on, I wish I would've listened. I really liked him despite the fact he couldn't spend any money so I paid whenever we would go out and he suffered at times from an erectile dysfunction which he too ashamed of to seek help. We stopped going out basically because he turned out to be a coward and a liar. He would lash out at the one person who would treat him nice (me) and then kiss the asses of those who treated him like garbage. I ended the relationship shortly after things got a bit too serious and he wanted to be with me all of the time and only see each other. Then while he was helping his other friend she was driving back her minivan from Lowes and pulled over into a breakdown lane and gave him a blow job. It didn't bother me at first but as I had time to think about it and how he didn't want me to see anyone else and he himself agreed to do the same, I decided to no longer be someone's daily lunch time fuck session and fool. Obviously there was more to the story but it's a bit too much to type.

A lot of the people on this website have not been nice and honest to me and they usually come back around a few weeks or months later wanting to speak with me again. I believe the reason for that is because they have had zero luck with other women. When I remind them of who I am, they either don't remember or they issue out an apology. I've lost a lot of weight and look a bit different from when I first met some of those people and they don't recognize me. I'm not skinny or thin either. I am the same person on the inside regardless of how I look on the outside.

I recently had someone ask me on the telephone "what does being nice get you?" answer is a clear conscience and a peaceful nights sleep. I go to bed every night knowing I have treated someone they way I would want to be treated...with kindness and respect.

I melt in your mouth and your hands ~Linha

rm_KarmoHunny 55F
888 posts
7/24/2006 11:05 pm

They exist. They are not always easy to find. Just like it is not always easy to find nice women. I've met some very nice guys on this site. But, then, I'm only looking to establish online friendships. Not physical relationships. Maybe that has something to do with it. There is no pressure to live up to an image or to perform. So, they feel at ease with the friendship. That's just my opinion though.

I hope you'll have better luck in finding a nice guy. He is out there.


T_A_B_75 42M

7/25/2006 11:05 am

Two things:

1. Did you expect anything different out of a guy who was seeing you and his wife/girlfriend?

2. Nice guys exist. They are the ones being ignored while the girls are chasing the jerks.

I always get a good nights sleep.

thinman05 42M
16 posts
7/26/2006 9:46 am

yes i exist. you have to get to know me and find out for yourself.

thizizmyworld 47M

7/26/2006 4:06 pm

OK, I am totally confused. Please help me figure this out. This lady is awesome, intelligent and beautiful. I just read the entire blog, and I am trying my best to figure out why it is so difficult, to hook up with. I've been on here since May now, and I too find it difficult. People come to site, and create these elaborate profiles proclaiming what they want, and to come get it. But when I try, I either get no response or told I'm not what they are looking for. It truly makes no sense to me. Linha28 you should not have to deal with so much drama.

rm_beachguy2day 47M
1 post
7/27/2006 1:04 pm

would luv to chat with you, we migt be lookin for each other..

can_u_tameme2day 39M
6 posts
8/5/2006 1:52 pm

Being nice has no price, but I do believe karma has a way of getting around. If you give off negative energy towards others then what you are really doing is negative energy to yourself.
Carry on treating others like you would want them to treat you and eventually you will meet that nice man. Just be patient and don't give up.

KissYouAllOverNC 42M

8/13/2006 3:12 am

Hi sweetie:

You are very beautiful lady but what makes me really like you is reading your blogs. They are actually what are making me write you now. I am not the pretty boy type so at first I thought that you might not be interested but now I say I dont know if I dont try. There are nice guys around you just have to find them. I for one am a very nice guy and feel like I live the saying about "Nice Guys Finish Last". Anyway just wanted to say that you seem like a really nice lady and you are sexy as hell. If you want a good friend I would love to get to know you. I am just a standard member and this is the only way I figured out how to write you at the moment. If you might be interested in talking to this nice guy then please dont hesitate to get in touch with me. I would love to get to know you and see if we could have some good times together. Take care sweetie and dont let anyone change or ruin the truly beautiful person you are both inside and out. kisses.

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