I Worry  

Linds1957 59F
14777 posts
5/13/2006 6:14 am

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5/13/2006 3:02 pm

I Worry

I'm Tired, Worried, and .. did I mention I'm WORRIED

I didnt sleep last night. My boy had his 19th birthday yesterday. He left the house at 5:30 pm, didnt say goodbye.. and I havent seen him since then. I think he probably went drinking. He didnt say where he was going, or what he was going to do.

I need sleep, and food, and.. I need my boy back home, safe and sound...

multitasksextoy 58M  
3511 posts
5/13/2006 7:21 am

The hardest thing in life is to love your children enough to allow them to make the same mistakes we did,unfortunatly.I hope everything's fine and try to get some rest.

TammyDHU 45F
246 posts
5/13/2006 7:32 am

At nineteen, he is now an adult, and you have little control over the way in which he lives his life.

You can't be responsible for him any longer, but I do understand your concern. Sometimes it's extremely hard for a parent to let go of a child.

My thinking is, as long as he knows how much you love and care for him, he will do what is right to make you proud. All kids make mistakes. Keep the lines of communication always open.

My thoughts are with you!


Linds1957 59F

5/13/2006 9:50 am

thanks Rawhide and Tammy...

blue061245 71M
331 posts
5/13/2006 11:58 am


Rawhide and Tammy are right - one of the hardest things to do is to let go. In a way, it is like watching your toddler take his forst few steps in the living room. You just KNOW he is going to fall and bang his head on a chair; you want to save him the pain, but you know that you must allow him to develop, even at the cost of bumps and bruises. A few months later, and you see him trying to run on gravel or concrete. You just KNOW he is going to fall and skin his knees, but again, you have to let him do it. Your son is still taking steps in his development. True, they are bigger steps now, but you have given him the guidance and you must let him try his wings.

Perhaps by now he has been in touch with you. If not, try looking on all the potential positives as well. He had a couple of drinks and realized it woudl not be a good idea to drive home. Or perhaps the kids he was with had had a few and he did not want to drive with them. (Yes, he could have called you, but maybe he wanted you to get your sleep)

Let us know that all is well.

He has some good things going for him. Not least of these is that he has a Mom who loves him.

chas4037 67M
4119 posts
5/13/2006 1:28 pm

So, NOW it is mid-day for you, Linds. Is he finally home? For his sake, and for yours too, I sure do hope so. And if he is puking his guts out, so much the better, at least in terms of lessons learned.

You've done fine with him so far; you just have to trust that you've left him with good instincts, AND that booze did not overwhelm those instincts.

Good Luck

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