On Being Genuine  

LilyVonSchtupp2 53F
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4/3/2006 10:09 am

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4/3/2006 3:05 pm

On Being Genuine

Well, I'm feeling pretty satisfied with myself. I must say, either AdultFriendFinder is the best matching service in the world, or I'm simply amazing at spotting a great guy when I see him. After only one week I've already managed to meet someone very, very special who has the same outlook on things and wants the same things out of life.

Which brings me to my point about being genuine. I don't mean to be critical or anything, but I've heard a lot of women on a lot of sites and in different situations complain about how they can't find anybody. I think that a lot of their problems have to do with the fact that they state they want one thing, but in fact they want something very different.

So, ladies, if you say that you want a "no commitment" relationship, be prepared to let it really mean "no commitment." This means you won't get upset if he meets someone else and is no longer interested, and you won't get all weird on him for not sending you roses on your BDay. No commitment means just exactly that. If what you mean is an open relationship, where you both can see other people but are still committed to one another, please state that clearly.

I think it pays to spend some time thinking about what exactly we are looking for, but more importantly, spend some time analysing WHY we want that. I bet many times we feel so desperate to establish a connection that we feel like we must broaden our definition of things. Bad idea. There are so many people on this site, and we all know what we're here for. There's no shame in being perfectly honest and transparent. Someone will come along who wants the exact same thing from you.

Peace,

-Lily-


rm_Playmate_MN 78M

4/3/2006 11:14 am

Hi Lily ...

Thank you for posting your message ... not only is it well written but more importantly very thoughtful ... you obviously are a very special person and probably an awesome lover ....

Jim


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