Types of Relationships  

LicIWill 52M
352 posts
6/4/2006 9:57 am

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Types of Relationships

I believe there 3 types of relationships. Friends, Friends with Benefits and Exclusive with Long Term goals. After meeting a woman, I pretty much know what type of relationship I can or want to have with her. It can be a look....it can be an attitude or it can be the person's morals and beliefs that determine this. Every type can change....except for one. Friends can turn into Friends with Benefits or Exclusive. Friends with Benefits can turn into just Friends or Exclusive. Doesn't mean they will change, but the possibly does exist. However..... Exclusive cannot turn into Friends with Benefits.....not with me at least, but believe that it can turn into just Friends. I believe it is too emotional of a situation, and quite frustrating, to have a Friends with Benefits that you want to be Exclusive but know that won't happen. Easier to accept as Friends, and accept the fact that that is all it can ever be.

I truly believe that "MOST"(there are always bitches and assholes out there) want to be honest with their feelings, and don't want to hurt anyone. That is why it is very important that two people that are interested in one another, one way or another, be honest and upfront from the beginning, ensuring that both are on the same page and are willing to pursue the same thing. I know..........easier said than done.....there is always the chance that one begins to feel more than the other. Those are the chances we live with in every day life

Once again.....am I in my own little world here? Your thoughts?

countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
6/4/2006 1:43 pm

I agree with you. Honesty is always the best policy even though feelings can be hurt from the bluntness of it. I believe that if you take most things slow, it will all work out in the end. I am friends with a couple of guys that I know would like there to be more but I'm not ready for that step with them. I guess I don't feel the attraction or whatever it is that they do. I don't want to ruin a good friendship. I feel that it is tougher to go from friends with benefits back to just friends. Atleast in my experience (not that I have alot)and from watching my friends do this, that's what I have found to be true. That's my ramblings anyways.


Sweetpickles69 47F

6/4/2006 1:57 pm

Sounds like we're on the same page here. It boggles my mind that people are on this site looking for long-term things, don't get me wrong, I can see how it can happen, but be realistic. If you met someone on this site, could you trust them to be faithful?? I know it happens & people have even gotten married by meeting on this site. Hell, in blogland there's couples that have traveled several miles to move in together! I guess it ultimately boils down to communication, & telling people what you're looking for, & letting fate happen!


rm_SammiSaysTo 43F
872 posts
6/4/2006 8:19 pm

Have you ever seen the movie "Liar, Liar" with Jim Carey? Wouldn't it be great if everyone told the truth at all times. For example: you met someone and they blurt out, "I want to fuck you" or "I just want to be friends". Wouldn't that be nice to know where you stand at all times with out the games. It is just human nature to protect yourself and sometimes that comes in the form of not letting the other person know how you feel.

If you figure it out...let me know!

If you can't laugh, what's the fucking point!

countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
6/8/2006 5:55 am

I agree with Sammi!


sweetmimilove 51F
1095 posts
6/9/2006 9:10 am

Sometimes we don't know what we want....

Lic! I finally looked at your post...I didn't know that you had this on here! What I like about you is that you are a thinker

I had an experience once where I wanted more than friends, and he didn't, but he went ahead anyway....then he turned around and said, "just friends" It hurt our friendship.

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