adult children of divorce  

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5/30/2006 5:44 pm

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adult children of divorce

Has anyone who's parents have divorced and are now adults themselves ever felt any of this?

Taken from The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce by Judith S. Wallerstein and others:


This book is written for those of you who grew up in divorced families and want to know why you feel and act the way you do. Each of you believes that your suffering was unique. You've struggled with inner conflicts and fears whose source you don't comprehend. You've lived for years with fear of loss and the worry that if you're happy, it's only a prelude to disaster. You fear change because deep down you believe it can only be for the worse. You've been worried about one or both of your parents all your life, and leaving them has been a nightmare. Like most adult children of divorce, you've never confessed to anyone how terrified you are of conflict because the only way you know to handle it is to explode or run away. You've lain awake night after night struggling with anxiety about love and commitment. You know far too much about loneliness and too little about lasting friendship. But you were too uncomfortable to mention these feelings because you had no idea that you were part of a large and growing army of millions of young adults who were raised in divorced homes and who share your bewilderment and concerns. The feelings that confuse and trouble you have deep roots in your history.

Anyone feel any of these feelings? I know I sure have/do! Well not all of them, and not all at the same time.


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