What are some of your pet peeves about this site and the people on it?  

LeEnchantress 55F
152 posts
12/26/2005 9:23 am

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What are some of your pet peeves about this site and the people on it?

I was just wondering. I have spent several hours on this site recently, chatting, IMing with various guys and have come to the sad conclusion that for the most part, this site has been a giant waste of time when it comes to meeting men.
For the most part it seems, the guys really don't want to meet up, at least the attractive ones don't. The ones who are married, have a belly resembling a woman who's 5 month pregnant, or just plain unattractive will gladly come to your door, but who wants that?
I see guys demanding your picture on the first chat thinking you have naked pictures of yourself they can see. I on the other hand, would rather get to know someone first.
I have even had a fellow send me a picture of his penis without even bothering to chat with me first! While i have no problems whatsoever looking at photographs of naked penises (I rather like it actually) does he really think he's leaving a good impression on me doing so?
I just wonder. There's nothing like a bit of mystery and if you reveal at all at first, where is the mystery?
I am a standard member so i cannot see the explicit anyway.
Then you have the cyber cassanovas (LO who have no problem taking off their drawers so their can jack off to you on their cams but when it comes to setting up a proper date where you could actually meet and possibly have something that leads to actual sex, they always bail or have some lame excuse why they can't meet.
i'm not the least bit interested in cyber sex or phone sex. i spend enuf time masturbating as it is because i cannot find an attractive guy locally, why bother joining a sex site in the hopes of finding someone to date and have sex with if all you are going to do is sit on the phone or in front of a computer screen and get yourself off??? LOL
What i was looking for here was real one-on-one sex with an attractive fit guy, skin to skin sex..TO me that is where the PASSION LIES. All this other stuff is just a colossal bore in my opinion.
Why bother joining a sex site if you aren't at all interested in having sex. TO me, those people really ruin it for others on this site.
I've decided that unless the guy really floats my boat, i'm just not even going to bothering IM with anyone anymore. it's just not worth it.
I'm really rather tired of having my time wasted.
And if this is a Friends finder.. that has also been disappointing..
I thought i had made a new friend a short time ago. I had a birthday coming up so i suggested we get together and have a drink or somethign on my birthday.. After all, he was calling me a few times a week and we'd hung out a few times at least. I figured that he was at the very least, a friend of mine.
wouldn't a friend be willing to have a birthday drink or dinner with you? i even offered to drive down to his area that day.
He said he "couldn't plan that far in the future". Come my birthday i didn't even get a phone call.
When he called me back later in the same week my birthday was, he said he was at a big party for his friend who was having his 35th birthday!
Guess he could plan for him but not for me, huh?
This same guy also earlier in the month wanted to come up to visit me one evening to catch a movie and insisted that if he did so, i would have to put him up at my home!
Is this really a friend or what??
I am just really fedup with the quality of "friends" i am meetin here lately.
I do have some good friends i have met on this site that i really cherish, but alas, they are so far away, it's hardly likely we will ever meet.
I dunno... i would go ahead and join or another dating site but they are so expensive to pay every month just to have anyone contact you it's just worthless if you don't pay cuz you can never get a hold of anyone.
Anyone know of any other dating sites?
I wish i could say this one has worked out.. but to me.. it's just insanity to continue trying to meet someone.
insanity.. the definition of continuing to do the same thing and expecting different results.
I'm sorry but the results i've received for all the time i've spent on this site have really blown!


zoopc42 47M

12/26/2005 10:18 am

it is odd to hear this from a woman really, but it is refreshing. mostly it is men that say this. this site is a learning curve and it definatly is not as implied (get laid tonight, indeed)

I have to say that it is tough finding ones that are willing to go through with it but also tough to get it to that point in the first place.

granted, looking for a higher caliber of partner is always hard to deal with but can be rewarding as well.

I know there is a few other sites similar to this but it has been my exeperience that they are the same result


zoopc42 47M

12/26/2005 10:20 am

it is odd to hear this from a woman really, but it is refreshing. mostly it is men that say this. this site is a learning curve and it definatly is not as implied (get laid tonight, indeed)

I have to say that it is tough finding ones that are willing to go through with it but also tough to get it to that point in the first place.

granted, looking for a higher caliber of partner is always hard to deal with but can be rewarding as well.

when I read this I thought you meant the site in general becuase posting in blogs has become such a pain in the ass, takes me alot of tries before my comments show

I know there is a few other sites similar to this but it has been my exeperience that they are the same result


justcrazyme4u 53M

12/26/2005 6:36 pm

dont waste your time and money paying dating sites there a joke
just as this site is a joke


LeEnchantress 55F

12/27/2005 9:35 pm

I believe i did! LOL. just cuz someone turns you down gonnagetta you don't have to get rude or start mouthing off to them. That is not being a gentleman. Accept a "no" with good grace and move on.


LeEnchantress 55F

12/28/2005 4:14 pm

Okay. so now this is what i'm talking about.. You put all this stuff in your profile.. thinking that if you are specific enough. you won't get people who you aren't interested in wasting your time and contacting you.
But then.. they never read your Profile! Lmao. Then they get pissed off at you cuz you have rejected them.. but they were never your type to start with but they were too lazy to read that!! lol..


LeEnchantress 55F

12/29/2005 12:52 pm

well.. just b/c someone can recognize a half Oriental Guy from one who's caucasian(and if you were DECENT ENOUGH to read my profile you would see that is what i'm seeking) doesn't make me prejudiced or a bad person. It's called preferences people. And yes. i do think Bruce Lee is fine.. but in general. i like caucasian guys cuz i like things like curly hair, green or blue eyes.. though big ROUND dark brown eyes like Italians have are nice too
and hairy chest and forearms are somthing i find very attractive. I dont' see any of those traits on Asian men.. so i personally don't usually find them appealing.
And you have a pretty weird mentality chitown. you say only like women.. but you are objecting to a woman putting a picture of her bosom on this website?
Sorry you don't find it appealing.. i'm not sure i'd find a bloke like you appealing either.. You dont' even have a face or body pic up here but you condemn someone for putting one of theirs on. You sound like a hypocrit to me.
I should of known to just put down a standard I'm not interested to your response to my e-mail when you write to me Gonnagetta..
Like i said before, this is one of my top pet peeves. .guy that won't take NO for an answer and have to resort to insulting you cuz they can't tolerate rejection.
I see why you have no one interested in ya gonna.. your personality sucks!


LeEnchantress 55F

12/31/2005 12:29 pm

I never said I didn't like Asians. i said i just wasn't attracted to asian guys for the most part.. (again, I think Bruce Lee is a dreamboat, )
also preferences are prejudices? Since when.. just cuz someone with for example.. really really dark skin and very wiry hair doesn't float my boat mean that i'm prejudiced against their race.
I also am not attracted for the most part to redheaded guys (Eric Stolz might be the exception though, : ) ) does that mean i'm prejudiced against people of that race who have red hair.
You reasoning escapes me.. but ya know what.. gonnna. that just fine by me!
LOL
You are a bit strange anyway. I said that about Southerners cuz for the most part they are used to only seen Anglo-Saxons or people who are either white or black..
There's not alot of ethnic mixes to a large extent like you'd see in a big cosmopolitan city out in your area...
If you think you look totally Caucasian too gonna.. you are rather delusional.
I can see from your picture you aren't. But as i said again. the auto reply in your case wud of been my best bet. What a waste of time guys like you are!


LeEnchantress 55F

12/31/2005 3:31 pm

I never said I didn't like Asians. i said i just wasn't attracted to asian guys for the most part.. (again, Bruce Lee is an exception, i think he was a dreamboat, )
also preferences are prejudices? Since when??.. just cuz someone with for example.. really really dark skin and very wiry hair doesn't float my boat mean that i'm prejudiced against their race.
I also am not attracted for the most part to redheaded guys (Eric Stolz might be the exception though, : ) ) does that mean i'm prejudiced against people of that race who have red hair.
You reasoning escapes me.. but ya know what.. gonnna. that just fine by me!
LOL
You are a bit strange anyway. I said that about Southerners cuz for the most part they are used to only seeing Anglo-Saxons or people who are either white or black..
There's not alot of ethnic mixes to a large extent like you'd see in a big cosmopolitan city out in your area...
If you think you look totally Caucasian too gonna.. you are rather delusional.
I can see from your picture you aren't. But as i said again. the auto reply in your case wud of been my best bet. What a waste of time guys like you are!


trustno01 55M  
2364 posts
1/2/2006 8:17 am

I really don't know if I have a big grip about this site. But one thing I have found is that there seems to be a lot of people on this site who seem to be not really looking to meet someone. But rather just here to play. It makes it hard for people on here who are honestly trying to make a connection. Not just a sex connection but a good connection.


LeEnchantress 55F

1/2/2006 3:39 pm

I agree with you trustn01.. and that was the reason I wrote this blog.
But then again. you have the guys who don't even bother to read the profiles who don't match your profile who want to meet! That is another large problem with the site.
It seems like most of them to me.. the ones who do meet my criteria do not want to meet, but rather cyber sex or just exchange pics.... snoresville!
There is nothing like live sex in my opinion. or are people finding cybersex more exciting than the real thing these days??? LMAO....


erotikiepafi 33M

1/3/2006 3:33 pm

You are right to the most of the things you write, but some people due to various reasons may prefer cybersex


gnr8nrg 46M

1/3/2006 4:47 pm

Hi LeEnchantress I actually came on this site wanting another way to meet people and have fun. I've talked with women both in my area and outside of my area. I've noticed, (and I just think it's L.A.) that the local people are too busy to want to meet. I had a date set up and we rescheduled a couple of times because of her. One day she calls and says, "Lets meet right now." I said no thanks and we don't communicate anymore. If people aren't making the time to meet, then the sex probably won't be good anyhow. Like you said in your profile about chemistry. I'd say the women I've talked to that are not local have been more than willing to meet. If I do email locally, I also send an invite to my network. That has kept me from meeting what I call, "Fembots" Companies trying to "Spam or Cam" me to death. It is unfortunate that we don't live closer. and don't worry, I don't own a webcam.


readynow935 68M

1/3/2006 5:09 pm

Funny thing I've been a member for just a short time and find the same problem with the women! I have plenty of time and money to spend on the lady I choose to date. I have very little time to waste on the site looking for serious women and finding only cyber pen pals who must get their kicks by typing on a key board. Oh well live and learn!


sleeplessknight1 68M

1/5/2006 9:41 am

first visit.....
saw yu post a comment on sensually_4ever's blog.........

see yu got a pic to load up....

and I did read your profile......

not sure.... is the answer...
suppose there are many reasons why people are on this site....
I just enjoy the blogs and get to know people that way.....

i hope I may visit here again.....

tc and have a very happy new year...Enchantress


rm_sissyphus29 40M

1/6/2006 2:05 pm

Enchantress,

as bill clinton so eloquently put it “I feel your pain”.

I don’t know you, however after reading your posts, it seems like this site hasn’t been doing it for you for the past 6 months. As horny as most guys are, it would seem like any easy task to get as much dick as you could possibly want.

I myself have just started, so have been discovering what this site is really about. I am approaching it as a way to express myself, and meet other perverts like me. I dont think i will meet anyone in person off of here. hopefully these low expectations will fend off dissapointment.

Of course, I myself am just proof of what you have been saying. I am attractive, fit, and very passionate and a considerate lover. I am the type that gives coupons for massages as a gift. However, i live in louisiana. The chances of us hooking up would be very remote. Besides, i have already posted a picture of my big hard rod

BTW, when was the last time you had some skin-on-skin?


FoxtailDelicieux 29M/29F
3 posts
1/15/2006 11:25 pm

Oh god. I know your pain about the profile thing and the endless stream of sexually deprived men. So, so annoying. --Kirsten.


rm_uppish 40M
9 posts
1/16/2006 1:51 pm

I guess im in same boat ....pity we havent met.look me up see what you think


rm_uppish 40M
9 posts
1/16/2006 1:53 pm

Try LOOPYLOVE.COM - same ID for me Uppish


DiscreetnReady41 51M

1/17/2006 12:13 pm

LeEnchantress: I agree with you and here's my situation. I do believe that a lot of people on here are "talk" only and visit only for chatting. I myself use the chatroom to observe the way women interact within that setting. I've found that process to be enlightening. If someone is an asshole or a bitch in that room chances are those qualities are magnified in person. I myself carefully read (and re-read) any profile I look at and I won't waste my time (or theirs) to try to entice someone who's parameters I don't meet or those who don't meet mine. THAT is a waste of time and effort. So Far as a newcomer I have been somewhat avoided in that of the few e-mails I have sent out my % of replies is low. And my feeble attempts to communicate in the room (which is a place I don't want to share a lot of info) have been ineffective.

I am one who wants to be discreet (no locker room talk or sharing of conquest data for me) and someone who is trustworthy. (So far that seems rare on this site) Is that preference one that dooms me to "failure"? Also I have very discriminating tastes in women. I prefer the intellectual types who can carry on a great conversation, make me laugh, and is a positive person by nature. I know its not likely for me to find a long term relationship from a site such as this. But a person can hope. LOL But I do expect to finfd someone with whom I can forge a mutually respectful and pleasurable relationship with. THAT would be ideal.

And women on here can be fakes, liars, BOTs, internet voyeurs, chat ho's, gossip queens, bitches, posers, and all the other bad things society has to offer. Yet I hold out hope that I will have the opportunity to meet the few that are above all that.

So is AdultFriendFinder a time waster? So far for me it has been. But as an optimist I am hoping for better. Your comments were well thought out and concise LeEnchantress. I like that. I wish you good luck in redeeming this site.

DnR


LilSquirt_4mfm 67M/67F
3394 posts
1/20/2006 6:00 pm

Just got a minute ... but your comment on bootielover3's blog was charming..... so i came to see your blog. will be back when i have a lil more time.

Sure do agree that so many guys like chat sex, cams, even phonesex if u give it to them ... but, meeting? ... only a few continue when u call their "buff" .. seems many just wantto "play" with the idea is all. I do wish you better luck .... will be back to see you ... cum see meanytime, ... a lil mfm and squirter oriented, but is a fun place we think
Lil


LilSquirt_4mfm 67M/67F
3394 posts
1/20/2006 6:04 pm

oh, i should add, we have found a few good single fellas for mfm playtimes ... a few.


hard_body_4you 46M
1 post
1/23/2006 7:26 am

This was an interesting comment about this site. Apparently it is just about the "playing" and the cybersex.. Boring I tell you. Who has time for this crap. They should and would be better off just buying some magazines and videos. Everyone has fantasies, but that's all they will ever be. They are nothing but thoughts in their brains that they never act on, so that is all that they will ever be.
A DREAM... Damn cowards... Even though this is a "sex site", A friend is impossible to acheive here.
Nobody is real, they don't know how to be real, so they think that playing here will satisfy there unhappiness. This site is full of the most fake and miserable people that I have read about. Nobody ever lets there guard down long enough to even let someone know anything about them that is real. It is all just bullshit and a big waste of time.


popmaster_uk2 36M

1/24/2006 6:16 pm

hi there, i'm a young guy 24, wont lie i think i'm good looking and people have told me to, i'm not a time waster, get to knbo me


Rockhard2x6 54M

1/26/2006 9:56 am

LOL I do believe you have the insite on this site. I know how you feel exactly. (And I do not have a belly like a 5 month pregnant woman.) I did enjoy chatting with you earlier.


av_it2006 32M
2 posts
2/8/2006 1:41 pm

hey, ur sayin ur wantin all this sex,well so do i>cant be bothered with all this emailing n that. i just wanna meet and have abit of fun.


LeEnchantress 55F

2/9/2006 6:15 am

Actually sissy it's not been that long since i had sex..but just thought this site would be an EASY way to meet guys..
Nothing cud be further than the truth... the time... hours spent at keyboard.. i agree with the female poster above..
When you call a guy's bluff you are truly interested.. he backs out or just doesn't even bother to call you to set up a date..
Or say he'll meet you like tomorrow.. but then never even bothers to e-mail back and say he's made other plans or just can't make it.
I just find all the guys on here to treat so many of the women locally with a great deal of disrespect and i cannot tolerate that.
Oh.. btw. i have no problems meeting guys in real life.. contrary to some of your opinions of me. I'm not an "old bat" who couldn't get a guy in real life. Yes.. one A**hole in a chatroom actually called me that.
I don't know. there are just too many mudderfuc*kers on this site and not enough nice people.
I've thought about changing my profile again.. but it seems rather pointless.
Most of these people are just about the quick hook-up (which seems pretty risky to me in this day of life ending STDs) or just jerking off their dick to you on their webcam.


LeEnchantress 55F

2/9/2006 6:28 am

Hazenoff.. i'm reporting your nasty butt today!! You are exactly what i'm talkin about.
So what if all you want is a quick LAY.. !! that's your stuff, not eveyone else's.
And yes .. you do look like a 13 year old.. So what if i don't show my face. I have what is called a respectable job...
Apparently you don't or don't even care if people at work see you on a sex website.
And who the heck would even want to get laid by you???? Ladies.. read this guy's profile.. that is if he remains on this website.
I could of easily hot the Standard "not Interested", you are not my type canned reponses that AdultFriendFinder provides us ladies. Instead... i choose, foolishly now i see. to write you personally.
You and gonnagetta are in the same category. if we turn you down you act all hateful and start insulting us.
Dude, i have no problem getting laid in real life! I've got lots of good looking guys wanting to get down my pants..
Whether i'd ever want to deal with the likes of you.. not only are you physically unattractive.. you look like howdie doodie.. and YES, you look like you are 13!
If you are trying to attract grown women.. you might want to post a more mature looking face picture. We are not a bunch of 13 year olds on here.
However.. your flipping personality is the ugliest of all... you refer to children as "little shitting vommiting machines"!!
Alot of us on this site have children..
"If you wanna wax all romantic, try putting that train wreck of a face of yours on here, and see how many guys avoid your profile! I mean, jesus christ with a popcicle up his ass lady, if you show nothing but your naughty bits.. and come forth and spit venom at everyone who says hello to you, no wonder your not getting laid. "
This is exactly what i'm talking about people.. guys like this!!!
Not only is he attractive at all. but he's a complete prick to go along with it!!
No.. i'm not taking any more of your abuse any longer hazenoff.
You're an a complete fool! just cuz you are silly enuf to pay for this site.. doesn't mean us women are obligated to take your insults or have to date you!!!!
Another delusional half-baked moron....


LeEnchantress 55F

2/9/2006 6:32 am

Oops.. meant to say "not only are you not attractive at all... but he's a complete prick to go along with it!!!
Hazenoff. i sure see why you may not getting laid and why you had to pay to come on a website to do so... lmao!!!!


LeEnchantress 55F

2/9/2006 6:48 am

Rockhard, ty and you are the kind of guy i'd like to meet..
Instead i get e-mail from the likes of hazenoff wanting to date me!!
Okay ladies.. look at hazenoff's picture and look at rockhard and tell me which one you'd rather date..
Hardbody for you.. i tried to e-mail you.. but you're settings won't allow it.
I read your profile and totally agree. there's LOT'S of dumb guys on this site...
I don't know if you are interested but we don't live too far away..
I do have beautiful eyes and a beautiful smile and trust me. i' dont' have a "train wreck" of a face as hazenoff was so gracious (cough, cough) to post!
I've been told i'm beautiful by lots of nice looking men.
But i'm not about to post my face on a sex website. There are alot of weirdos on the web period.. let alone a sex site. I do it for my safety. not to prove anything to someone like hazenoff or gonnagetta..
Anyway.. there are some people on here who have all the ingredients of a stalker.
If you won't accept their advances in an e-mail. they start following your blogs and insulting you there.
You are right rockhard. this is all such a waste of time.
Perhaps they shud change the name of the site to webcamjackers/insults.com.
It's about all it's amounted to for the most part.
i've met a few nice people on this site.. but for all the time i've spent here i shud have dozens and dozens of lovers.
The best thing about this site is the chatrooms..
I used to think it was the blogs. but at least on the chatrooms you cud hit ignore, ..


LeEnchantress 55F

3/9/2006 5:10 pm

Yes. ternanta it is important to follow thru on meeting if you agree to. Otherwise you shatter other people's self esteems and earn yourself a bad reputation.
I've just not discovered too many men on here I really want to meet who do want to meet also.
Most seem only into themselves. I can find shallow people anywhere.


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