LazarusLongines 62M
21 posts
1/23/2006 8:36 am

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3/10/2006 8:28 pm


Of all the things I have read or seen on this site, the most confusing is the idea that "Pain is a gift." I have contemplated this idea for quite awhile, yet I come up with the same conclusion. Pain is not a gift.

I do not live in the S&M world, nor the Dom world. In my world pain can be and often is a valuable teacher. But it teaches lessons that, in my mind, a healthy mind learns and does not repeat. I simply cannot see why anyone would gain pleasure in hurting themselves or anyone else. I have recently read the research concerning the male brain and what happens when (some/many) men hurt someone they percieve as bad or see someone that they don't like being hurt. (Ok, it feels good when bad things happen to bad people) And I have read a little about Opus Dei and a little about the Flagellants. Is there a thread running through all of this? OK teachers, I'm listening.

About "BrokeBack Mountain". The review in the Boston Globe starts "Ok, it's a gay cowboy movie. Now get over it." I am sure it is a wonderful movie. I am sure the acting, directing, cinematography and sound are first rate. I just do not want to see The Duke and Jimmy Stewart in a lip lock on the high plains. I am not a "watcher". If I want to see a story about men loving men, I'll watch "Band of Brothers" again. The tears the old vets cried while they were being interviewed for the series are real. I know that Band of Brothers is not
a woman friendly show and Brokeback Mountain is. There's that "Vive' le difference" again.

Peace, gentle strangers

sexxxxyeyes34 45F
3 posts
1/23/2006 8:50 am

ok i have read your post it seem to be wierd that ok i guess tho .

LazarusLongines 62M

1/23/2006 7:36 pm

Thank you for the input. I do not know how close to Mobile you are, but if you ever get the time, go to the Malaga Inn, and have a drink and wait in the coutyard. The proprietor may come by, a taller attractive lady with dark hair wearing a flowing lightly colored dress. She is usually silent, as she is usually just observing, but perhaps she will pause and tell you what you need to do. She has been around awhile, I would listen. Good Luck!

_Safira 53F
11260 posts
2/13/2006 6:29 pm

Lazarus ~

This question has been asked of me repeatedly. If you truly wish to learn I would ask that you send me your questions via email and not a simply request to "educate" you. (I tend not to proselytize on this issue on my blog. In addition, I would imagine that reading the desert story ... and somewhat about my young life before that ... might provide further insight? If not I do apologize. Again, I am more than happy to answer any questions you send my way.

Warmest (non-painful) regards,


"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." ~ Aristotle

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