Sex and Love  

LateralPhantasm 35M
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5/5/2006 5:36 pm

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5/5/2006 7:47 pm

Sex and Love


I hate this argument about sex and love. I do not understand it. Do I believe in sex and love? Sure. Do I believe they are inherently connected? Not in the slightest. Sex is sex. It is NOT the physical act of love like romantics like to claim it is. I like the idea of that, but it is a delusion to say so. Love and sex have been socialized together by media, government, and religious groups since all of those institutions have existed. The sex/love connection is something based on control and not trust, not caring. I have made love with someone who I was deeply in love with, still am in a way, and it was great. I bought into the sex/love idea until I started having sex with other people and learned that sex is sex and I had the same feelings then. I loved humans. I love people. I am a humanist and I believe in rationality. Rationally, which is more likely, sex is something originally meant for procreation and meant to feel good so we can replicate ourselves, OR, the sex is this spiritual thing which we know nothing about and even though people claim to KNOW things that no one else knows, they really cannot rationally know. The first option holds water. The second one does not. Do not get me wrong, I would love to think that there was something there, but the fact is that we have no reasons or evidence to say there is. I love romatism as much as the next guy, but deluding one's self does not help ANYONE. I love sex. I love having it, watching it, and almost anything to do with it. I wish there was something deeper to explain why I love it, but there is not a more reasonable explaination than what we know from science and observation about natural creatures, which we are and I cannot stand it when people try to claim we are above all other life forms just because we are the meanest...

funontheside4you 41M/38F

5/5/2006 6:49 pm

You not have ever been really in love, or do not see things in the right way. Sex is sex, it is just a physical thing done by two people.
But it gets really deeper when you are in love with that person. It is at least for me and wife better. It for us is like we melt into one, only interested in the pleasure that we give to each other and ourselves. It is deeper, more intimant, more intense.
But as we sometimes just wanna just have sex, we do not always get into it at the same level.... We also enjoy just fucking the hell out of each other, but we both feel that the fact that we love each other so much even adds to that............
Through all of the people we have brought in to have threesomes with, none have been as good at turning us on as each other. So they are all just secondary, just something new...............


LateralPhantasm 35M
33 posts
5/5/2006 7:47 pm

To me, that is beautiful that you can feel that. I feel that whenever I have sex. I have sex for pleasure of the other person. I love that you can have the melding, go for it, but, maybeI am different, but I feel love and sensuality for anyone that I choose to have intimate relations with. I love sex not because I get pleasure, I cen jerk off for that. I get pleasure from making my partners cum, or making my partners feel vulnerable. I love that. Keep up the love, and keep up the feelings. Never lose that...but it just does not make sense to me to only feel that for a "loved" one. Thanks for the comment!


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