WTF? Why can't Men handle rejection?  

Lapkin4u 42F
497 posts
4/5/2005 11:03 am

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WTF? Why can't Men handle rejection?

Why? Why do men have to write back and be assholes cuz women turn them down? It's very annoying to sit here and take the time to respond to every email I get, but I do it because you guys took the time to write to me. That doesn't mean that I want to fuck all of you. I could have just ignored the emails I wasn't interested in but I thought they at least warrented a response so they werent left hanging. So I check my messages today to find two that have written back to say things like...."you couldn't handle me anyway! LOL!" and ......."Well what kind of sex are you into?" "I'll come to you." Guys its not that there is anything wrong with you its just that not all people or situations are ideal for others. If they are nice enough to say thanks but no thanks, Don't write back and be a complete asshole it is not very becoming and even more of a turn off.
It definately confirms for me that I made the right decision. Please learn to handle rejection like an adult and move on!

rm_coinbirds 32M
8 posts
4/5/2005 12:55 pm

Women get to beautiful, seductive, maternal, and understanding. Men get egos. It sucks. It's not really our fault, we all feel shitty after rejection. But we are figuring out that you have to get over it. Also when something is done through the internet and there isn't really talking with a person, people feel the right to get pissed off and say it at anyone because it's possible. But F them. Just don't lose faith in us. We'll figure it out......some day........
...I Hope.

expatbrit49 62M

4/5/2005 1:23 pm

Its because we are just fragile flowers LOL

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

sportyfun56 106M

4/5/2005 2:43 pm

brit.. yeah that's right. lol

lapkin.. don't get too worked up over it hun.. just be yourself and respond as much as you can honestly. If the guy can't handle it that then that's his tough luck.
It is nice to get any reply from the lady positive or negative. If she/you can share some feedback as to why we aren't "right" for then that is helpful. Maybe our profile, email, handle, picture was a turnoff. It's helpful to know that. Although it may just be that we aren't a good match and made a poor choice in contacting the lady.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
4/5/2005 3:16 pm

Perhaps it is empowering them by getting in the last word. They feel better about their poor rejected selves after blaming you for their discomfort.

Lapkin4u 42F

4/6/2005 8:05 am

Thx for your comments the latest for a laugh....I emailed a quick reply to this guy that the chemistry just wasnt there.....he replied back "thanks for the invaluable input" naturally i couldnt resist my own reply....this is what I sent back......."No...thank you for confirming that I made the right decision." At least I got a good laugh out of it!
Have a great day all!

rm_astrobeast 39M
49 posts
4/6/2005 8:17 am

Hell I like the fact that they respond...atleast it gives closure instead of assuming one day they will.

rm_scouts69D 38M

4/6/2005 10:50 am

Thanks for writing a respones on my blog, as for men can't handle rejection, of course they can't because that would require those less mature ones to sallow their pride! You'd have a better chance of being struck by lightning.

Lapkin4u 42F

4/6/2005 2:04 pm

YQW Scout and I think your right .....LOL

feelinlucky_com 49M

4/6/2005 2:12 pm


rm_nordic68 48M
36 posts
4/6/2005 5:17 pm

It hurts to get rejected, but to strike back is a problem that they'll have to deal with. At least you take the time to write! I'd guess that I get responses from LESS than 5% of the emails I write. Given that in person my success rate is around 60%, I have a feeling that either I'm writing to a lot of phantom profiles, or I just don't know how to present myself online. But I wouldn't respond harshly to anyone who tells me "Not my type", which has happened many times.

rm_stpetegirl3 45F
23 posts
4/8/2005 11:10 am

Someone once told me that the male to female ratio is something like 300 to 1, so if this is true, we would have to be meeting men and essentialy getting fucked all day and all night to keep up.
I have talked to guys that have told me they have gotten almost no legitimate responses, so you just keep doing the right thing, and the good news is you found out the guy is an ass before you met him!

rm_sthrnthndr69 52M

4/10/2005 1:51 pm

I agree about finding out about an ass before you get involved. I admit I have had my share of rejections. While its not the greatest thing in the world, I dont see the need to beg and plead (or even bitch and complain) if someone doesnt want you...what a sorry life one must lead if he (or she for that matter) must feel the need to show their ass if they get rejected. I know that the bald look isnt for everyone (and I accept that), but one thing I take pride in is my respect for people. So if I am turned down, I say ok and move on. And as far as them being an ass, they should remember WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND

rm_Gyntlman 38M
4 posts
4/10/2005 2:15 pm

Sad, but true! LOL
Some of us are capable of accepting rejection rather well. Hell, after awhile you should get use to it because "it happens" and that's just a part of life.
Those that don't handle it well and respond in a negative matter usually have some underlying issues they need to resolve, and "possibly" the main one is SELF-ESTEEM.
Just my opinion

rm_Gyntlman 38M
4 posts
4/10/2005 2:17 pm

I'd rather be informed of no interest, rather than left hanging and wondering. "My hats off to ya!

wanakissuallover 57M
411 posts
10/2/2005 6:39 am

AMEN! Get over yourself and quit bothering people if you can't behave better than that.

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