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I have been following a program that MSNBC did on internet sexual predators. Specifically Pedophilliacs.
The statistics show that one out of every 5 children who are on line are contacted by a pedo.
That is scarey enough, but they have been doing follow ups to the program. They set up a sting house in D.C. They installed 9 cameras thru the house. In a three day span 19 men arrived at the house expecting to have sex with a 13 to 15 year old female or male.
One actually took all his clothes off in the attached garage and came in nude. The look on their faces was priceless when Chris Hanson came in with the camera crews.
These people were not some lowlife either, one was a highly placed respected Rabbi, an Emergency Room Doctor, A teacher for special ed students. A Sgt. in the Army.
Each and every one of them made the FIRST contact with who they believed was a minor for sex. The conversation rapidly turns sexual, and often graphic with them sending photos, or turning on their webcams.
NOT ONE of them was the age they told the minor they actually were. Each and every one of them was a minimum of 11 years OLDER, the age range from in the 30's to 50's. In the files, there is one who is 70 years old, talking to a 13 year old female for sex. He told her he was in his 50's.
For all you men out there, that complain that women just want to email, and never meet. That you are not a bad guy. That you are telling the truth. Just how do you expect any woman to know that? Just because you said so, does not make it SO. Ted Bundy was a wonderful man, just ask the 37 women he killed, they all trusted him.
Yes, at some point you have to actually meet. However, it certainly isn't after you say HELLO. It don't work that way. Our world is not a safe place some of the people in it are certainly people to avoid. So, if you think you are going to rush to the finish, and leap into bed with someone here or any place else, sight unseen, no history or conversation, your chances are pretty slim.
For anyone that does not believe this happens, here is a link to the best website you will ever find for sexual predators.
You will find entire transcripts, logs of the conversations these men had. Pictures of them, and the arrest record. Believe me it is more than enlightening.
1/2/2006 10:04 am
Way to go Ready!!!! Yep, and men just do not want to hear that!! they think they can say hello, and we are going to run out the door, and leap into bed with them. NOT!!!.|
Somehow the men never seem to realize THEY can be the victim in this!!! I know one man who like you had chatted, exchanged pics, everything, she had said, "Little" extra padding. When he got there, she was so huge, she filled the entire front seat of the car!! A bit more than LITTLE.
Another fella, when he met his lady, she was dirty, unkempt, had poor manners, was loud and caused a whole scene in the restaurant they met in. Men are not invincible either!!! And they darn well should know it. Macho is one thing, but I doubt highly any one male or female is immune to embarassment, anger, and disillusionment!!!.
1/5/2006 1:32 am
Wow I need to find more on this.|
1/7/2006 2:43 am
... I saw the show, too, Lady, and it was an eye-opener! It makes me (and, I am sure, many others) wonder what has happened in our society (societies?) to encourage people to do the ugly things that some of them do.|
... The men who expect women to immediately respond with a romp are nuts! - and, in my view, they're more than just a "probable definite maybe" for being too dangerous for a woman to risk. But, how does a person ever really know? As you recommend, slow and easy with email and phone contact is a good start.
... Men are in the same danger with an unknown woman, too. I would always hope to be able to be in touch from a safe distance through a contact site such as is offered here with the groups, and with email, and then with hearing a voice (more than once), and then with a casual meeting in a public place in mid-day with however-many-other- people-are-needed to put everyone in both a safe context and at ease.
... Sometimes, though, we are going to do everything possible and still be surprised. I had thought that it would be good to go as slowly as possible, and on two different occasions, I had talked with two women for several months before finally meeting - only to find that each was totally diferent than what I had expected. (The original frames around their pictures sure must have had a lot of dust on them.)
... After those experiences, I decided to try to meet as soon as would be comfortable. and that seemed to work much better - the tale was told quickly about what we each were physically. Time was then available to work out other contacts. It was much like meeting through a social group setting (like a church or community group or organization). The alternatives for what to do were all available.
... As for wanting physical intimacy "right now", any man has got to be dumber than a slug to ever hop into bed with a woman without getting to know a bunch of things about her - things that will only come with time and conversations - and with seeing her in her own world for more than just a few meetings.
... For me, time is a great thing to spend on developing whatever relationship is going to be comfortable. The best will work out when nothing is rushed. OHD
1/10/2006 12:05 pm
ok ok ok,|
In defense of SOME guys on this site...
There is something to be said for "in the moment physical intimacy" that I enjoy. I have met people and had sex with them in the same day we first contact each other, but I NEVER do it without trading a few emails and talking on the phone first at the very least.Meeting people in public first is a good idea and I heartily recommend it. I play safe and sane and expect the same from partners.
Some of us, both men and women enjoy the spontaneous hook-up. I sure as hell do, but I'll never bother a woman when she states in her profile she is not looking for that. Why piss her off? Why waste her time and mine? Why bother someone who clearly states they don't want what you are offering? I LOVE it when women are specific in their wants and needs.
There are plenty of women out there who use the same hackneyed bullshit in their profiles as men. I can't count how many women say:
They are as comfortable in high heels as they are hiking boots. Screw it, hike in high heels then.
Love a quiet night at home or going out. Way to cover the bases.
Love fine wine, dining and high culture but become a total whore in the bedroom when the mood is right. Sounds like the escorts I see all the time in the restaurant where I work.
Long walks on the beach, on a moonlit night, by a waterfall or whatever. Someone said, "Why aren't the beaches choked with people out for romantic walks?"
They are typical free spirits. WTF is that supposed to mean? "I'm just like all the other free spirits. Equally annoying and boring, just in a different way from all the other...who?" Ladies, if you're sooooo unique and wild you need to be on ALT.com or some other dating site.
Won't fill out ANY of their sexual interests. I love anal sex, am very good at it (giving and receiving) and am perfectly equipped for it If you don't say, NO ANAL SEX don't get angry if I ask you about it. I can take "no" for an answer but if you're going to freak out on me, at least let me know first.
You know, I've come across quite a few extremely aggressive profiles written by women. One states that, "Sex is an art and only artist should be having sex." C'mon honey, if that were the case the human race would have died out centuries ago. I think some women are doing the opposite of many men. By setting up a profile that is clearly psychotic they are telegraphing their desire to do nothing other than reject men. You know, for the longest time I rejected women because I was an angry young man. Angry because I wasn't getting laid. It's a catch-22. Knock it off.
Women are just as guilty of strange dating practices and expectations as men. I don't think any of you ladies deserve any abuse for being specific in your desires. Men who send you bullshit emails should be reported and removed from this site and others like it. The name of the site is AdultFriendFinder, let's ALL act like adults, not pissed off-horny-ill-mannered-teenagers.
I'd love to learn more about the thing on molesters, I have a kid who will someday be online and I'd like to learn more about protecting him. Could you email me the link? I promise you, I'll expect nothing else in return. Thanks for reading.