THEY don't understand  

MsLoveRose 33F  
2019 posts
1/7/2006 10:03 am

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THEY don't understand

I went to back track my old post and came across a comment from our very lovely papyrina on the blog post I don't want my friends to know where I blog of our very lovely keithcancook. She made a comment about how people outside blog land wouldn’t really understand what we make of this place.

That made me think. Did people in my life think differently or act differently to me?? Are they too judgmental? Would they understand Sunrise? How far into my blog family would I reveal? What would I say? These were just few of the questions that came all at once.

When I think about it, it strikes me as odd that people from all over the world could make my heart melt, make me laugh, make me want to open up and share. I have people that I blog with that I talk to on the phone, share emails, even send snail mail every now and again!! I feel as if these very same people are sometimes closer to me than the people that I see every day. What is behind the drive to be so free and open and in tune with each other here. I find myself asking is this real? Is this experience real??

Its real. I am real, you are real, and this place…with all its ups and downs, is very real. I tried to explain to someone what I like about my family here. He was pretty amazed at the effort and the time we spend giving and taking…riding on each others smiles. Maybe just maybe I will convert him!!!

I know for a fact that not many would understand. I have an aunt that is more than against internet dating. I have a cousin who totally thinks I want to be a nun because I don’t parade my sexual being. If I told my parents about the thought of dating anyone…my mom would expect children and my dad would try to intimidate him!! Its crazy sometimes.


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sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
1/7/2006 10:46 am

I've gotten very close to a few of my blog visitors and indeed we talked on the phoned and snail mailed each other. Those are just simply great


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
1/7/2006 1:42 pm

everyone is where they are...
and that really is perfect in the *big* picture.

i don't think there are any accidents..
we all moved into blogland for a reason...
only time will tell in the *big* picture.

i, for one, am happy you are here {=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/7/2006 1:54 pm

sassy thanks!! its fun!! sooo much fun!!

sexy....when i think about it...my mom would want children asap.....and my dad..well it wouldnt work too well...hes into this intimidating everyone thing!!

live more, laugh often, love much


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
1/7/2006 3:21 pm

i just got back from visiting a friend. she knows all about my activities here, and we had a discussion about love. she is turning 34 this year and thinks she is going to be alone for the rest of her life, so may as well just accept it. i tried to explain to her about some of the amazing older women on here who have not given up on good loving ... she was shocked. i wish she would just give this world a try. we live in a very conservative society, and people have a lot of preconceived notions about why someone would need to be on the internet in the first place, i.e. we must be freaks. in some ways, i think maybe we are "freaks" in that we cannot find likeminded people in our immediate surrounds, but this is really just another way of connecting to other human beings. unfortunately, there are a lot of prejudices to overcome, however, in the world out there. dating via personal ads has never really been viewed in a good light either. but there are all kinds of people, all over the world, now using the internet to communicate with each other and make friends -- not only using dating sites, but games, mailinglists, chatlines etc. in time, i think this way of life will gain more acceptance...

(sorry for hogging your blog -- it's been happening a lot today that i feel like i have nothing to say, until someone here sparks my thoughts. so thank you for sparking me, i think my spark plugs need cleaning or something.)



[blog freelove999]


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/7/2006 6:42 pm

YEAHHHHHH freeee speaks!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/7/2006 6:43 pm

thank you so very much goddess!!

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papyrina 51F
21133 posts
1/7/2006 7:40 pm

communication is the key,in the real so called World we lve up to an ideal and try andlive by that.
How on earth does one coomunicate with your best mate and ask,do you do anal,if so how is it and how do you go about learning it ect

fair enough an extreme question,but here we can ask,not judged and to boost it all given a wonderful array of answers without any ideals to live up too,

hugs hun


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
1/7/2006 9:37 pm

Well, I have shared my blog with two of my friends who are not AdultFriendFinder members....my best male friend and my mate. Outside of this small circle I am not so sure folks would understand what the hell I was up to.

Sharing my feelings and opinions was not encouraged when I was a growing up. Writing this blog has helped me shed some old baggage and like it or not my readers have helped me along the way. How could I not feel attached to some of them?


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
1/8/2006 1:15 am

...and the crazier it seems, the more real it is...


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/8/2006 8:59 am

toothy, you have made a valid point!!!!

aweeee thanks redbird!!!! and i know what you mean....its like wow...they have someting new....i wonder what it is......

papy to be honest.....you are right...and it boost the confidence a bit...to be more bold...and say more!!! sometimes you have to be extra cautious and choose your words right.....but here...its all free open and lots of laughs!!!

live more, laugh often, love much


sleeplessknight1 68M

1/8/2006 2:59 pm

Love the new name.....
you definitely are a Lady... and just like tht great luminary the sun you spread joy and happiness to all those within its circle...

tc


SirluvsStorms 46M
684 posts
1/9/2006 12:08 pm

Im glad you are in my life


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/9/2006 7:09 pm

thank you somuch sleepless....err tc!!!

ohhh sir!!! i see your name and my face lights up!!! you are amazing

tay....sooo good to see you!!! and yeah...i have accepted this much from my dad!!!

live more, laugh often, love much


ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
1/9/2006 7:21 pm

Lady..................When I looked at your profile photo, I swear I saw it wink !! .. Thanks !!

I have a femail friend that I see twice a week at some meetings ....... I have known her for 10 years .. I know that she went through a very painful divorce and several other broken relationships ..... Talking about Sex was always a taboo .... As I got emotionally healthier here in the "blogs" we have gradually become able to joke around a little, about sex ..... Last week, after a meeting, we talked sex for two hours ....... I am sure that neither she nor I are interested in a sexual relationship, but talking about it took away a hidden barrier to our REAL friendship, and and gave us an opportunity to talk about a subject that is an importaint part of both our seperate lives !! ...... I am sure that she senses that I am not so needy now, and as sexually explosive, as I was before I came here !!

Another quick story ...... I ran into a couple that I have known for twenty five years, Sat night .... They both looked good, but she is still a "knockout" ... After talking awhile, I said "Jill, you look as sexy today as you did twenty five years ago ..... Doesn't she Jack?" as I looked toward him .... He agreed with a "Yes" ..... Then I laughed and said to Jack .... "I thought that I would give you an opportunity to get some points ... They sure won't do me any good" !! We all laughed and hugged, and went on our way ................. Four months ago, I would have been lusting for her, and my little comment would have recieved an unpleasant response .. If I could have even felt comfortable enough to say it !!! ..... Point being ..... Blogging here promotes sexual health !! For me !!

Sorry, Sunrise, for running on.!!...................G


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/9/2006 9:31 pm

never running on!!! my space is your space!!!! any day!!! thanks G!!

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MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/9/2006 10:28 pm

welcome traveling...and i can imagine!!!!

i have guys telling me my cousins are hot....and ask if we play together...EEEEEEK!!!

live more, laugh often, love much


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
1/10/2006 11:18 am

It all just is what it is. I'm grateful for having discovered
blogland and yet if you would have told me this is were I would
be when I joined AdultFriendFinder, I would have told you that you were out
of your rapid assed mind!

I will not be posting on Jan. 11 and want you to know
that you are appreciated and loved {=} [post 197664]

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


rm_lvhornytoad 50M

1/10/2006 8:26 pm

They don't understand.... Just as you are currently in this "phase/place/mindset" in your life, so are your coworkers, family, and non blog friends, you just happen to be in a different "stage". I like to think of these types of feelings/events as being BEAUTIFUL. You should feel blessed that you are achieving a level of thinking and feeling that others have not yet attained, possibly never will. You have an understanding of the human condition, so to speak, that makes you who you are...and more than likely, your associations with family, coworkers, etc.. think of you as a friendly, kind, caring person. Just from reading one page of your blog I find myself having similar notions.

Not to philosophize (sp?)...in regards to mom, dad, etc...you have "evolved" beyond their way of thinking. Ask yourself...am I controlled by the conventions of my family or friends or society..the answer possibly is in some ways and no in many others....just as your mom and dad, etc did w/their parents/friends etc..

All that being said, maybe you are the one to "lead/show/open up" to these folks a new way of truly being a human being. Feeling understood is huge, but just as was once said in some book or tv show...."grasshopper..you have learned much, soon you will be a part of the true universe"....it takes time.

You are blessed.


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/11/2006 10:48 am

goddess its always a pleasure to see you here!!!

lvhornytoad ....welcome to Pleasant sensations!!!! lets hope your hunch stays right!!!

waggy i had the passing thought....they have to live and wonder about sex...or live and wonder about the stuff we share here. The fact that they wouldnt understand....makes me think if i really am the only one "thinking outside the box" thanks for the visit!!!

live more, laugh often, love much


_Safira 53F
11260 posts
1/11/2006 12:02 pm

I don't hide who I am from those who love me the most ... It's why they are in my life. All of my friends ... Heck, even my sons know that I blog. Does that mean they know the content? Not always. But many of the things I DO have on my blog end up in either a counseling session ... or a mass "Words from Safira" sort of post. (Hey, I like to provide levity wherever I can ... and sometimes a dose of loving reality.)

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

RECOMMENDED READING: A F F ... The Only Site For Me?


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/11/2006 4:19 pm

thanks safira!!! it works well!!

live more, laugh often, love much


lickityclitf53 63M
167 posts
1/12/2006 5:39 am

It's great to be in blog land with all my new friends, opening up more than I would ever dare in the real world.

Some times it's hard not to tell someone from the real world that I'm writting and having fun doing it, but what would they think, on a sex site no less.The only friend I share the writtings and tales from others here is with a friend that I met here.

This has been a very helpful and healing experience for me as life changes and moves on in new directions.

Thanks to everyone in blog land for the support,inspiration, and friendship.

Keep up the good work, Ladysunrise.


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/12/2006 10:54 am

AWEEEE thanks lickity!! kisses for you

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MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
1/13/2006 9:25 am

aweeeeeeee thanks hyumbold!!! you are awesome!!!

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