For Jen's Benefit... Repost: He's Just Not That Into You.  

LilBlondeNZ 40F
1259 posts
12/10/2005 7:27 pm
For Jen's Benefit... Repost: He's Just Not That Into You.

I just got off the phone with my friend Jen. She's sick it seems. She has a terrible case of "I haven't broken up with my asshole boyfriend because it's almost Christmas"-itis. Here's some medicine for her, and all the other people in the world this month who are stuck spending the holidays with sub-par significant others out of desperation to avoid the sadness that comes with the holidays when youre alone...

I hear ya. I understand. Ive been there. I'm so sorry youre in a crappy relationship. Makes you want to hide under the tree like your cat. It sucks. And when you know you're not getting that ring you want for Christmas, and you know you'll just end up arguing on the way home from his parents house... it sucks. Sometimes settling for mediocrity really is better than being alone, but the New Year is almost here. You're almost free! Break up with him before you're on the hook for Valentine's Day as well.

You know what your New Year's Resolution should be Here's some inspiration, honey! This Repost of "He's Just Not That Into You" should kick you in the ass. You can do it!!!


1. "If He's Not Calling You, He's Just Not that Into You"

He forgot his phone=bullshit.

He didn't get your voicemail=bullshit.

He accidentally erased your number in his call log=bullshit.

He forgot to call=bullshit.

He fell asleep=bullshit.

If he wants to talk to you, he will. If he doesn't call, he didn't want to talk to you that badly.

2. "If He's Not Asking You Out, He's Just Not That Into You"... e.g.

"He's just shy"= bullshit excuse (plus means he has no balls)

"There's No Reason A Girl Can't Ask a Guy To Hang Out"= bullshit wrapped in pseudo-feminism.

"He Just Got Out Of A Relationship"=bullshit

"He's Not Really Looking For A Serious Relationship"= He's not looking for a serious relationship with you.

Guys run most countries and corporations. They can pick up a friggin phone and say "Let me take you out Saturday night". And if he can't, he's a pussy and doesn't deserve you. Or he just doesn't care.

3. "If He's Married/ Engaged/ Has a Girlfriend/ Is living with someone/ Has someone else on his mind... He's Just Not That Into You"

If he wanted to be with you, he would be. End of story. Stop making excuses for his lameness. Find someone else who is free to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Stop settling for afternoon trysts in motel rooms, and going out to dinner the on February 13th or February 15th.

4. "If He Broke Up With You, He's Just Not that Into You"

"He's just scared of commitment"= usually bullshit, and if he truly is a commitmentphobe- he needs to work out his underlying issues on his own. Plus he's pussy.

"He Made a Mistake"= Yes, he did. The mistake was that he didn't appreciate you and forgot to figure out that there wasnt anyone else out there better than you BEFORE he broke up with you. Now he's looked around, can't find anyone else that will put up with him, and wants to come home. Do you really want to be that girl? No.

5. "If You Want To Tie The Knot, and He's Dragging His Feet, He's Just Not That Into You"

"He doesn't believe in marriage"= bullshit. And do you really want to be with someone so cyncial?

"He is divorced, and doesn't want to go through that again" = bullshit. If he really thought he wanted to be with you forever, it wouldn't be an issue because the possibility of a second divorce would be remote in his mind. Editor's Note: I say that all the time- it means "I don't think you're someone I could want to be with forever"

"Financially it's just not feasible"= bullshit. People in 3rd world countries who's yearly income is $23 get married all the time.

When a man is truly in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life by your side, nothing will stand in his way. If he doesn't want to get married (or specifically marry you), and you want to settle down, move on.

6. "If He Doesn't Want To Have Sex With You, He's Just Not That Into You."

"He's just tired" = bullshit. I can see a night here or there after working a particularly long day, but 3 months? Come on now.... He's not in love with you anymore, or he's cheating on you. Or both.

"I've Gained Some Weight/ Got Bad Haircut/ Insert Any Other Low Self Esteem Excuse Here" = bullshit. If you gained 50 pounds, maybe there would be an issue. If you had disfiguring burns to 80% of your body, maybe. But if a guy loves you and really thinks you're hot- he will not be able to keep his hands off you.

"He has issues with intimacy" = usually bullshit. And let him work out his issues on his own, not on your time. Find someone else who can't get enough of you.

If he's in love with you, and you give him the green light, you'll be having sex. All the time. Period. You'll spend entire days in bed. You'll call in sick to work. You'll forget to eat, and even then you'll order pizza delivery. I mean come on.... these are MEN you're dealing with.

Women of the world. Stop making excuses. He's either into you, or he's not. If he's not, just admit it to yourself and move on. Not every guy I meet is into me. Do I call him 10 times to change his mind? No. Fuck'im. Do I email him? No. Do I text him all day? No. Because if he wanted me, he knows where to find me.

When a guy is into you, you know it. You never have to wait for a call. You never have to ask "When do you want to hang out?". Maybe this sounds anti-feminist, but it's not. It a word to all women to stop debasing your self worth for a relatioship that's less than true. You deserve better.

If he's "just not that into you", accept it, and get over it.

Find someone new.

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

12/10/2005 9:31 pm

Wow thats some post
does your friend have a blogg
silky xxxxxxxxxxx

digdug41 49M

12/10/2005 10:11 pm

well blonde you pretty much hit it on the head with that one I hope the ladies in blogland take heed to it.

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

Kimmers777 106F

12/10/2005 10:31 pm

The underlying theme is "Let go of your own low self esteem and stand up for yourself."

Very well put. I hope it doesn't fall on deaf ears.

kyplowboy22 61M

12/11/2005 8:48 am

*flips coin and looks hard at other side*

"She's just not that in to you if: ditto

Later and hoping you have a great Holiday Season.


LIBlonde97 40F
1028 posts
12/11/2005 10:44 am


I replied...No problem! Hope it helps!


LIBlonde97 40F
1028 posts
12/11/2005 10:46 am


Yes absolutely, for most of these things... you can just substitute "she" for "he" and it holds true...


klauskissnhug 57M

12/11/2005 1:55 pm

Excellent summary of most of the bullshit we sling. It sounded distinctly male- I'm not sure it holds very well flipping the gender of the personal pronoun.

ptfreak 55M

12/12/2005 9:45 pm

truth: the best humor of all. I'm glad I clicked onto your blog from sj365's site. good intel. I'm going to go off somewhere and work on myself. It's hard to look at oneself in the mirror you have presented and not see the truth: I'm a Pussy. Probably because I'm laughing so hard. I hope that's a good sign. At least I can laugh at myself. Thanks, I needed a good slap in the face to help me wake up....

slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
12/18/2005 12:29 am

Hi ya...LIBlonde97...I'm a whole lot late on this I spent far too many years with someone...and once we broke up...I realized... he just wasn't that into me. Now, I know what signals to watch for...cuz I sure as hell don't want to repeat it. Very good post. I think you totally hit the nail on the head.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

lbkenny4 50M

12/19/2005 2:55 pm

Very entertaining post.

rm_coyote1871 44M

12/22/2005 5:17 pm

God help us men if all the women were to take her advice, I think she's on to us!!

bangingmyhead 54M
157 posts
12/30/2005 4:42 pm

LIBlonde97, you have one thing wrong - never, and I mean NEVER settle for mediocrity. I'd rather be with my dogs than someone that I just tolerate.

CuriousAries67 49F

1/3/2006 9:05 pm

Awesome post. I found it because a friend of mine pointed me in the direction of Bulge's blog. There I saw the wonderful news about the two of you. Best wishes to you both. ~aries

JJKittyKat 59F

1/11/2006 9:54 am

I read the book "he just not that into you" just before Christmas, it is a real wake up call to women everywhere

rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
1/16/2006 10:55 pm

GREAT POST .... you rock! {=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

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