KinkyGhoul 29F
26 posts
3/6/2006 4:24 pm

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5/27/2006 12:20 am


How important should looks be to a person? Many people send me emails and I am just horrible with trying to tell them that I am not interested. I never know if I should judge a person based on looks because well they could be wonderful in bed. Sorry, I flash back to the movie Nerds where the cheerleader sleeps with the nerd. Yeah... I just dont know sometimes. I need to be more honest. Anyways, I am sick so back to bed for little me.


49AK 55M
1823 posts
3/6/2006 5:19 pm

Lemme ask you a question...

What's wrong with saying to someone that you're not physically attracted to them?

Of course, there are a lot of people out there that will tell you that there is a lot more to it than looks... but if you can't do it, is there really something wrong with that? As long as you're compassionate and honest, and not mean... being nice goes a long way to making the other person feel better about it.

"Thanks for the email. I think that you're not really what I am looking for. But thanks, and good luck with your search..."

playtime44uandi 52M
6545 posts
3/29/2006 5:37 pm

When i'm not attracted to someone that is attracted to me, I use the line an old ex used to use. " I'm just not feeling any chemestry here ". Its a nice way of saying, I'm just not feeling it.

~We'll Leave The Light On~

BawdyNieceRiper 52M

5/9/2006 11:14 pm

Remember that old saw about not being able to judge a book by it's cover? My answer to that is "That might be true but it is the first thing you see." It is after all what attracts your attention first. I personally have a few things going against me here. I'm about 50 lbs overweight and due to my age I am beginning to find signs of arthritis in the knees and ankles. However I will not let that stop me. I'll just keep marching along.

rm_LadyBear6561 37M

5/11/2006 7:19 pm

I do agree with what NoiUulli says about looks, Ghoul; there's always more to a person than just their outside appearance, but that's how we determine our first impressions of people. Communication is more about how something is said (expressed), rather than what is said; and that applies to physicality as well.

I read over the other peoples' advice on here, and I do agree that looks are only the "tip of the iceberg". But without them, what would attract your attention to that iceberg in the first place?

Don't forget, you can always ask a person who you are slightly unsure about for a second photo; perahps one that is more flattering or gives a greater expression of their personal interests. You may find something worthwhile that you missed out on earlier.

And don't worry about hurting people's feelings; I don't believe in "that there's someone for everybody", but there sure are enough people here online to bait their attention away after a simple, yet knid, rejection from you.

turq6969 69M
553 posts
5/19/2006 11:33 pm

KinkyGhoul, like the to previous Gents said you can't judge a book by its cover, then you say how would you know, because they could have been good in bed. You'll never know anything about them, other than they reached out to contact you and you pushed them aside. You could chat with them or email them before forming an opinion on looks alone. If you judge a person by his/her looks, you might indicate that in your profile. Like "I may not respond to you if your appearance is not appealing to me."

Keep on blogging, I am enjoying getting to know you.

Peace and Love,

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