Gotta Ask This...  

Kassie1971 45F
4 posts
7/7/2006 7:00 am

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7/17/2006 7:09 am

Gotta Ask This...

I got this great friend and we see each other. Sometimes we have sex and sometimes we don't. But we've discussed the sexual side a lot. He has told me not to be sleeping around its not safe, its not cool, and etc. He is right its not cool and he is helping to change my ways, which is very nice of him. I do agree with him 100% but here is the kicker. I've told a few friends what he is "helping" me do and they think that he is out screwing all these chicks and I'm supposed to not have sex with anyone but him. Which is far from the truth and I've told these 2 people but they can't see that he cares enough to help me stop being the way I was. He came into the room one day never said a word to either of these ladies and they both attacked him in the room. He was in flash chat trying to talk to the one chick to get her to stop, but she continued on in the main room saying stuff. Now I trust him 100% and I believe him I've known him longer than both ladies and I understand what he is saying. Took me the longest time to understand what he meant but I finally got it. So after all this, I decide in my profile to take a break from meeting new people and to just work on me. Which I am doing I'm getting back to me and just having good clean fun. Hanging out with friends and stuff like that. I just wanted to let people know that he ain't a bad guy at all, he is super sweet and wonderful. Now I won't reveal his nickname in here cause its personal but to the people on here that think they know me then they will understand and if not then fuck them!

rm_honda_02 69M
50 posts
7/7/2006 7:52 am

I am with you Kassie, if they don't understand--then fuck'em.

rm_connor696 60M
834 posts
7/7/2006 8:09 am

It seems to me that "sleeping around" is neither cool nor uncool. It's just a way of behaving, of acting in the world. Why you do that will be the issue, yes? I mean, if you just love sex, love people, love being with people, and love having sex with them, then--as long as everyone is honest and respectful--it's all good. And if you're doing it as a way of compensating for something--feelings of powerlessness, say, or low self-esteem--those feelings won't go away just because you stop having sex. I mean, even if the sex contributes to those feelings, as it might with low self-esteem, it won't be the only or even the main issue. at least that's how I see it, for what that's worth.

As for you're friend, well no good deed goes unpunished. But it's cool to have friends and cool when you defend your friends. The others are just wankers!

Good luck

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