The Division Factor  

Kaliedascope61 41M
3157 posts
7/6/2006 1:48 pm

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The Division Factor

I have judged, and even though I was correct in my judgment, I was a little too quick in my reaction. I believe there are times when you get punched, and when you swing back wildly that you miss. You miss the point and didn't stop to figure out why you got hit in the first place.

Words have that power, they are able to bust your lip, and blacken your eye if you're not careful. Sometimes I need it. I have come to learn that hindsight is 20/20, took me awhile and looking back I should have learned it sooner.

Some of the best friends I have ever had came through fights, close friendships forged through fists and harsh words and finally finding respect in the fact that knowing where someone stands with you is everything.

I'll get to my point now. I received a couple of comments a while back that I viewed as rude and totally off the point and couldn't help but respond in a way that was just as rude. Looking around the blogs, and seeing his comments on other blogs I came to the conclusion that you know for certain where you stand with this man. He doesn't waiver, you will get it from him straight and if you're sensitive to criticism he will cut you deeply with his words.

To me it's all about perspective, I don't know him, and he is an asshole by my definition of the word. But the more I read his comments the more I'm starting to agree with him. I found myself respecting him which was really quite a shock to me. He hasn't been back to my blog since I was rude to him, I wouldn't have come back either. In any case, I hope that he does.

It took me awhile to understand that people who give it to you straight, that dare to be honest, who will tell you what they think with out emotion, are needed. I have a ton of questions for this man, if I do another interview it will be with him, that is if he agreed. By far, I think he is the most controversial and interesting person on these blogs.

division77 I don't like you, and what you might have to say sometimes makes me cringe, but I respect you, I know where you stand.



SmallTightKitty2 105F

7/6/2006 3:40 pm

WOW Kalie...powerful!!!!

Division...I know you as a real man from your comments, please don't let me down, shake hands like men do.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:33 am:
Division will do what he wants to, he was well aware I was writing this, so hands have already been shook.

akron42   
2375 posts
7/6/2006 4:10 pm

It takes a real man to see his choices for what they are, his mistakes AND his victories. You are such a man!


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:33 am:
You learn, you grow, you move on.

moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
7/6/2006 4:26 pm

There must be something in the water in Blogville this week..hmmm...

It takes a real human to acknowledge when they're wrong or when they've changed their opinion of someone else...it so rarely happens these days.

DIVISION77 is definitely a man of his words and his words have brought me out of my shell, for which I owe a debt of thanks as well. You may not agree, but you always know where you stand with him. If not, just ask and he'll tell ya.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:35 am:
I havn't changed my opinion of him, He is not easy to take, I'm sure he will agree with me there. But I do have respect for him, even if I don't like him very much, funny how that works isn't it?

champagnechaser 41F
1639 posts
7/6/2006 4:42 pm

You're the man, Kalie

I completely agree with you on this, he is who he is, he is most certainly not nice in his comments to others, but at least he tells it straight like he sees it. No pussy footin around. I hope to see that interview soon.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:36 am:
Its all about perspective, I realized that it might not seem nice, but maybe in a flipped sort of way nicness is telling the truth, maybe nice hurts sometimes? make sense?

HBowt2 58F

7/6/2006 5:43 pm

I keep hiding my blog in the trees so he doesnt find it....he scares me...


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:38 am:
If you look at some of his comments after reading whatever the blog topic was about, it usually has the ring of the cold hard truth in it.

ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
7/6/2006 10:29 pm

Kalie - For this, I respect you more than you might guess. Thank you for being willing to grow.

Artistic


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:40 am:
Thats what living and learning is all about. His comments remind me of a close friend of mine, I can see my buddy saying alot of the same things Division does, looking at it that way made me rethink my opinion of him.

ButteryDelight 58F

7/6/2006 11:16 pm

Not one of us knows everything. So, we all make mistakes. Owning up to them and then getting back to the business at hand is important.

Some people never admit to their mistakes. I am impressed that you did.

Buttery Delight


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:42 am:
I believe my mistake was in my reaction, and holding a little grudge against a man I don't know, still don't know, and probably never will know. I can respect a man who is consistant in what he says, and his belief in his own values, even if they differ than my own.

sweetSinn2690
2943 posts
7/6/2006 11:53 pm

    Quoting HBowt2:
    I keep hiding my blog in the trees so he doesnt find it....he scares me...
Now that.....IS FUNNY!.....lololol

HB i lova ya girl!!


Oh WHATEVER BITCHES!


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/7/2006 5:42 am:
That made me laugh too!

rm_gwalker_oh 55M
54 posts
7/7/2006 6:13 am

You're right on track, bro'! Keep it up (no pun, goddamit!)

My evolution may be proceeding like yours. I've been realizing that I need to change my profile pretty drastically, partly on what I've learned about this medium, but moreover on what I've learned about myself. It's all about the blogs! And as one charming country girl mzhunyhole put it somewhere, "who'd'a thunk it, on a sex site!", or words to that effect.

In fact it was this very evolution which made me wonder what gems may be available from some of the men here, which is how I stumbled upon your post.

Yeah. I don't get into fist fights as often as you do, but I damn-well know what you're talking about.

I count myself extremely lucky, for I work with a group of people, mostly men, who have understood this principle for years. We have sharp disagreements from time to time, naturally, even necessarily. We've learned to tell it like it is, pull no punches, but on a backdrop of mutual respect and trust. Our willingness to "fight", in this honest way, only adds to the respect. We keep our common goals in focus, and when we have individual successes, we're glad for each other. What's good for one is ultimately good for all.

Anyhow, Kudos! Carry on, brother. -G.W.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:49 pm:
I havn't thrown a fist since I was a teen, but I will stick up for myself, or I might turn the other cheek, It all depends if it is worth fighting for.

digdug41 49M

7/7/2006 11:25 am

DIV is an aquired taste but I think he is honest like a five year old is honest and dont give a fuck if ya like him or not but I can understand where ya coming from kalie we're not all gonna get along but it is better to be straight up than being wishy washy about your shit and for that I dig him alot coz he is straight up no chaser for real

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:50 pm:
Your absoultly right, he is an aquired taste.

meerkittykat 42F

7/7/2006 10:30 pm

Yeah, I guess so.

One can be honest and tactful all at once. A novel theory.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:50 pm:
Thats how I try to be, one thing he does lack is tact!

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

7/8/2006 7:21 am

Nice post! This was deep and well thought out. It takes guts when we speak what is really on our minds.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:51 pm:
Its diffucult though to put it in away that isn't complimentary to him or degrading and thats what I tried to do. I still do not like the man.

rm_verriberri 78F
1849 posts
7/8/2006 10:04 am

Good comments. His is one of the few blogs I visit regularly, and if he comments, I smile at the precision of his perspective. I think of it as an honest and distilled vision. You will find hundreds who will blow smoke at you - if you're lucky.... very very lucky.. you will find a few who'll actually communicate their genuine and deliberate truth. As a sidenote, I smile when I note that 2 of my 3 bestfriends are people that I disliked intensely at the start. -v


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:53 pm:
I couldn't stand my best friend for a long long time, and everytime we got together our blood boiled, it was through common interests and strength of personality that finally turned us into friends.

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
7/8/2006 12:17 pm

Seems like an epiphany of sorts Kal...and I never minded Div, he's always straight-up


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:54 pm:
straight up now tell me!

I always think of Paula Abdul when people say that!

BaronessK 52F

7/9/2006 3:52 am

What is that old saying, Kali...hold your friends close and your enemies closer? Thing is, you can only have an enemy when there is hate; and once you have understanding of another person, there can rarely be hate. I'm glad 2 of my favorite bloggers are getting along...or whatever we call it here in Blogland!

I have seen people go out of their way to NOT be noticed by DIV; me, I post semi-regularly on his blog {as I do yours and what other few that I have on my watched list}. I like trying to yank his chain {I know I can't, but I luv trying! }

Like you, I know where he stands; and that's what counts the most with me in 'knowing' a person. I actually like him, although he is such a strong personality {to put it mildly}. Like I told mzhuny and Wild -- DIV is DIV. He makes me think; he makes me laugh {yes, really}. So do you, Kali.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:56 pm:
I thought about that saying when I was writing this, and then I saw a commercial for superman and thought...

If I was superman, I want Division to be Lex Luthor.

MOfunNOWWOW 55F

7/9/2006 11:03 am

    Quoting HBowt2:
    I keep hiding my blog in the trees so he doesnt find it....he scares me...
No need to hide H. He has commented on mine and yours is so much more than my mindless blog and although he wasn't loving he isn't mean he just is real and refreshing. Great post Kalie! {=}


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/9/2006 1:56 pm:
Thanks for stopping by with the jello jigglers!

Drofpussology4u 59M  
4843 posts
7/9/2006 6:36 pm

We all can see things differently. I agree that this man is abrasive and I do not like him. That is about the extent of it. Some people may like a fight and a challenge. I just come on here to have discussions and make love. I could care less about what some bitter, angry person has to say. My perception could be wrong, my mind is open. I do not seek to disrespect anyone here, nor, do I seek to be disrespectful. There is a difference between being assertive and honest and aggressive and disresptful. I find this man to be aggressive. To me aggression means being honest and straight forward but caring for other's feelings. Assertion means being honest and straight forward but respecting other people's feelings. That is what I find lacking from this man div77. I have the option not to communicate with people whom I perceive as aggressive and disrespectful. I am taking this option in his case. Peace to all.

DeeepPenaTrayR "The Pussologist"[blog DeeepPenaTrayR]


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/12/2006 6:06 am:
I see where you are coming from, I have a lot of those same views.

lovemetouchme5 51F
2102 posts
7/9/2006 9:46 pm

Want to know something funny? Before I got to the end of your post, I knew exactly who you were talking about! He is definitely sharp tongued, and says exactly what's on his mind. His comment on my post a long time ago was very brutal. At the time, I was new to blogland, and was taken back by his harsh words. Now when I see his comments (on other's posts) I let it go in one eye and out the other. He is going to voice his opinion, and no matter what you say to him, he will not change. Now this is NOT in defense to him! I don't like his comments, I just ignore him. I have other people that I know care about what I have to say and comment accordingly. That's what matters to me! Besides, he's never been back to my blog since!


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/12/2006 6:13 am:
He does have a in your face way.

rm_turtleBurp 44F
1273 posts
7/10/2006 2:57 am

To be honest, i think he just does it for the attention. I don't mind his comments on my blog, they kinda make me laugh. Thing is tho, every comment he's ever made on there has just proved that he's either not read my post properly, or has read it and totally misinterpreted what i mean... s'pose that's not difficult tho cos like i'm english eh.
I find it a bit difficult to respect anyone's opinion on something when we're not even talking about the same subject. I've never been to his blog and don't intend to cos to be honest, i find him kinda lame.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/12/2006 6:10 am:
I've noticed that too.

qyxx 59F
3267 posts
7/30/2006 12:42 pm

Even thought I don't care for some of what Div says sometimes, I do like his blog and his honesty. That is his position and to hell with political correctness. He can be rather abrasive at times, but sometimes he is saying what others are also thinking.

I am sure at some point he will make a comment on my blog that I will not care for. I will deal with when the time comes.

Q.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 7/30/2006 12:49 pm:
I feel pretty much the same way you do about it. Thanks for stopping by and leaving me a comment.

DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
7/31/2006 5:50 pm

Alot of honest comments.

I can respect people for voicing their honest opinions.

I do believe there are some people who can take me and some who cannot.

In that same fashion, there are people who I gravitate toward and others whom I choose not to associate with for various reasons.

I have learned what works for me in terms of communication.

I would rather someone be straight with me, brutally honest even, rather than spare any ounce of genuine thought for the sake of my feelings.

I want to know exactly what it is a person thinks.

No filter.

It won't hurt me, if anything, it will give me a broader realization of perspective.

I need it real because I can't stand the complacency of PC.

Tact is not one of my strong points, and I realize that.

I'm learning how to deal with people on their level, taking their considerations (emotions) in to account.

It's going to take time.

I realize that many on here are run by their emotions, so they color me how they want to, and I'm fine with that.

I am not something for the masses, nor will I ever be.

I am not user-friendly.

I am genuine, though.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


Kaliedascope61 replies on 8/1/2006 8:47 am:
The good thing about blogs is that you can comment on a wide range of topics and get involved in a lot of conversations, so gets easy to see many different sides of people when at first you only thought they had one.

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