Is There Such A Thing as an HONEST Man???  

KS_sex_kitten 53F
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9/15/2005 2:29 pm

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Is There Such A Thing as an HONEST Man???

I just don't know why men can't be honest with what they are wanting when they meet you and talk with you. I mean if they only want you for sex and nothign else then just tell us women that. I mean women have sexual needs too. I knwo from my own experience that if I know up front that the guy wants no emotional attachment what so ever with me I can keep my feelings locked up but if he tells me he is starting to care for me and gives you other indications that he cares for you as a person and a woman and not just as a sex object then the walls around my heart come down. And when the walls are knocked down then that is when my heart become svulnerable and men end up hurting me which makes me become a bitch.

I don't liek being a bitch. I want to find a man that I can give my love to and who will in return give me his. I don't think that is too much to ask. Yes I know this is a sex site but I know just as I am searchign for someone to love and spend my life with there is a man on here that is doing the same and if and when we meet the earth will open up for us and fireworks will go off.

Until then the walls are going back up around my heart and I am locking it up and throwing away the key. I am tired of being hurt so if I expect nothign then I cant be hurt.

I just wish men would stop and think what they are doing when they lead women on.

ByteChaser2 53M

9/15/2005 4:30 pm

Yes... and no... And honestly, it's reciprocal. There's nothing like the blow to a mans sense of freedom and independance when a woman he's been casually dating for 3 weeks suddenly starts seeding wedding planner brochures and wallpaper samples around his home... and without any overt indication that she's *serious*.

I know, I know... That's a pretty extreme example but isn't it also extreme to arbitrarily categorize [all] men as pathological liars?

Look, all I'm saying is that ALL people (men and women alike) have, do or eventually will, lie. Trick is to see the lie, get past it and move on.

And as to your building your walls... it's like I always say: You cant win if you dont play! Don't hole up just cuz someone lied to you!

RailBaron2 54M

9/15/2005 4:51 pm

Hi KS Sex Kitten,Yes there is such a thing as a Honest & open man
Don't take my word for it- go to my blog & read all I've posted
You can go to my profile & read it to. Like you I have been Hurt
& its taken many years to reach out & trust.i know you are too far away from me But know Yes There are Honest men out here. Jim

KS_sex_kitten 53F

9/15/2005 7:43 pm

Yeah maybe I was a little harsh when I lumped all men in that category. But it seems I only seem to find the men that cant or dont know how to be honest with a woman. I mean yes this is a sex site and we are all open to sex. But please dont tell me you want to keep seeing me and that you are very interested in me as a person until we have sex and then tell me you are still really interested and want a relationship of a sorts a little more than just sex but not serious and then never call me again. I mean just be honest up front that you only want sex and then it will be my decision if we do or not. If I know up front what you want them I wont let my guard down and I wont get hurt even though Im not sure how much of a heart I have left to hurt.

My69isDevine 63M

9/19/2005 2:39 pm

I love that expression. I know each of us has a concept of normalcy. I don't imagine we can ever make a concensous on what normal is. I do understand what you mean though. It is so much easier to see the obtuse and think about it not being normal. That is my concept anyways. I do love the way you express about your wants, needs and desires. I would have to feel that all of those are normal. I hope most of us are looking for the type of relationship that you are talking about. It is so important to me to have somebody to be with me, beside me, and stand behind me.

rm_EnoughHeaven 50F

9/28/2005 4:42 pm

There was one JESUS

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