Okay.... that one didn't do it.  

KDR305 46M/46F
247 posts
1/1/2006 10:14 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Okay.... that one didn't do it.

47 views of my first post, with only 1 response.

Am I to honestly believe that no one else felt compelled to say anything?

Maybe my second post (which I've deleted) sent a weird message to some of you. It was intended to be tongue-in-cheek for the most part, but as I re-read it, it occured to me that you folks don't know me well enough yet to know where I'm coming from at any given moment.

So let's switch gears for a moment, and let me talk about something near and dear to me. My sex life.

My wife and I have been together since 1993. We were married in '95 and went through an 8 month seperation a few years ago.

There was a period when I thought I was NEVER going to have a satisfying sex life ever again. My wife's desire's and mine were just totally opposite for quite a while. It was really frustrating, because I'm absolutely in love with and commited to her. I knew I couldn't cheat, but masturbation was getting really old.

You know what I did? I started talking to her about sex whenever I felt like it. If I had a sexy dream about her, I would tell her all about it at the first opportunity. When she wears something sexy (which is most of the time) I make a point to mention it.

When I do this, she usually acts like it annoys her. As though I'm being crass or immature, but over the past 6 months or so, our sex life has improved dramatically. I chalk it up to the fact that I've opened the lines of communication.

A few weeks ago I bought her a huge, lifelike dildo. I have a decent-sized cock (if I do say so myself) and this thing is at least twice as thick as mine and a little bit longer. It's not a toy for everyday use, but I had a feeling she'd like to know it was there when she wanted it.

Just the fact that I was willing to buy it for her seemed to turn her on. That one act seems to have finally shown her what I've been saying all along.

I want us to have fun with our sexuality. I never want for there to be anything negative about sex in our lives. It isn't something to be shunned or shied away from. It's something to be embraced and celebrated.

I'm looking forward to hearing from like-minded people on this site.

Ladies: If there is something missing from your sex life, I implore you; TELL HIM. Most of us are willing and able to do whatever your heart (or your clit) desires, but we're not mind-readers. We don't have to benefit of an editing booth to loop our moves over and over like the guys in the movies. We can't just mindlessly pound away at you for 45 minutes. Not if we feel something for you. The more we love you, the better it feels.

And there is simply NO better feeling in the world than when you've given your lady a good orgasm. It's the greatest feeling there is.

So, talk to us. Tell us what you want and what you don't want. Talk dirty. Be filthy if you want to. Just COMMUNICATE. We will respond, I promise.

And Guys: Many of you need to realize one very important thing. Your orgasm should be the LAST thing on your mind during sex.

There are a few reasons why. The first is: the more focused you are on YOUR orgasm, the sooner it will arrive and the likelihood of your lady getting off is diminished substantially. Second; if you ever want to earn the title "Lover", you must realize that a real man knows that his job is to service his woman. If you ever reach the point where your orgasm is secondary to hers, you're on your way. By that I mean that at the commencement of sex you don't even care if you cum or not. All you want to do is make her feel good. You want her to relax and forget about her cares. You want her to focus her entire being on the one spot your are touching or licking or rubbing. You want to connect with her in a way that can only come from being totally focused on her pleasure.

If you can get to that place, she will give you orgasms like you never thought possible. You will unlock passions in her that SHE didn't even know she had.

And if all of us; Women and Men, could achieve the two minor points I've laid out here....

Just imagine the results.

A man who is totally focused on pleasing his woman, and a woman who is comfortable enough to give him the direction and instruction he's wishing for.

The porn industry would take a major hit! Ha ha. We'd all be living our fantasies. No one would need to hide behind alcohol or drugs as an excuse to get nasty.

I've been with my Wife for 12 years and the sex just keeps getting better, so I know what I'm talking about.

Come on folks, talk to me!

imBambi 58M/50F

1/1/2006 11:53 pm


Just my opinion... your blogs are excellent. They are well written, informative, and the opinions that you express are well supported. The topics are most appropriate. That's the good news.

The bad news is... in my experience, many of the readers do not want to read anything too long. Often, they will scroll down and check to see what the length of the article/poem is. If it is more than 500 - 700 words, they will skip it and go on to the next one. When they do this, the "number of readers" will be falsely high (the number of readers actually reflects the number of people who opened your blog - not the number that actually read it).

By the way, tips for writing blogs and articles are offered on this site. (Basically it says to keep the readers attention by making your writings short - in parts if you have to - and to use plenty of spacing (paragraphs).

Hope this helps...

"Mr. Bambi"

KDR305 46M/46F

1/2/2006 1:21 am


I'll take your word for it for now..... but so far it seems like I'm attracting a bunch of readers with no opinions.

Thanks so much for your reply... it meant a lot.

KDR305 46M/46F

1/3/2006 4:04 pm

Yeah... I can be pretty long-winded. Thanks for the tips!

KDR305 46M/46F

1/3/2006 4:05 pm


Thanks for checking back.... I'll give that a try.

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