Freedom..... of a kind  

KDR305 46M/46F
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1/26/2006 8:05 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Freedom..... of a kind

Have you ever felt stuck in a particular circumstance, even though you know you could get out of it pretty easily?

That's where I am with my job these days. I've been with this company for about a year now, and I'm truly beginning to wonder how much more time I should invest in it. I'm constantly being asked if not told to work below my capabilities. Being that I worked very hard for 12 years to become very good at what I do, and that they hired me based on my resume...... I can't figure out why I'm constantly being told to "dumb it down".

I left a job several years ago with a top-notch company. When I left I was informed that I always have a job there, all I need to do is call.

I know this other company would at least match my current hourly rate, if not bump it up a little to get me back. The benefits are nearly identical between the 2.

Here's the rub.

My 8 year old daughter is going to have (yet another) major surgery on February 15. More on this at a later date. It's a very long involved story that will have to come out in bits and pieces.

Suffice it to say that I feel like now is not the time to make such a drastic change. Yet I sorely miss feeling appreciated and being challenged on a daily basis. I absolutley abhor just going through the motions.

Add to the mix the fact that I'm due for a raise and have been hinted that a promotion is on the way, it only serves to add more question marks to an already frustrating situation.

My wife quit her job to be home with our daughter. We had to take her out of school several months ago to ensure that she didn't get sick before the surgery. The past several months have been mostly dedicated to getting her and us ready for the surgery.

So I am our sole source of income, which means that security is key. Yet both companies have stellar reputations and plenty of work on the books.

My current plan is to just bide my time for now. Wait and see what happens over the next 2 or 3 months. If the promotion doesn't happen, or if things don't change in my day to day duties.... I suppose I'll make the move sometime in the spring.

I'd love any input you folks might have for me.

Food for thought and all that.

caressmewell 53F

1/27/2006 4:52 am

It seems that you already have a game plan. If you make a job change it could affect your insurance (pre-existing condition) plus the additional stress changes can bring. I would keep things as they are until after the surgery and her recovery. Just my thoughts.

zebra_buggy 31F

1/27/2006 5:45 am

I would agree that staying and biding your time is the logical choice. It allows you to maintain the emotional and financial stability your family requires at the moment. If the promotion pans out, the choice will have been that much better. If it does not, you can always jump ship. Continue to devote the bulk of your resources to your family. Stay well.


KDR305 46M/46F

1/28/2006 2:31 pm

Let the universe work for me a little. I like that.

KDR305 46M/46F

1/28/2006 2:33 pm


Yes, I do have a game plan. I guess I was just looking for a little reassurance that my vision isn't clouded by everything that's going on.

Thanks for your input.


KDR305 46M/46F

1/28/2006 2:35 pm


Thanks for your words. I'm sure you're right.

Right now is not the time to get antsy.


KDR305 46M/46F

1/29/2006 6:46 pm


I couldn't agree more! When I was in my early 20's I heard a story that supposedly quotes a well known physician. The gist of his comments can be summed up in the last line of the story:

"I never heard anyone on their death-bed say: "I wish I had spent more time at work."

I'm less concerned about being defined by my career than I am concerned about feeling like the time I spend at work is worthwhile and enjoyable. I am not someone who believes that our avocation should always feel like "work".

Sometimes (if not most of the time) we should feel glad, and lucky when we climb out of bed to be going to a job that we truly enjoy.

That's the thought process that led me to start this post.

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