When the Babe Magnet Phenomenon Hits Full Force  

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1/5/2006 5:18 am

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When the Babe Magnet Phenomenon Hits Full Force

The Babe Magnet Phenomenon

What is it? What causes it? How to deal with it. How to stop it. How to hide from it.

All of us have had some firsthand scrape with the mysterious and somewhat inexplicable babe magnet phenomenon. Whether as the magnet istelf or as one or many of the multiple and quite numerous "babe" iron filings which the magnet helplessly draws towards it.

The babe magnet phenomenon often strikes without warning and can happen to anyone regardless of race, gender or sexual orientation. It has no requirement that the particular individual suddenly struck or afflicted posess what might be called "traditional good looks". But the basic premise can most easily be explained by defining the two extremes of it's "on and off" states.

The Famine
There are periods of time when, no matter what you might do nobody seems interested in you sexually.

The Feast
And then there is the complete other end of the spectrum (not rectum) in which you cannot turn a corner without someone fully sexually throwing themsleves at you. Any which way you might try to go you cannot avoid some irresistably sexy thing chasing you down and not being able to take no for an answer. You seem terminally trapped in this realm and there appears to be no way out.

Science itself has yet to make any accurate determinations as to exactly what causes "the feast" end of the babe magnet phenomenon to occur and even when doing the most rigorous varieties of double blind/placebo type testing, repeatable experiments have yet to be achieved.

Despite this there are several theories currently floating about that at least have a degree of acceptance in the scientific community.

The main theory that most are now subscribing to has yet be given an officially recognized name but for now it seems to be generally known as the "feel good about yourself" theory.

Whether or not all will admit it, in their core of hearts everyone knows the feeling of not being wanted. Of being on one of loves losing streaks. Of feeling unattractive and undesirable.

And what is it that somehow turns this around to the flip side?

The key to getting the Babe Magnet Avalanche going seems to be that the individual somehow grow, develop and feel within themselves a genuine, steady and fully internalized sense of value. This need not be prominently "conscious" in the usual sense either. And if it is not so conscious it then makes the full blown onset of the babe magnet phenomenon pack even more of a wallop. This is because it then has much more surprise and shock value when its unexpected avalanche first picks up some major momentum.

One of the more common examples that most folks here have surely witnessed both in others and in themselves is when nobody seems interested in you until you get new boyfriend or girlfriend. Then all of a sudden you've got more interest of a lustful nature than you can you can shake your stick at.

That in itself might be the best example of all to decribe this phenomenon with. And if you still can't quite get a handle on what is being talked about here then you just ain't gonna get it!

Now many people here might think that it would be an ideal state to have in which you were constantly acosted by insanely attractive lovers who could simply not get enough of you. But believe me it quite quickly becomes a major annoyance.

I don't posess whatever it takes mentally to compartmentalize my brain into a mode where I can handle having multiple lovers. One good one is plenty for me.

But it is nice if you can somehow manage to get some sort of mild babe magnet phenomenon going before you make a selection as to who you might like to select as that "one good one".

What you do not want to do is to take on a new partner out of sheer desperation. What will always happen without fail if you do that is that taking on this new partner will indeed immediately trigger the babe magnet phenomenon to become unleashed upon you. Then you'll be hit square in the face with all of those other partners that you'd actually rather have had.

Dealing with all of this can prove to be quite the balancing act.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
1/5/2006 6:14 am

LOL! i say go out and have the desperate fling, but don't commit to anything!

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rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
1/5/2006 6:33 am

My first silly thought is, "Well, aren't YOU the lucky man!"

But then, seriously, I know exactly what you mean, for the same reaasons...and I get mentally overwhelmed; initially I like the attention but then it starts to get to my basically introverted self... I find that I just simply can't make any choice at all...

Initially I'm the same way going into Wal-Mart...I only need 5 items but every item has at least 100 choices...and they're always out of the brand I want...

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
1/5/2006 6:34 am

Incidentally...not initially...some sort of aphasia here...

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/5/2006 12:16 pm

Interesting post. I am not sure I have been cursed with the babe magnet avalanche, but I know I have had my times of juggling guys. I like those times.


DTduzDallas 50F

1/5/2006 5:58 pm

I just need a date. One. Just one. Damn.


1/7/2006 10:42 pm

Hey freelove,

Well when I step abck from it a bit and really consider things, in practical terms what you suggest is about the best approach to take concerning all of this.

Thanks for the counselling. I am simply trying to get all this miscellany sorted out before any sort of landslide really gets started.

If indeed it ever does.



1/8/2006 8:08 pm

corezon wrote..

My first silly thought is, "Well, aren't YOU the lucky man!"

well, I never really stated that my own babe magnet has actually kicked into gear yet.

If it had I surely would be overwhelemed at the moment. The one time in my life that it really has it really was far too much to handle.

It made me understand why the Beatles quit touring for good.



1/8/2006 8:16 pm

Dusty the Diva wrote...

Interesting post. I am not sure I have been cursed with the babe magnet avalanche, but I know I have had my times of juggling guys. I like those times.

Some people are able to handle this quite naturally and with a high degree of grace under the natural sorts of pressures that this sort thing by it's nature often produces.

By default I am not one of those people. Although I'm certain there are things which can be learned to make handling it easier.

I still haven't seen any Unversity level courses offerred in it though.



1/8/2006 8:22 pm

Hi and welcome DTduzDallas. I couldn't help laughing at what you wrote...

I just need a date. One. Just one. Damn.

And I hope you intended it to be laughed at because I certainly do not want to laugh at your misfortune if that is indeed the case.

If it is I'm really sorry!

I'm pretty much in the same boat so I know full well that this can very much be a thing that isn't very laughable.

But I do a fair share of joking about it nonetheless and usually when I do mention it I do intend to get some laughs out of it.

So I sincerely hope you did too.



1/8/2006 8:27 pm

sexyfitwoman wrote...

Hmmmm, sometimes there sure are the droughts...

you got that right sister!

I've already earned a bachelors degrees worth of time off from this sort of thing and I hope not to be getting any sort of advanced degree along with it as well.


velvetgrrrl 39F

5/22/2007 10:33 am

I've never been able to determine what makes for a magnet type attitude/appearance. What I have experienced is I either drout or overflow there is no happy mid way point.
If you do find somewhere that there is something out there to help keep this under control send me to the doc for the prescription.....

Doctor Doctor gimme the cure.....


Hell is when u should have walked away, but u didn't.

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