HEY WHITE GUYS CAN YOU EXPLAIN SOMETHING ?  

KCSexyandCool 37F
25 posts
6/30/2005 7:12 pm

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HEY WHITE GUYS CAN YOU EXPLAIN SOMETHING ?

Before joining this site I have only had one white guy approach me in a sexual or romantic way. But on the internet it is the total opposite. So this observation got me to wondering “WHY DON’T WHITE MEN APPROACH BLACK WOMEN IN THE REAL WORLD?” This is a sincere question. I would greatly appreciate a sincere answer. Are the reasons social, cultural, socioeconomic, or regional? If you have an intelligent response please post it because I really would like an answer. Thanks

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO RESPONDED. YOUR POST ARE HELPING ME TO GAIN A NEW UNDERSTANDING AND AWARENESS.


rm_xxxmedic2 57M

6/30/2005 7:31 pm

As a white man, my question would be do you go into social settings where white men are? Are you approachable? If you are sitting with a bunch of friends, white or black, that may scare some away. The problem may also be what you elude to, a race problem. I would not shy away from you, but I was raised in a multi racial community, and dated black women. The internet offers some safety in the get to know you department, with fewer distractions. So my answer to your question would be; yes to social, cultural, socioeconomic, or regional reasons. Problem not solved, and sadly I fear that many white men would rather meet his "black lady" friend here, away from their buddies eyes. Those are the idiots that make it hard for the rest of us.


3isnotacrowd6968 47M/48F

6/30/2005 7:33 pm

we are intimidated-


rm_flipper4622 48M

6/30/2005 7:36 pm

I can omly speak for myself... I am not attracted... Hey Black women make great co-workers, friends... I find some pretty but they do not attract me sexually... Am I a bastard...maybe. Why do some black guys see having a white girl as a trophee...they marry a black girl but cheat on them with white girls... strange no?


charm130 44M
2 posts
6/30/2005 7:41 pm

just let me no what you realil want. don't hold back


charm130 44M
2 posts
6/30/2005 7:42 pm

tell me what you want


ragingbullnj 56M

6/30/2005 7:47 pm

I have approached a black woman before and she became my girlfriend. WE met in a disco in NYC. She eventually moved to Florida. I would definitely approach another black woman again if I found her as attractive as you...


smileguyqc 53M

6/30/2005 7:50 pm

I don't know that many black women, I think thats the main and possibly the only reason.


Nourishing2 50F
9 posts
6/30/2005 8:02 pm

Because they can hide behind a computer easier than in reality.
Its safer for them....youll find out most on AdultFriendFinder arent as sincere as they claim


sandhazard 54M
129 posts
6/30/2005 8:02 pm

Not sure why you are experiencing this. I am sure you will get many different kinds of responses here on AdultFriendFinder. For me I don't see race, color or creed as a issue. I look to connect with a persons soul. I want to know how they think, how they treat others, what kinds of passions they have. To me all those things are far more interesting then what color their skin might be.

I have approached women of many races and have truly never thought about it and I hope they would not think bad of me for finding them attractive. You look like a very attractive lady and I would have no problem approaching you.

Hope I have helped.


lusty1369 48M/48F
3 posts
6/30/2005 8:51 pm

Definitely cultural. I remember one of the most beautiful ladies I had seen was African-American/black. But I couldn't go up to ask her out because all her friends were black. It felt taboo, like she would be grossed out or offended.

That is also why you have men hitting on you on the net. It is a "taboo" and it turns men on.

I have no problems now since I'm older and understand people are people.
A black female on this board is probably fairly rare also. So you get more attention. And well deserved from the looks of the photo and your post.


rm_whitechoc326 50M/52F
12 posts
6/30/2005 9:32 pm

to kcsexy & cool, you ask an incredible question which your response comes from the white male of a black & white relationship of 11 yrs. most white men are afraid of their peers such as family members,co workers,employers,friends etc.. for reasons they may be dissowned because of past history.....or even get fired from a job at times...you will find that 90% of white men fantasize about being with a black female & they just dont kiss and tell because they are ashamed to be caught by their peers..some white men are afraid of trying with a blk female because of large dick myths...any race can have a big,little, or average weenie.....in reallity 90% of white men have allready experienced black,if not they fantasize....they play both worlds of blk & white women if they can get away with it...me personally i dont care about opinions i do what makes me happy...please understand these answers with an opened mind and capitlize on them..feel free to respond i would love to hear it....p.s. you are a total knockout with a good head on your shoulders,love whitechoc326


rm_maxnos 39M

6/30/2005 10:26 pm

I don't know what kind of reply you are looking for, but from my heart I belive that not enough people have the balls. We all need to look past the colors we see and not be afraid! I hope you find your truth.


rm_eddie4ukc 40M

7/1/2005 11:22 pm

I think whitechoc326 had some good ideas and reasoning. I didn't hit on black females until I got to college because dating a black female isn't acceptable with my parents/grandparents etc due to the way they were raised. It's a shame that they were raised that way and I definately tried to chance their minds... I dated one black girl when I got back home from college... She was great! She had beautfiul eyes, a wonderful body, but unfortunately she also had an abusive ex-boyfriend who showed up at here work and threw me across the hood of my own car when I was trying to defend her so she wouldn't get hit! I had to end that relationship because of that inccident etc. But while I was dating her we did have sex once. It was great! I love black woman and I'll continue to love them! I think it truely depends on the guy... I was brave enough to hit on black woman while I was at school etc. So I don't know why other guys have such a hard time! I hope my answer and story help give some insight the question.
By the way I think you are totally hot! I would love to meet you some time! I love those hot legs and what a beautiful face too!
Let me know if you might be interested in talking some time!
Thanks,
Eddie4ukc


charming_11000 44M
1 post
7/4/2005 8:55 am

I have gone out with a few black women. I think its in the mind set of the individual and you won't be able to get a concrete answer from a lot of people. There have been a few women that I haven't asked out but that was more because we worked together and if we had broken up could have made for a difficult working situation. I would have no problem approaching you if we had a situation where we could meet.


secretlyhere1 39M
1 post
7/5/2005 1:00 pm

I would love to approach a black woman, but like so many others we white men, feel intimidated, your culture seems to have so many wonderfull things that we whites dont, its almost like we are from opposite planets. These days I find myself looking at black girls much, much more than I did in the past, perhaps its the fact, that you are true to who you are, where you came from, and are honest and sincere in what you say and do. Where as white girls think they have to conform to what society tells them to do. Your color makes and breaks the rules, which eventually become the standard, and thats what I love about black women. Now tell me that that doesnt seem a little intimidating.

Hope I was helpful


rm_dvdman4u2 54M
1 post
7/5/2005 9:08 pm

I date a black woman every so often and she if great and has opened my eyes to what I have been missing!! In fact I work with a couple of black women at work that I would love to go out with but it is not the right situation. Sexy and cool you are beautiful..hope to meet you sometime..


rm_Doc_Caring 61M

7/8/2005 11:13 am

I believe that it is primarily because so many people make so much of so little.....while culture is a vital part of us all.....it does lend itself to prejudge an individual.....before understanding and respecting the differences in people. The reality is that we are all more alike than different! Place three babies of caucasion, negroid and asian side by side they are very similar....all need to be nutured and cared for...all are born with an instinct to suck, and are 100% dependent upon a caregiver for their life....all cultures have valued our children and elderly by trying to assist and support them....so, I, personally, have no waiver in my willingness to approach anyone....if there is something that allows for a discomfort, then due to their color or culture it is THEIR problem.....if it threatens me....then they make it my problem....but, I love all and only want to respect and receive respect from all....

Doc


rm_BANTUS495 46M

7/11/2005 7:36 pm

Hmmm, well I see plenty of black women that I find attractive in various ways but I do not approach them or any women for that matter. I do not want the rejection in public i guess. I am very new to this scene but it seems you can take your time and find out a little or lot about a person of interest online versus the alternative. I do not think its an act of cowardice, maybe it is, but its also a form a respect for the women. If its obvious that someone is interested, I would imagine that both would know and if mutual something would happen such as an approach for conversation? If you can not tell, I have not been in the loop for a while but I really enjoy meeting nice people. Look me up if you want to chat or something.


rm_Tribal1972 44M
3 posts
7/13/2005 5:42 pm

I can't really come to terms with that myself, hell i feel as though black women don't even notice me. Believe me, I am so attracted to them but its kinda untreaded waters. When I'm out with my black friends they look at white women. In the future, maybe i just need approach them in a different way, but believe me, a black girl doesn't nessesarily put out a warm welcoming to white guys. They screwed it up for you......and me.


rm_whitechoc326 50M/52F
12 posts
7/14/2005 5:46 pm

i have to agree with hottnspicy4u & tribal 1972 but being at the right place,at the right time helps.....yes being on the internet includes 5% truth & about 95% mythical portrayal of themselves.. the key thing is that people sense frustration,fear,anxiety etc. the same as dogs do or any other living creature for that matter..dont show the WORRY of BLACK OR WHITE thats the main sense that people see...if youre interested put on a smile,a nice friendly hello & go from there if you get negativity or arrogance brush it off & move on they are probably just jerks are very insecure....any questions ?...............................whitechoc326


rm_horny14692 48M

7/15/2005 10:42 am

THERE'S A LOT OF GOOD STUFF HERE. I DO SEE SOME GENERALIZING AND STEREOTYPING WHICH IS NATURAL, BUT YOUR QUESTION CAN BE COMPARED TO "WHY DO SOME PEOPLE CARVE SWEETS, AND SOME PEOPLE CRAVE SPICY, AND SOME PEOPLE ONLY EAT CHEESEBURGERS". EVERYBODY'S DIFFERENT, SMPLE AS THAT. NOT TO SAY THERE AREN'T A FEW OUT THERE WHO NEED TO FIND A REASON TO HATE, BUT THOSE PEOPLE DIRECT THEIR INSECURITIES AT ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING.

SPEAKING FOR MYSELF, I HAVE TO AGREE WITH THE OPINION THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE LARGELY "UNAPPROACHABLE". PERSONALLY I FEEL SOMEWHAT INTIMIDATED BY THE WHOLE "WELL-ENDOWED-BLACK-MAN" THING, AND AM UNDER THE IMPRESSION THAT BY-AND-LARGE, BLACK WOMEN PREFFER BLACK MEN. ALSO, BLACK WOMEN ARE PORTRAYED MOST OFTEN AS "STRONG - INDEPENDENT" AND FULL OF ATTITUDE. NOT EXACTLY SOMEONE WHO WOULD LET YOU DOWN WITH DIGNITY IF YOU DIDNT TICKLE THEIR INTEREST - AGAIN, THAT CAN BE INTIMIDATING.

BUT IF I FOUND YOU ON THE INTERNET, YOUR PROFILE WAS HONEST AND SWEET, AND YOU HAD NO RACE PREFERENCES LISTED, IT WOULD REMOVE THAT LAST BARRIER - AND IF YOU RESPONDED AFTER SEEING MY PROFILE PIC, THE FIRST IMPRESSION WOULD BE LESS INTIMIDATING AS WELL...AND THEN WE TAKE IT FROM THERE.

I DONT KNOW IF I AGREE ABOUT THE OPINION THAT MOST PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET PORTRAY THEMSELVES SO FALSELY, BUT THAT MAY BE JUST BECAUSE I DONT DO THAT, AND THOSE THAT I HAVE MET HERE HAVENT EITHER.

I'D LOVE TO DISCUSS IT FURTHER WITH YOU, AND I'M IN K.C. AREA ALSO. FEEL FREE TO WRITE ME ANYTIME.


cheatinghubby69 48M

7/15/2005 2:49 pm

I have been lucky enough to have sexual experiences with several black women and it has always been amazing. My first time was with a black woman. I am not sure why more white guys are not approaching you because you are gorgeous.


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