A Picture is NOT worth a thousand words  

Justforfungirl5 49F
57 posts
12/4/2005 3:09 pm

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A Picture is NOT worth a thousand words

I've returned from taking a short break from AdultFriendFinder only to find I can no longer view profiles, nor email anyone (just respond). Drat!!

The AdultFriendFinder gods are angry with me. As one of the few females on the site they depend on me to (along with the other women, fake profiles or not) keep the fellas jonesin'. So in an attempt to get back in good with the gods I went to the Advice Line to share some of my somewhat limited, but earnest and freely given knowledge. When I had spent five minutes on one reply I thought, pulleez, I'd rather be blogging. So here I am again ... time would be better spent preparing for work tomorrow, and I get no brownie points with the AdultFriendFinder gods, but I prefer to take a piece of myself and lay it before you.
(Dontcha feel special? )

The question I was responding to was (paraphrased) "Do you assume the person to be ugly who won't post a pic?"

I imagine for all the responders that would say "it's what is on the inside that matters" there are just as many that would say (at least to themselves) "yep, if they're not going to post a pic there must be something ugly about them." With the latter, I disagree.

You'll get a lot of me in my blog, but what you won't get is my pic. I'm a very private person anyway and that would be enough reason for me not to post my picture on the internet, especially on a sex site. Add to that that my profession is one in which I deal with the public and must have their respect and trust. Nope, I'm not ugly. I'm not as pretty as I once was (oh, why didn't I appreciate what I had when I had it?!!), but I am not ugly.

I put a LOT of myself in my profile. My personality and my innermost desires are on display. If you're attracted to that, then you are the kind of man or woman that I would be attracted to physically. I can think of very few exceptions (the most obvious being bad hygiene or boorish behavior). I can have a mind-blowing sexual encounter with someone who is not physically all I would dream of and can have, on the other hand, an I-can't-believe-I-shaved-my-legs-for-this encounter with someone with a beautiful hard-body. Personally, if I'm going to spend my limited amount of recreational time with someone, I'd prefer the mind-blowing sex.
Wouldn't you?

If not having a pic up means that I have fewer emails to wade through, so be it. Yes, I realize that a great match may be out there and pass me by b/c I have no picture up. I'll take that chance. Some people say "just take a pic of a body part" and that seems to work fine for some. I especially like the female who uses a pic of her well-pedicured big toe (sorry, I can't remember the handle) as it always makes me laugh. I had thought originally to take pics of various body parts and change them out from time to time. Who knows, I may change my mind eventually and do just that.
Women have been known to change their mind on occasion, no?

For now, I am content getting to know you. I look forward to exposing parts of myself that others don't get to see and having you do the same. I look forward to having some laughs first, so that if and when we come together I can feel free to laugh then without fear that you may mistake my sense of humor as ridicule. I look forward to building the basis of a bonfire ... not just striking a match.

:::Toddling off to the toolshed to find something to rid me of these barnacles from my bottom :::

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12/4/2005 7:35 pm


rm_romeovoid40 62M

12/4/2005 8:16 pm

Ah, dear... I'm glad that you've returned. I appreciate your honesty and humor. Please, visit more often!

ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
12/4/2005 8:50 pm

JustFor......It is well past my bed time, but I just want to say that I KNOW, I am going to enjoy, following your blog!!...Thankyou so much for visiting my blog!!


1stworkingguy 60M

12/5/2005 8:26 am


I am agreement with you view on having a pic and one has to realize that there are some shady people out there and if you deal with the public it could put you in a ackward situation.I believe that one needs to have something in common and there is so much more then the pic that I am interested in when I talk to a person.If someone is really wanting to put the thoughts with the face then all they have to do is ask for a pic.I don,t necessary agree with the policies on this site, but there are enough that do, so the world will keep turning and people will keep blogging.There are so many good and true people out there with no face that it is not always a have too to see the face as there is enough energy and interest to overlook the physical part.I appreciate your view

Justforfungirl5 49F
68 posts
12/5/2005 1:29 pm

Why, thank you, MackDaddy. You commenting on the blog or the pic? Either way ... come again ... and again ... and again ... (yep, betcha can't tell what kinda mood I'M in!)

RomeoVoid~~ Thanks for your visit. I'm honored. You can bet I'll keep coming to your blog. (again ... and again ... and ::::slapping myself lightly:::: bad girl!)

Ilsgicemru~~ Thanks for your visit and kind words. I look forward to following your blog. Keep posting those pics! :::big, cheesy grin:::

1st~~ You tricked me! I thought you had begun a blog! Let me guess, you were just checking it out and now they have that little link on all your posts, no? If so, might as well join us in Blogville. Rent is cheap and the neighbors are very nice.

::: to all::: JFFG

rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
12/5/2005 3:27 pm

Thank you..

I will read your blog.. I support many of your fustrations with the management of this "friend" and related/ affiliated sites..

This must be a huge money maker and it is not acceptable in this age to be non-customer responsive..

I particularly object to their ability to use monopoly power to censor and even deny service on an arbitrary basis.


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
12/7/2005 8:37 am

I am delighted to get to know you..with or without a photo...and appreciate your taking the time to stop by and visit my milk blog..your story was amazing! I also appreciate your willingness
to be present in your truth..whatever that may be. That's what I
came to blogland to do and appreciate those that enourage me to
stay. Welcome back, beautiful one.... {=}

YOU WROTE: For now, I am content getting to know you. I look forward to exposing parts of myself that others don't get to see and having you do the same. I look forward to having some laughs first, so that if and when we come together I can feel free to laugh then without fear that you may mistake my sense of humor as ridicule. I look forward to building the basis of a bonfire ... not just striking a match.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

Justforfungirl5 49F
68 posts
12/7/2005 9:46 pm

Anacortes~~ Thanks for the commiseration. I have done something, I know not what, to make the AdultFriendFinder gods happy again and am able to view (at least some) profiles. I hope I didn't come across as complaining though. As a standard member I can't/don't care to whine too much.

Goddess~~ I'm honored you stopped by. You are welcome anytime, oh lovely one. And as for my "willingness to be present in {my} truth" ... that's a new thing for me actually. Being present is the only way to truly live. Unfortunately, I've spent the majority of my life either stuck in the past or working toward the future. I'm enjoying this new phase in life.

::: to all :::: JFFG

Justforfungirl5 49F
68 posts
12/9/2005 9:56 am

Oh Trav~~
Don't bring the "eww" factor into my lovely little blog. lol

Actually, this made me think of a scene in the movie that I watched last night "Grand Canyon" . Steve Martin is a producer screening his movie and gets upset b/c someone edited out the part where the hijacked bus driver gets his head blown off. Ewww. If you haven't seen the movie you may like it ... some gore for the guys, some guys being guys, some things to think about. It kind of fits in with the last post of yours I read in that the characters are all working out their significance/insignificance in the world (BTW, I KNOW what you mean and am happy you've had such an epiphany.) :::warm smile:::

MillsShipsGayly 51M

12/11/2005 7:56 pm

Justfor .. forget the pic, you look damn hot in that silhoutte

nice post ..

but I vote for a cute picture of a body part (elbow? plalm?)

Justforfungirl5 49F
68 posts
12/12/2005 10:47 am

Why, thank you, Michael ... yes, the silhouette looks good, doesn't it ... I was having a good hair day.

Lol re: body part. You're warped like me. That's exactly what I was thinking ... an elbow for a few weeks ... a knee for awhile ... a particularly sexy finger with a "come hither" pose.

BTW ... ummmm, niiiiiiiice pic! ~~JFFG

titsrus2 52F
331 posts
12/12/2005 1:37 pm

good question. although beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, what person (unless they are unreasonably unattractive or have some type of body dismorphic issues) would really admit to people on the internet that they really are unattractive.

some may not share pic's because they want a certain degree of anonymity. others so they can embellish details about themselves so you never really know until you finally meet them.

i've had ladies send me pic's that were clearly from 10 years or (50-60 lbs) ago, which is soooooooo WRONG b/c i am not a petite person myself and wasn't really looking for a waif, BUT i at least wanted an accurate representation of the "here and now," not what coulda, woulda, shoulda been.

just my two cents.

rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
12/12/2005 4:46 pm

You wrote, "I look forward to having some laughs first, so that if and when we come together I can feel free to laugh then without fear that you may mistake my sense of humor as ridicule. I look forward to building the basis of a bonfire ... not just striking a match.

I hope we can get together here on line and make a few "sparks".. your comment about "mind blowing" sex... YESSSSSSSSSSSssssss you area a Goddess and goddesses deserve wonderful orgasms...


Justforfungirl5 49F
68 posts
12/12/2005 7:29 pm

Tits~~ Your two cents are always welcome.

I know some people will not post a pic and lie about their attributes; others will post a pic and lie about their attributes (like your example of someone using older photos.) I'd like to think that pic or no the majority of people on here are smart enough to realize that they will be found out if they lie, so they just don't do it. Let's hope so, anyway. For me, even if a person were physically attractive, dishonesty would be a deal breaker. Was it for you or did you just get irritated but let them get away with it? Hmmmm?

:::JFFG ... feeling the need to confess that she has gray in her golden brown locks and lets it go way too long in between colorings ... whew! I feel better :::

Justforfungirl5 49F
68 posts
12/12/2005 7:40 pm

Anacortes~~ :::warm smile::: I like the way you think. It has been many moons since I have been referred to as a goddess. I rather like it.

You zoned in on the heart of what I was saying. Sparks, yes! Sparks are fun in and of themselves and can also lead to nice warm cuddly fires or hot passionate infernos. Woohoo!

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