Time flew...but were we having fun?  

Juliet610 51F
802 posts
3/19/2006 10:27 pm

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Time flew...but were we having fun?

I'm meeting an old friend for lunch tomorrow. A lot has happened in both our lives since we last got together, and I'm anxious to catch up. But at the same time, I'm a little nervous about where the conversation will go.

Will we focus on the crazy fun we had, forgettting the painful times we helped each other through, as if we could? Will we focus on the gap since the last time we saw each other? Will we talk about the future--our hopes, dreams, plans and goals?

Will we jump from topic to topic, never delving below the surface? Or will we pick back up right where we left off, and barely miss a beat? And what of the sexual tension that was always there? Will it still be there? And if so, what will we do about it? And finally, will we become a regular part of each other's lives again?

Am I the only one who gets almost stressed out about meeting up with an old friend? How do you handle one-on-one reunions?


mysteriesofme 44F

3/19/2006 10:45 pm

with a lot of deep breaths....


angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
3/19/2006 10:59 pm

Sometimes....but then usually when we see each other...it all falls back into place. Have fun!


TallOutdoorType 55M

3/19/2006 11:17 pm

Juliet, once again you are thinking too much my dear. What is UP with that anyway?

Seeing an old friend is an adventure, provided that you feel good about yourself and your life right now. If you don't feel good about your situation then the thought of meeting an old friend/flame can be daunting, but usually it works out for the best if you just go through with it. And if it doesn't go well, then what have you lost really? However, if you like where you are in your life right now then seeing an old friend can be great. You are both a few more years down the road, and it is fascinating to see what the other person has done with that time, and to compare notes, observations, experiences, etc.

Condition your expectations. Just as you are not the same person as you were back then, neither are they. They will have aged a bit, just as you have. (Unlike them, you have aged in only GOOD ways, of course. ). It probably won't be like old times, but it will be sweet in a different way that one doesn't experience until one is old enough to have "old lost friends" with whom to reunite. This is one of the great surprises of being in your 40s that nobody tells you about. Embrace it as part of the Big Life Experience. Pat yourself on the back for having built relationships in your younger years that are still bearing fruit today.

As for whether an old flame will be rekindled, first decide whether you want it to be rekindled. You can steer your ship if you choose to, rather than being passively carried by the currents. If it's truly a monstrous flame then it might be rekindled whether you want it to or not. If so, lucky you -- we should all experience such flames in our lives. But if you decide in advance how you want it to go, then it makes you more free to enjoy the experience because you won't be worrying about it.

However, the #1 most important thing to meeting an old friend, or especially an old flame, is to make sure you don't have anything stuck between your teeth.


reverend21 49M
1913 posts
3/19/2006 11:56 pm

No, you are not the only one, i have given speeches before hundreds of people and it never bothered me, but one on one, I tend to freeze up and stupidity ensues. Just play it by ear and allow the mood of the conversation lead you where it will.


Juliet610 51F

3/20/2006 1:51 am

You all are too kind! Here it is, 1:30 in the morning, and I can't sleep for thinking about lunch tomorrow!

Mysteries--I'm sure I will be taking many deep breaths. I just hope I don't hyperventilate and pass out!

Angel--I am hoping it will "all fall into place" but am afraid I may fall in his lap! (He'd enjoy that, no doubt!)

TOT--Yes, I tend to thnk a lot! One of my favorite sayings is, "I have a brain and I know how to use it, and I'm not afraid to use it either!" However, I do tend to over analyze things at tmies. I suppose it goes back to Mum telling all us kids that we could make whatever choice or decision we wanted to, as long as we were willing to live with the consequences! That's my dilemma... And oh, yeah--thanks for the advice about stuff stuck in my teeth! You are aware we're meeting for lunch?

Reverend--Pray my brain doesn't freeze and get "stuck on stupid!" I want to make a lasting impression, but certainly not that way!

I'll post an update tomorrow, provided I survive with my dignity intact!


phx22004 55M

3/20/2006 4:09 am

You know, you totally don't know me but I think you are getting a little worked up about the whole thing. it will be fine. You are obviously a very beautiful and intelligent woman with alot going for you. This is one of them. Actually tho, I'm kinda Jealous. Enjoy

Bill.


rm_HornyUK79 37M
56 posts
3/20/2006 4:09 am

Hi Juliet -new to your blog, but I like it!

You and this old acquaintance were friends once, and there was a reason for your friendship then, so there will be now. So you may have both moved on, and you may now be slighty different people, but my guess is that you will still remember enough of who you both were for things to go fine...

And after all, you're not going on a two-month cruise with this person - it is lunch, that's all!!

Now go to bed, stop worrying and get some beauty sleep, not that you need it, but you don't want to be yawning tomorrow!!

Hope it goes well!


MyRealLoverOne 46M

3/20/2006 4:49 am

Sounds like excitement to me! I things things will naturally fall in place. If not, you have not lost anything and will probably be glad you went. Have fun dear one!

RL~


MillsShipsGayly 51M

3/20/2006 7:43 am

Linkin Park

It's easier to run,
replacing this pain with something numb.
It's so much easier to go
then face all this pain here all alone.

Something has been taken from deep inside of me.
A secret I've kept locked away, no one can ever see.
Wounds so deep they never show, they never go away.
Like moving pictures in my head, for years and years they've played.

If I could change I would,
take back the pain I would.
Retrace every wrong move that I made I would.
If I could stand up and take the blame I would.
If I could take all my shame to the grave I would.
If I could change I would,
take back the pain I would.
Retrace every wrong move that I made I would.
If I could stand up and take the blame I would.
If I could take all my shame to the grave.

It's easier to run,
replacing this pain with something numb.
It's so much easier to go
then face all this pain here all alone.

Sometimes I remember the darkness of my past.
Bringing back these memories I wish I didn't have.
Sometimes I think of letting go and never looking back,
and never moving foreward so there'd never be a past.

If I could change I would,
take back the pain I would.
Retrace every wrong move that I made I would.
If I could stand up and take the blame I would.
If I could take all my shame to the grave I would.
If I could change I would,
take back the pain I would.
Retrace every wrong move that I made I would.
If I could stand up and take the blame I would.
If I could take all my shame to the grave.

Just washing it aside,
all of this helplessness inside.
Pretending I don't feel misplaced.
It's so much simpler than change.

It's easier to run,
replacing this pain with something numb.
It's so much easier to go
then face all this pain here all alone.

It's easier to run.

If I could change I would,
take back the pain I would.
Retrace every wrong move that I made I would.

It's easier to go.

If I could change I would,
take back the pain I would.
Retrace every wrong move that I made I would.
If I could stand up and take the blame I would.
I would take all the shame to the grave.


gnr8nrg 46M

3/20/2006 3:59 pm

Hi Juliet I love them. I just got a little nervous meeting with someone I hadn't seen since high school. We never hung out back then, but I have a feeling that we'll make great friends now. I also bumped into an exgirlfriend I hadn't seen in 5 years and I'm keeping in touch with her too. Seeing people from the past, is a little stressful, but usually a wonderful experience.


lund0069 47M

3/20/2006 4:50 pm

it is always exciting to meet an old friend. what you are feeling is very normal. i have had an occassion when i could not sleep the whole night thinking of the friend i was going to meet for breakfast the next day.....and guess what, i spend the first one hour lambasting him, scolding him and giving him a piece of my mind for just disappearing for 5 years without a trace. the usual problems at home made him a wanderer and he travelled the world without any anchor...but hell, he knew that i "gave" it to him because i was sincerely concerned about him. he took it with a smile....he probably knew me better than me in some instances and let me nrant and rave....we then gave each other a hug and then we got down to catching up with each other and it was like normal and as if he was always around as it used to be.

well i hope your lunch with your old friend went well.


Juliet610 51F

3/20/2006 9:37 pm

Thanks for all the encouragement. The meeting went better than I had dared hope. We talked and laughed and chewed each other out and hugged and laughed some more for over three hours! We have already made plans to meet again. But next time he'll bring Ms. Right-now, and I'll bring Mr. Potential. Now I'm going to bed, because I am exhausted! Good night.


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