Dear Me  

JuicyBBW1001 54F
2166 posts
8/18/2006 7:12 am

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10/2/2006 8:29 am

Dear Me

I got this idea from my pal TurnLock whom got it from Oprah. You might want to get a box of hankies and a drink because this might turn into a novel.
The idea is to write a letter to yourself as a younger person and give them tips about how to succeed. So here I go.

Dear Me,
You will experience great trails and tribulations in your life but somehow someway you will survive and even thrive.

The first thing you have to understand is that you where not planned. Your mother and father didn't realize you could get pregnant the first time they had sex after the planned one was born six weeks earlier. But have no fear for you still have a purpose to fulfill in your life and you are not a mistake nor an accident so please disregard the hurtful lamenations of your mother.

The second thing you will learn is that your father is a sick man. You see he will do his best to hurt you first by spanking you and then by trying to teach you how a daughter is suppose to love her father. But have no fear for you are not alone. There are others who face the same fate as you do on a daily basis and somehow manage to make it thru. You will eventually make peace with this situation and move forward although it will take some time and patience on your part and some persistance too.

The third thing you will learn but not discover the true impact till much later in life is this: Knowledge is power. Because of your need to know everything you will become a scholar of sorts studying all things that are interesting to you. Things like: if you strike a match and light a candle and put it down near a towel the bathroom will catch on fire. Or if you don't make sure the saddle is cinched tightly on your horse, you could be become a flying projectile sailing thru the air with the greatest of ease. Or that no matter what your babysitter's son tells you that taking a bath in chocolate milk will make you brown like him. It doesn't work.

The next thing you will learn and this too comes much much later in your life is that you have value not just to yourself but to others as well. When you finally figure that out you will embark upon a life changing journey. Starting with making friends with the skeletons in your closet and making peace with all the horrible things that happened in your life. It will not be easy but you will succeed because of your persistance and determation.

Lastly you will learn to love yourself first and foremost by shedding those pounds that have kept you safe for all those years and learn how to live a healthier lifestyle and be a better person as a result. Not that you won't be fine as you are but you will still feel better about yourself and not feel like the weight of the world is holding you down.


Thanks TurnLock I owe you one for this.


rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
8/18/2006 12:32 pm

a healing exercise... no doubt about it...

I love Oprah and her assignments along the way...

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 8/18/2006 12:34 pm:
It was indeed.

AstirRelicLatah 64M
1993 posts
8/18/2006 3:33 pm

Very nice letter. I especially like the paragraph about making friends with the skeletons. It's hard to move forward to you accept the past. Hope you're successful at doing this.

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 8/18/2006 3:50 pm:
I am working on it it seems to be a day to day thing since they can rear their ugly heads at any given time.

sexyariesgirl 57F

8/18/2006 3:52 pm

Twin....I don't know what to say except WOW. Just....WOW. Now pass the tissues dammit!

Power To FOK

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 8/18/2006 3:58 pm:
Here is a puffs for you.


8/18/2006 10:22 pm

I cought this one the other day... very heart warming.. loved it.. glad you shared this one

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 8/19/2006 3:08 am:

TurnLock 59M
576 posts
8/19/2006 1:53 am

Thanks for sharing, we know you a little better now. You're supposed to drink the chocolate milk and eat the brown eggs. All you owe me is your friendship.

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 8/19/2006 3:09 am:
Only you would catch that. You have my friendship that is a given.

BillTheBillder 52M
1898 posts
9/30/2006 8:39 pm

Hello lad

got some bad news. your mums a bitch. she will tell you she loves you, then use you as a verbal and physical punch bag.
she will work sixty hours a week so as not to spend time with her kids.
she will leave you in the care of your grand-mother so you become emotionally attached. Then deny you the release of saying good-bye at her funeral.
She will tell you she wants her children to have everything she never had. while forgetting things like hugs, kisses and most other forms of physical affection. and to cap it all, if you realise her mistakes and ask why, she will get extrememly angry and even resort to physical violence to prove she is right.
your dad will be an enigma. at times loving and tender. he has a hard streak. he can be attentive but only for short periods. he can be loving but sometimes forgets to do it for months at a time.
he will die before your mother and this will be a time of great grief for you. be strong. many pieces of the puzzle will fall into place at this time. your knowledge will help you feel better about yourself.
why? because one day you will see that they are an example of what you should and should not do.
strive for the good values they had in abundance, warm hearts, a love that was true, a sense of ethics.
refrain from the things they did that caused you pain.
doesn't end there.
your brothers and sisters will compensate for the loss of love from your mum. they will become an emotional crutch throughout your life.
but thier love will become remote and seldom spoken of, let alone demonstrated. sorry but this will scar you and takes many years to come to terms with.
you will marry a beautiful princess and live happily ever after in a castle by a blue sea. no you won't.
your fall in love with a beautiful virgin. you will get her pregnant. your first son is the light of your life. you will get married.
you will have highs and lows throughout.
gotta go right now but thers more to come and I'll also tell you of the worst things you have done to others and some of the best.
sorry if this makes you want to give up now.
get on with it.
love from the future

Bill xx

You know when you've been Billdoed
If you all stopped having a go at me I wouldn't be so fucking paranoid

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 10/1/2006 4:55 am:
I hope that exercise helped you in some way. Please never think that you have to be like your family. Sure it will take lots of hard work and even concentration to change negative thoughts and behavior(I should know I face down the skeltons in my closet every day) and turn them into positive forces to get the things you want most today and in the future.

BillTheBillder 52M
1898 posts
10/1/2006 1:14 pm

That's how I feel when I'm being negative. Have days were I love my family and miss them. Feels really good to get it out of my system.

You know when you've been Billdoed
If you all stopped having a go at me I wouldn't be so fucking paranoid

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 10/1/2006 1:19 pm:
Your welcome. and whenever you feel bad again then write letters to the people who make you feel bad you don't have to send it just write it and when your done light a candle and burn the letter to symbolize letting go of it and to symbolize a new and improved way of life. It works trust me.

BillTheBillder 52M
1898 posts
10/2/2006 8:26 am

I'll give that a try. Thank you

You know when you've been Billdoed
If you all stopped having a go at me I wouldn't be so fucking paranoid

JuicyBBW1001 replies on 10/2/2006 8:30 am:
Your welcome

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