What the Hell am I doing Wrong?  

JrsyKnight69 40M
27 posts
6/15/2005 5:37 am

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What the Hell am I doing Wrong?

I have been a member of AdultFriendFinder for awhile and I think jersey is the prude state. I don't know who is real and who isn't and its pissing me off, They are so many standard members then real people. I just don't understand am I coming on too strong to girls or too many winks what is it I need the ladies on the blog to help a brother out? Just if you can read my profile and maybe I can make changes to it or some how find someone that can excite me in the way I want to be excited about, just feel lonely in this world. I know don't feel sorry for me but Just looking for that Connection. Sometimes I think its my age, my size my ethnic I think it shouldn't matter but I guess this is the world we live in Just need some help?

SexyArmand69 45M

6/15/2005 6:53 am

I "feel ya" this is third different profile i've had on this site and outside of one person who added me to their list of friends I am getting no responces at all. Then again I don't have the $$$ to go silver or gold so contacting someone is pretty difficult. Than again as with the last two I am being flooded with contacts from porn chicks wanting me to join their website and all that trash.

Éagann an ní a dhéanaimid dúinn féin - Maireann an ní a dhéanaimid do chách go síoraí ('What we do for ourselves dies with us - what we do for others is immortal' )


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
6/15/2005 7:22 am

sometimes it is just women not seeing what is right in front of them sweet jrsy


AltumHunksUnite 53M

6/15/2005 7:38 am

For us guys, I think the key word is "patience". This site is like a good neighborhood pub. If you visit often enough, after a while people get to know you, you get to know them, and slowly you all find out you're more than just a bunch of drunks in a bar. Log on every now and then, continue your blog, start leaving posts on other blogs, male and female. Get to know folks around here, make some friends, and you'll learn that most folks here have genuine feelings and desires in spite of what you read in their graphic and plain-spoken profiles. But keep looking for your women outside in the real world. If you see an ad, actually take the time to read it and answer it according to the guidelines in her profile. If she doesn't answer, oh well. Move on.

Speaking for myself, I joined A-F-F because the mainstream personal sites are so frickin' boring. On this site, members are allowed to describe to others what they want, what turns them on, what they're looking for, etc., and speak plainly while doing so. At the same time, a guy has to be careful not to get sucked into A-F-F and start believing that this is the only place to find women. Use this place as an escape, continue with your blog, and keep your eyes open in the real world.

And you'll do just fine.

Let me drive. I like the view

AltumHunksUnite 53M

6/15/2005 7:40 am

Oh, and you'll do much better if you have a paid membership. If $$$ is an issue, keep in mind that what you normally spend clubbing on a Friday or Saturday night is about what it would cost for a three month membership.

Let me drive. I like the view

guynamedjim 58M
728 posts
6/15/2005 7:52 am

Watch the movie: SIMONE! (with Al Pacino) It will give you alittle insight! There is alot of Phonies here, and gals who don't exist! It
is called manipulation. I wrote one gal she then gave me her email address. It turned out she looked nothing like the picture she posted. In fact, she was a totally different ethicity! Also how about all those auto-replies. O I'll get back to you in another life time! Unfortunately it is wading through this reality to finding the vitual real gal here. Sorry this is the sign of the times. It frustrates be to hell. The more things change the more they stay the same. Can you say bait and hook? I wouldn't be surprised if they payed gals to be on here!

JrsyKnight69 40M
11 posts
6/15/2005 8:04 am

I hear you all about this site, I pay for people to email me and Gold member lol sounds like and Austin Powers movie. Just tired of the Auto Replys if you are a person that is getting a 100 hits a day I understand but if you arent then you should be allowed to read mail at least. Well I have till july 20th this will be the 3rd I have put a profile on this site, one when I with a bigirl and this one alone. We need a weed Wacker to weed out all the Bull on this site with profiles, My thoughts only?

guynamedjim 58M
728 posts
6/15/2005 10:43 am

Interesting why there is little women dialog on this isn't there? I smell a rat. Wait, wait I'm seeing the rat!

csmooth27 39M
11 posts
8/25/2005 6:53 pm

I am new member here, so I suppose I've yet to discover about all the SPAM and such. In my 2 days as a Standard Member (my membership upgrade is in the works), I got an email from two people... One was a tranny dude, and the other was a girl (or so she said) who used a guy's profile to email me... Definitely seemed like a girl's writing, but I don't know really. When I have the Silver membership and can actually email people, I'm curious to see what sort of thing happens and if anything happens at all.

I do have to say one thing - $35 bucks for 3 months of silver membership with unlimited profile viewing, searching, and unlimited emails to member is not a bad dead at all, compared to some personals sites. Plus, what's $35 bucks these days anyway? A tank of gas? haha. Cable costs more than that. A couple trips to the restaurant alone maybe. Nothing one can't save in a few days anyhow.

I think Cleavis gave a great advice there, and I'll certainly take note of that. I do agree with that point of view.

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