What do Women Really Want out of Guy like me?  

JrsyKnight69 40M
27 posts
6/29/2005 12:14 pm

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What do Women Really Want out of Guy like me?

I was just thinking every night I work in the bar all the girls are out and about. Its funny I never get the once look at, at a time in my life I thought I was desirable now that I am 29 and feeling my age I don't see it.

I always get the friend feeling when girls come up to me, do I?

A: Have to work-out everyday and become a meat head to hook up with some nice woman?

B: Is my height not what ladies are look for?

C: Is it that I work in the bar and only girls find interesting is guys that drive nice cars?

D: Or cause I don't wear my penis down the leg and around the back hanging out so everyone can see it?lol this one was a joke.

I think I don't have to change my looks to hook up, I just think I have gotten a little to old to hook up with younger girls and maybe I should venture to older women group. I leave it up to the blogs for help? Thank you

noirfemme 44F

7/1/2005 8:04 am

I've read a few of your posts and I think that the answer lies in you. You sound like someone who isn't very happy with your body...so you should get in the shape YOU will feel happy about. Also, your lack of self confidence is probably apparent to others. Women love confident men and not perfect looking men. So in a nutshell my advice is that you should work on the things in your life that you could be happier with, and she will come. Good luck!

moreplease9999 46M

7/16/2005 7:39 pm

frankly i think this website is bs. most of profiles are made up to generate traffics and new memberships$$$$. so waste your money to contact those fake profiles if you want at your expense

csmooth27 39M
11 posts
8/25/2005 3:38 pm

I think noirfemme said it best. It ultimately isn't your looks - it's the way you act and the confidence and intent that you project with your behavior. From reading your posts, you seem like a genuinely nice guy, and you are probably interesting and trustworthy and fun. I would enjoy being your friend. I've always been the one labeled "the nice guy" as well, and I am fine with that. Some years ago when I was really into the whole chat thing, I used to meet women quite well on the net, chat, make friends - sometimes those friendships lasted for a week, and other times for several years. I am talking about "online friends with benefits" where you get to talk about stuff and get naughty together, etc etc share fantasies... I've been friends with some pretty hot and confident women online, and I had the chance to ask the same question - why oh why am I not the first guy to appeal to the sort of hot, confident women we all seem to want? Is it the looks? Is it being I'm nice and they don't want nice? No. The answer was confidence, time and time again. It all stems from how satisfied you are with your own self, with your look, with your image in life. If you don't think your face looks that appealing, change your hair style a bit and see if it makes YOU feel more confident about it. If you aren't comfortable with the overall size of your body in terms of extra fat, then you have to lose some weight and build some muscles so that it makes YOU feel more confident with your appearance. Think about the way you dress - do you wear the best type of clothing to bring out the best features of your body properly and project a modern look? I think it's all about that initial image until they get to know you much better and see that deep down you're probably exactly the guy they've been hoping to meet, but you have to make them want to learn more about you first. When you are content with your own image, you start liking and enjoying yourself better, and people see that immediately. It brings about the change in attitude. We've all seen some really gorgeous women go for all types of strange-looking men, but those men all have confidence and attitude that makes them masculine and attractive. There's definitely a fine balance to walk between confidence, being nice, being masculine, not being too arrogant, and showing just enough heart.

I am a straight guy here, so don't take this the wrong way, but... I think you got the looks. I think you got the charm. But if that doesn't seem to be working, perhaps it's time to think about a better way to present your package, like I was saying above.

Now, of course, we can't ever please everybody, and we can never be and shouldn't want to be everybody's type. For instance, I don't want to be with every woman that looks good just because she's been given the certain anatomy and is deemed "really good-looking" by many people. Many times a woman that may be labelled "less good looking" by others is the one that appeals to me most, just because of the way she holds herself, the combination of looks and personality that just works with me... Same here.

But I think there's no reason women shouldn't be interested in you. Perhaps you've been looking for the wrong types of women, perhaps you've been looking in the wrong places, who knows. I think you need to change your attitude and your confidence level and be more enthusiastic and certain that you ARE desirable and that it WILL happen.

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