Anyone Into the Poly Lifestyle?  

JrsyKnight69 40M
27 posts
8/10/2005 10:54 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Anyone Into the Poly Lifestyle?

I don't think I can be truthful to one woman for the rest of my life. I would love to have kids, but the Marriage, being with one woman for the rest of my life doesn't make me feel safe and warm. I heard about this Poly lifestyle that makes me go HMM? Being with one woman as the alpha but still date and have a relationship outside of my marriage, that you do all what you do with your wife. I feel that living a double life isn't fair for my future wife, so if I was to be married and practice safe sex will the poly lifestyle be what I want. What is everyone else views on this topic, and have they been involved and what are the pros and cons about it? Just need to know a little insite to this lifestyle, and also does it work if you don't live in UTAH?

csmooth27 39M
11 posts
8/25/2005 2:59 pm

Well, I think how many women you can manage having concurrently is how many times the headache you're gonna have to deal with because they are all human beings with real feelings and will need a part of your heart in one way or the other... Maybe you talk about the Poly Lifestyle because you haven't yet met the one who was so special that it would make you forget about the possibility of looking for another woman to be with. Personally, I am 27, and I am not thinking about marriage at all yet - maybe some 7-10 years down the road or something. But even so, I can't imagine being engaged in a Poly Lifestyle like that. I mean, it's one thing if you're just doing NSA stuff with the understanding that no commitment is implied or wanted - when you're a free bird, but it's a whole different story when someone commits. At least in my eyes, commitment is an honor thing. If you know you want to be with more than one partner, just don't commit and don't let her commit to you. Then your conscience is clear that things are in the open and understood rather than going behind her back and hurting her later because they ALWAYS know. Maybe not in the beginning but eventually they figure it out.

I say just have fun and don't think hard about having to get married until it happens When you find the one, you'll know what to do, no doubt.

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