JohnerH 35M
44 posts
5/12/2005 11:09 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


This is something that I think happens to all of us in some sort of way or manner...

Ever happen that you where per say, in a bus or a train, and suddenly in front of you sits a girl/boy for which you get absolutely god smacked?

Well, it happened to me recently, I was on the bus reading away on a magazine, when all of a sudden this girl sits down...

Now at first I think nothing of it (as one normally does), just another absolutely gorgeous looking girl.....but as minutes ticked by and I start looking closer, I started to take a fancy...

Now this is pretty normal, what isn't is the fact that with me, I kinda drift... I start thinking..

. o O 0 ( What is she like? )

. o O 0 ( What kind of person is she? )

. o O 0 ( What makes her tick? )

As I drift,I start thinking things, normally depending on what she looks like and hows she dressed I make up this fictional personality to her...

At this point I'm drifting, fitting this absolute gorgeous stranger to my dream girl...

But, now that I have this image, I want to explore, I want to say something, but what? How?

How does one approach a random stranger in our day and age without being a weirdo?

How does anyone approach new people in general? (in a social way that is)

Is there a book? A manual perhaps?

How days I seem to think the easiest way cyber, or better yet, (at least where I live) done through alcohol.

I was brought up to believe that we meet people through friends. But why? How I wish sometimes that I could just go up to a normal person and just spark a conversation without at the end of it that person turning around and thinking, "God, I can't believe he/she just came up to me..."

Ave course I'm exaggerating, there are instances where this doesn't happen and where we do in fact meet people new my chance...

What I'm trying to say is....I wish it was normal, at least here, that if I wanted to go up to the girl on the bus I could, and I wouldn't be afraid to do so just because society dictates I shouldn't...

But then again some people will disagree with me, I guess at the end of the day I just don't have the guts


rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
5/12/2005 2:50 pm

I never know how to approach someone either. I guess that's why I'm meeting men here There are just so many things to consider. I don't know what it's like where you are, but for me... I guess this is my standard answer about a lot of things... different approaches will work with different people. Something that I would find flattering, might offend another woman, or vice versa. The one thing I CAN tell you is to go with your instincts. If you see a girl, and you think she might be interested, and something inside you is telling you to talk to her, then do it. In the end, you're more likely to regret not talking to her and losing that opportunity, than you are to regret talking to her and it not working out. If that makes any sense at all?

JohnerH 35M

5/14/2005 3:58 am

Makes sense...

Problem is, I guess I'm just tired of getting dumped on a first word basis... Believe me a couple of years ago I wouldn't blink and I woulnd't care about the outcome, BUT, as years go by and I seem to "grow" up I tend to care a bit more about the reaction that one gives and gets from other people........

Goooddddddd, I'm getting old............... at 23 shouldn't we all just be wild and crazy?? bah !

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