Relationship Question  

Jasmine179 32F
429 posts
5/10/2005 4:29 pm

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3/11/2008 8:50 pm

Relationship Question

Hi, so I guess I have a question that would mostly be for other lesbian women, why is it so hard to find someone? I don't mean just for some "fun", but like for a relationship. I was in an long, serious and amazing relationship until November and it ended kind of suddenly (but I know you don't want to hear all the details), I didn't think it would be so hard to find someone. I guess what I'm really asking is do relationships for us really work? or maybe i should try being with a guy?? If you've been in the same situations I would like your opinion, thanks.

chowbox2004 43M
210 posts
5/10/2005 5:24 pm

Sorry Jas, This is off topic, I was having trouble with my email, Wanted to see if you got my response?
But in response to your post, Have you ever been with a guy?, or just the ladies?

rm_indul_gent1 55M
89 posts
5/10/2005 5:57 pm

Relationship struggles aren't gender specific ... but expanding your horizons to include the guys would at least improve your odds.
So if you start looking, I'm the guy with the green shirt who's waving with both arms.
Hope I don't look desperate.

2 posts
5/10/2005 6:51 pm

You need to try a relationship with a male outside of your age group. That way you will not feel threatened and the man will be experienced enough to respect your lesbianism. Maybe you are really bi, since you are willing to try. You look great and I'd certainly be a willing partner. This could help you find a long term partner.

thromboxane-2 53M
4 posts
5/13/2005 3:42 pm

Hi Jasmine, Some guys have the same experience. Things seem Ok, then it's a completely new scene. Searching for a new friend and achieving a comfortable level of interaction. Well, in university a couple of my friends were bi, one in particular felt an ambivalent pull towards being either a lesbian or straight, the extremes. She eventually settled for living as a bisexual heart breaker.
So, pick a guy, older and discrete naturally, who's very comfortable with his own identity. Who is not out to prove anything, and is willing to help you explore some other aspects of sensuality. Of course I would like to think, I fall into this category.

legacy444 38M
1 post
6/3/2005 5:21 am

Every guy almost seems obsessed with the idea that they can "convert" a lesbian. In university a really good friend of mine was a lesbian and very attractive (sorry I don't have her number anymore . I'm sure she was propositioned at least every day by people who were unable to accept her life choices.

Go with what your heart tells you, not with what others tell you to do. I think you're attractive enough that no straight guy can give you objective advice.


hopehaven 54F

6/27/2005 9:21 am

hi Jasmine,
i have the same problem as you, only i am just looking for sex, not ready for another relationship just yet, i am on this site and ITS still Hard to find someone, its all talk then when i want to meet, they run, lol...guess we are trying to hard, and when you stop looking, someone is interested, lol...just my 2 cents worth, hope you find someone and don't resort to men, nothing against you guys, but a WOMAN knows how to please a WOMAN! peace,

Tigger_N_Kittty 39M/39F
1 post
8/14/2005 2:37 pm

Hey Jazzy Jaz,

We def understand your issue. Kitty has been looking for a woman who is experienced for a long time. We've been with several women together, but she has yet to find someone who is as experienced as she is. It's been hard to find that connection for more than just curiosity or play.

We also have several lesbian friends who find it VERY hard to have a long-term relationship. Lots of politics, cliques and jealousy in the lesbian community... even amongst friends and their girlfriends.

If ever you wanna just talk about it.. we'd love to hear from you. Hope you can find us.. "tigger_kitty"

4happydays 46M

9/7/2005 8:15 am


Relationships are hard for any type of union. What most people fail to realize is that for any relationship to work it takes HARD WORK to be successfull. Even then it may still fail. I hate to brake it to you but LOVING someone is just not enough to be successfull.

4happydays 46M

9/8/2005 5:08 am

Loving someone is obviously the cornerstone of a strong and long lasting relationship. So is mutual respect, honesty and open lines of communication. Both partners have to believe in this in order for it to work. My wife does not believe these to be important which has lead me here in the first place. This makes my relationship good not great. I hope that you find someone who fits you like a glove. By the way I really like talking with you...I feel better....I hope you do. It is important to know that there are people out there that feel similar to me.

horsef1y 41M
55 posts
11/27/2006 3:49 pm

Hopehaven, best of luck in your search, and well said. For some reason, I think there's too much cowardice among men and women when it comes to intimacy. Too many of us are afraid of rejection--which may explain Jasmine's problem, too (hence the post here instead of private email). As Mrcc1994 said, love isn't enough: a relationship (of any orientation) takes commitment, communication, and compromise moreso than copulation or something as lofty as love. Adoration is wonderful, but rarely lasts without the other components in a healthy relationship.

FusedBaricChina 44M

3/11/2008 10:15 am

Relationships shouldn't be WORK. either it fits or it doesnt. U cant force it, and if it doesnt fit, u should move on. I cant wait to FIT my stiff throbbing cock in that wet lil pussy of your ,jaz. I bet it will be a perfect match...\8

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