A sombre thought  

JJKittyKat 59F
339 posts
1/9/2006 10:28 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

A sombre thought

These days, I find myself attending more funerals than weddings. Obituary columns offer fleeting glimpses of my lost youth and I hear echoes of lives lived.
The small bird flitting around my shoulder whistles a snatch of the Rolling Stones' classic: 'This could be the last time'. Every day we get coded messages, from birdsong to rustling leaves. They poke our souls, tired by the exertions of ambition and the pursuit of happiness. They ask: 'What are you striving for?' It is scarily obvious, today may well be the day.
In the past couple of years the day arrived for my mother, Jenny, and for Elaine, a witness at my wedding more than 20 years ago. They slipped their mortal coils within months of one another. Both from the same terrible disease, Multiple Sclerosis. For each the exit was slow and painful, but marked with dignity.
For those who have no experience of multiple sclerosis, it is an auto-immune disease, chronic and progressive. Each attack causes further damage to the myelin sheath surrounding certain nerve fibres resulting in speech and visual disorders, and often increasing paralysis and disability. Their deaths were sad to those whom they left behind but a relief of pain and suffering to them both. Death is not always a thing to be feared.
For nurses working with the gravely ill or the dying, death represents the core of their everyday reality. What should they make of our promises of genetic engineering and the new technologies that will keep us younger for longer and, for the disgustingly rich, might postpone death.
Each day they have the chance to hold the hand of a dying person and to gaze into the face of a Jenny or Elaine. They can sit with these patients and face the inevitable.
The passing of friends and loved ones brings us heartache, as well as the refreshment of wisdom. What should we fear in death? We return to the nothingness we came from, or we go somewhere else, or come back and repeat our mistakes.
Death is the point of life, not the end point. Our loss reminds us that we should commit ourselves to life and the living, sharing happiness and misery. It is almost the only thing worth caring about.


caressmewell 53F

1/9/2006 10:56 am

Thank you.


AlbertPrince 58M

1/9/2006 2:54 pm

Happy talk, keep talking happy talk.


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1/10/2006 3:39 am

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JJKittyKat 59F

1/12/2006 7:35 am

Katey-Thanks for your comment, I'm glad you appreciate the thoughts I expressed

Caress-you are very welcome

Al- I am happy


rm_joecalm2000 51M

1/12/2006 12:38 pm

I'm new to the site and still flitting about. I have spent most of my time here with a smile on my face reading peoples descriptions of both themselves and their anticipated encounters. There is a lot of hope here.
Yours is the first blog I've come across, to tell the truth, blog is a word I've heard but never really understood what it is. I'm starting to get it now (I'm not utterly dense, honest!).
Reading the above passage was very moving and all the more poignant for its location. There are many things in our lives that make us question our existence and the cruel injustices that just happen. I, like many others, have questioned the existence of God, when I witness these things. I like your approach best. Live for today, and enrich your own life and those around you, there is too much misery in the World and we all have the power to make other people happier.
I hope it ok for me to write here.
..oh and JJKittyKat...you have a lovely pair of tits.
Joe
x


JJKittyKat 59F

1/21/2006 9:14 am

joe- Thanks for visiting and your comments, of course it is ok for you to write here, Come back soon!


Sxy_Sadie 42F
3 posts
1/22/2006 3:29 pm

Hope you don't mind me posting. Have a member of my extended family suffering from MS at moment. A beautiful girl who is mother to a toddler. Your words are so honest and moving.


JJKittyKat 59F

1/30/2006 2:23 am

Sxy Sadie- Of course I don't mind, Sorry to hear about your relative with MS. I can only hope the disease presents itself in a mild form for her sake and her child. My thoughts go out to them both
J XX


PrimeTime69R 47F

2/3/2006 1:30 am

KK- LUV the name!!- (Check out my character's name in my doctor story/fantasy (you decide)

I appreciate you sharing your wisdom & insight with us. Thank you! I can especially appreciate the "poking at my soul, tired from the exertion of ambition and pursuit of happiness" (like a treadmill you cannot stop).

It was nice of you to admire nurses- my first profession. They usually do not get the respect and recognition that they deserve. They also probably deserve more money, but I don't think most of them are motivated by that factor. Personally for me, besides the daily stress (life or death) I had to endure, it was mostly the heartache that was unbearable.

Thanks again for a great perspective!

Recently, "I am not sure when I died inside……but I guess I recognized it when I got to the point that it wasn’t worth the bother or effort to lock my doors. It just doesn't matter. All of a sudden, I am not afraid. In fact, there are nights when I secretly welcome the intrusion and subsequent blessed relief from all this pain. This is liberating and sad."


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