The date or Friend ruiner!!!!  

Intenzityplus 52M
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7/31/2006 12:27 am

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7/31/2006 5:03 pm

The date or Friend ruiner!!!!

I was wondering, how does one tell someone that they are not sexually attracted to that person, but values there friendship. I know in my life I have encountered women who I thought I was sexually attracted to, but found out that I wasn't. I have always found it hard to express this to a person without hurting their feelings.

What does one do instead of telling them. I suspect that we don't call that person back nor do we make anymore plans to meet. But wouldn't that make a person wonder and think. Maybe it would hurt their ego's or self esteem, or possibly they would begin to develop an anger towards you and other men. So how does one get out of this situation without adding insult to injury.

I do believe in the direct approach to communication, but sometimes it does not work. The truth can be so hard to hear, yet I would prefer to hear it sooner than later. I hate to learn stuff later when I could have fixed it sooner. So my question still stands, how does one tell another that they like them but not in a sexual way....
Strange coming from a guy HUh?


7/31/2006 4:08 am

If you've had this happen a few times in your life, then maybe you need to review your own actions. Determine why these women got this impression from you, so you can avoid having to explain that you really aren't sexually attracted to them. If that doesn't work, then you just have to be direct. Otherwise, confusion may still be an issue.

F36redhead 47F

8/14/2006 10:05 am

In my books, being direct is the best approach. I would prefer to know upfront (being the forward person that I am) and I think it shows respect for the other person and their feelings. My why waste your time and theirs if your not interested!!

florallei 99F

9/2/2006 11:02 pm

Just say you are only interested in a platonic is kind and still get the point across.


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