Dose anyone know how to help a lady let her guards down and open wide?  

Imjust1umake2 36M
11 posts
8/19/2005 11:03 pm

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Dose anyone know how to help a lady let her guards down and open wide?


What I mean by this is, I have a wife who's sex drive has been on the no drive at all side. I need some help with her or my self to get the woman out of her I know all women have the potential to be! Women let me know!

rm_plsurskrs20 61M/61F
3 posts
8/20/2005 12:25 am

LOVE HER ALL THE TIME, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE NOT HAVING SEX. KISS AND HUG HER DURING THE DAY FEEL HER BU-- AND PU--Y. MAKE HER FEEL LIKE A WOMAN ALL THE TIME. TRY GRABBING HER AND DOING IT ANY WHERE YOU ARE, BUT WHEN YOU HAVE TIME, HOLD AND KISS HER, AND MAKE LOVE TO HER SLOWLY WITH DP. NEVER NEGLECT THE CUNNILINGUS. THAT'S OUR FAVORITE. HMMMMMM. I CAN FEEL IT NOW!


AtomicArtist0 45M
6015 posts
8/20/2005 12:44 am

I know how your lady can get her guard down and open wide. I say...move over Rover, and let Senor Atomic take over. Just kidding.


rm_kadalra 35M
1 post
8/20/2005 1:01 am

hi there


Puurple_Passions 46M/39F
140 posts
8/20/2005 1:31 am

You could always try "Courting" her all over again! Plan some surprise dates that will knock her socks off! I'm talking.. romantic dinner, dancing, a show (NOT movie) and then wisk her off to a really nice hotel where flowers, chocolate covered strawberries, a new sexy nightie and champagne wait there for her. Plan a few special and romantic seekend get aways. Surprise her with romantic, sensual love notes left around your home and car for her to find when you're gone so she's got you on her mind while you're away. Plan a night at home with a nice dinner, (cooked entirely by you of course) a decadent dessert, draw her a candlelit bubble bath with rose petals in the water, Offer to kneel by the tub and wash warm water down her back by squeezing it out of a large sponge and wash her hair for her. (TRUST ME... both those things feel SOOOO GOOD!!! finish it off with a sensual massage or a lovers board game. (a game called 'Foreplay' is a GREAT one!)Cover the bed with a sheet of plastic or table cloth and make sundae's out of each other with whipped cream, chocolate body paints, strawberry sauce and marachino cherries. Clean up by licking the sweet sticky mixure off each other and then get the sticky off with a hot steamy shower (LATHER, RINSE, REPEAT *whooo fun*!! Make her feel special, appreciated and WANTED in that sensual way you want to bring out of her. Try woo-ing her all over again. Sounds silly, I know. But it works a lot of the time! Worked for my hubby and I!! He did those things for me and I fell in love with him all over again and ever since then our relationship has been more sensual and loving than ever! Best of luck to ya!
~Passions~ (The F of the C)


AlbertPrince 58M

8/20/2005 1:50 am

I know nothing about sex, because I was always married.


rm_Balanon2 49M
193 posts
8/20/2005 2:16 am

Ewh... this one of those really tricky questions that can't be answered without further information. So many things affect a woman’s sex drive (and men too). It could be medical, in which case you can't do anything except than be supportive. More likely, something has changed between the two of you (assuming that she had a sex drive earlier in your relationship). She might not even be consciously aware of what has changed.

I hate to say, but it is likely that you have changed your behavior to become less interesting to her. Women (in general) are attracted to men that are a challenge. If you try too hard to please her, the attraction actually goes away. Doesn’t make any sense to us guys so we feel we need to be even nicer. The result is she starts to feel in complete control and no longer sees you as sexually desirable. Odds are she won’t even be able to tell you why, because it is an instinctual response not a logical on.

That doesn’t mean you need be bastard. Just don’t be predictable. Do things you want to do for her, but sometimes say no to a request from her that you don’t want to do. This will make things you do actually mean more to her and it establishes that you aren’t a doormat. Ever watch old movies? Try to channel Cary Grant! Make sure you keep your composure, show backbone and integrity, be a gentleman, but don’t be a pushover…ever!

Well, this should be a good start for you at least. But it is all just a wild guess unless you can tell us more. How about providing some more information? Start with how things used to be and when they changed. Any major events like births, deaths, sudden financial problems? I’ve been there too. It sucks and it won’t be easy to fix. Good luck!


GSpotStallion 47M

8/20/2005 2:41 am

Try getting her to talk about herself more in the conversation. Let her guide the conversation deeper. Do not talk about sports of any kind or anything violent. Allow her to speak, and listen! Sex will eventually become the current topic.


happyfuck9992 44F

8/20/2005 3:00 am

Could be alot of reasons...is she stressed,do you have children,are u sesitive to her feelings and wants....does she trust you wholeheartedly? Really, one needs more info. in order to give advice.


deeonlee111 57F

8/20/2005 3:31 am

I wish I could help you. The idea of having no sex drive is completely alien to me. They have that new suppliment that they advertise on TV. I think it's called Avlimil. Have you tried that? If that doesn't help, maybe the problem is physical. She may have a low level of testosterone. In any case, she needs to want to change things or the rest is pointless.


broadluvs77 52F

8/20/2005 3:56 am

Hey honey, one thing to do is to explore what may be stressing your wife out. One thing that turns a gal on is knowing that her man really cares about what's going on in her mind and her life and is willing to share the load. Really listen to her when she's had a bad day. Ask her what you can do to help her around the house or with a problem she's having. Take her out for a really nice dinner somewhere special. If there's a place she's been dying to go, take her there. If you can't afford the big bucks, pack some sandwiches, fruit, cheese, her favorite dessert in a cooler and take her on a picnic. To women, sex is often more spiritual than physical, and we've got to feel good about ourselves inside to feel good about sharing our bodies. You should also learn to talk about sex with her and explain to her (in terms that women understand) that you miss her body and that you need her touch and passion. You may find that she's willing, but maybe has been going through some changes in her body that make her feel unattractive to you, or that maybe you're not attentive in the ways you used to be out of the bedroom and she thinks you're not turned on by her anymore.


DirtyLilSecret61 55F

8/20/2005 4:08 am

I'd say a doctor's visit is in order. They have medicine to help women with their sex drive now.

"Lil"


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