One Panicking Dad  

Igottahaveit69 56M
34 posts
8/9/2006 8:37 pm

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8/26/2006 8:13 am

One Panicking Dad

Ok ladies out there, here is the scoop. My daughter (The thought police had denied this post due to the "under age" topic!) is showing signs of starting...dare I say it...PUBERTY

Now that I have regained some of my composure, I think I can ask the question. How do I broach the subject of feminine hygiene? I am not very well versed in the "Pad/Tampon" question. Hell, I am getting cold sweats thinking about teaching her how to shave! (Let's not talk about any bikini line ether)

Breathe in, Breathe out...Breathe in, Breathe out

Is there anyway that I can keep her "daddies angel" for a few more years? I don't want to loose my bestest friend to something as insidious as body chemistry of all things.

Help! I is skert bad.

rm_aboutme66 51F
6047 posts
8/9/2006 9:19 pm

good luck !!!!!! lmfao

Someday is today.

Igottahaveit69 replies on 8/26/2006 7:58 am:
Thanks aboutme66,
I am certain that I am going to need all the luck I can get

silverhawk762 51M/47F

8/9/2006 9:21 pm

Am I glad we have a boy!!!!! Start reading, my friend, start reading! Ask your family doctor for a reading list or for information - they generally have really good and really accurate information. She may already be gathering some information from older girls, and she may have already learned a few things from her mom (if she's around!). Kids, girls in particular, tend to be observant little beasties when it comes to hygiene issues. Just be ready for questions (some of 'em you already know the answer to!) when she starts asking, and don't back down. That's what the internet is really useful for - research things together if that's what it takes when she does ask! You've got to realize, though, that some girls can get pretty secretive about this kind of thing. Keep her talking to you, and don't let the mood swings bug you too badly!!!

Igottahaveit69 replies on 8/26/2006 8:03 am:
Hey guys! Thanks for the help. I read, I worry, I take things as they come, I worry....
Girls are great, but now I understand every joke ever made about dads and their shotguns!
Good luck with your son.

impish_pixie 54F
6867 posts
8/19/2006 6:28 pm

Alright Dad....and don't forget that you DID ask. I wish I knew how old she was because that would help in the response, but I'm going to guess that she's between 12-13. First and foremost, DON'T EVER SAY THE WORDS "FEMININE HYGENE" to her. LOL Give her the respect and "honor" she deserves as a "young girl" about to pass into the world of "young woman". Swallow your embarrasment and talk to her as if it is the most natural thing in the world, (because is). Tell her you know she's noticing things starting to change with her body, inside and out, and that this is something to be celebrated. Remember that she's already getting "education" in school, so she's going to already know the rudimentary aspects. Do you have a female friend or family member that she is close to? If so, tell her that though you have no problem talking to her about these things you understand that she may not be as comfortable and that so and so is available if she'd perfer to talk to her. Remember...this does not have to be a "sit down" talk, it's probably better if you have this talk while you're doing something the two of you enjoy, or even just while you're riding down the road in the car. Make it as normal everyday life as you can. At some point, take hold of her hand and tell her that this change that is coming is going to be one of the defining moments of her life, and as such, should be celebrated. When that day finally comes, celebrate it for the incredible event that it is...take her to a nice resturant, gift her with her first roses, and if possible, give her something to mark this special day. She will remember this forever...and you will have cemented your place as her hero forever. Daughters base their future relationships with men based on their relationships with their Daddy's. Give her something HIGH to strive for.

AND...if she's not wearing a bra yet, and if it's time...for God's sake, DO NOT take her to Walmart for her first bra. Take her straight to Victoria's Secret and let the nice ladies there help her find something special. This way you are showing her that she always deserves the best.

Good Luck! and don't forget to actually "enjoy" this special time in her life.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn

Igottahaveit69 replies on 8/26/2006 8:12 am:
Hey there Pixie!
1) Never mention "femine hygine"...check
2) Respect and Honor...check
3) No embarassment...check
4) Be open with her...check
5) Borrow female family member (my sister will be great for this)...check
6) No "sit down talk", keep it natural...check
7) Celibration not comisseration...check
Victoria's Secrets for her first bra (I am going to end up in the poor house)...check

One last question, does she really have to grow up? I guess the hardest part of having kids is letting them grow and go. She is only nine, but the writing is on the wall and the clock just won't stop.

Thank you for all your help and support.

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