Help on making sex last longer.  

Idunno135 33M
48 posts
7/10/2005 7:49 am

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Help on making sex last longer.

Hey ya'll. Kind of an embarrasing question to ask but it has really started to bother me a little. I have, since I lost my virginity, been having rather bland and tasteless sex. I've done it for about five times so far and none of the times except the first two did I make her cum. She's just so loose I can barely feel it, I have no real urge to fuck her, but she needs it so I do it.

One: I have no Exp. on sex. I haven't had anyonne else who just have a casual fling with to help me learn. She is just in it for the fact I have a cock she finds massive compared to her soon to be fiance's dick.
Two: My stamina is utter crap. I finally broke eight minutes on my last time. I was hard again in 30 secinds but she didn't want to fuck.

As far as I can tell, given the way I masturbate and things I probably could get hard again over and over but will i always stay so quick in bed? Is there anyway to hold off my dick's quick releases?

Any help, from any sides would help.

Also could anyone tell me what kinky sex is/is like. I have a friend who goes on and on about kinky sex, and I have no clue what it is like or why it's called kinky sex. Just a hint really.



wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/10/2005 8:09 am

1.forget about kinky or classifying something as kinky,

just explore and experience don't limit yourself thinking just because it isn't thrusting that it isn't good....

2.fist her instead if she is so lose be gentle, and find a way to get yourself off when done, but personnally I would say lose her and find someone who is more aligned to what you are looking for...

3. if you want to last don't focus on the thrust just touch carress lightly stimulate and enjoy don't even pursue orgasm it will happen in it's own time in the course of your play and be so much better when it does happen....consider penetration the last priority....and just explore from there


007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
7/10/2005 10:25 am

Sounds like shes not really into you, because it takes cooperation from both sides to sometimes make the man last longer. If shes too loose then I think she's been playing with something a lot bigger than her fiance's dick. Hell even women who has had children bounce back to some degree of tightness. If you are not lasting long and she dont want more after you are hard again, I agree with Rose, lose her. SEEMS LIKE SHE IS ONLY ABOUT HERSELF AND NOT YOU.
If you insist on keeping her you might try some finger play. Oral is good if she is kool with giving it to you. You can try watching her play with herself while you stroke yourself from across the room. One last thing, mind control is one big factor. when you penetrate her and you feel an orgasm peeking, BACK OFF, pull out and start doing some kissing, rubbing and what ever else you desire but stay occupied doing other sexual things before penetrating her again.

I hope this help

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rm_venture12002 62M
67 posts
7/10/2005 12:00 pm

You're young and this is new to you so it sounds pretty normal.You'll go longer as you get older.However if it does become a problem for someone I'll put my way on here.When you feel a orgasm start, and you can.Stop moving it, tense you're muscles down there and think about something else.Just kiss or whatever and it will pass quickly.With practice you can learn to control those muscles and hold off as long as you want.But again Idunno you are normal, so don't sweat it.

rm_qcao1 48F
197 posts
7/10/2005 12:45 pm

Change positions and movements frequently... alternate between fast and slow movement.

Men would be more helpful in answering your question than women in this case.

Lilly227 51F

7/10/2005 1:52 pm

Sounds like your at the perfect stage. Curious? If I were in your shoes I would spend more time with foreplay,oral sex, giving her oral so she is more stimulated if your concerned about her cumming. Also, for could masterbate before the date so you can last longer. During sex one trick that works is "thinking about something not sexy". For example, think all the stages a person must go through to hit a baseball, something mechanical, or your mother (well not that extreme) just think of something unrelated to sex, but not so off beat that you lose your erection.

Kinky? Everything is kinky some more tame than others. Roleplay, rough sex, bondage, 3-somes, MFM, FMF, water sports, watching others, toys, nipple clamps.....just read the site and you'll get more than enough exposure to "What Kinky IS".

Can you send me a pic of your cock please.....I like to watch!

Idunno135 33M

7/10/2005 11:33 pm

...Can you send me a pic of your cock please.....I like to watch!
Send me an e-mail and I will send you a pic. Heh, if you like I have a few a friend of mine made me take because she wanted to see.
For some reason I can't look at anyone's profile. Which sucks when you want to find out more.

>>giving her oral.
No matter how many times I try I just can't get into giving a girl oral. Maybe so far all the ones who I have just havn;t cleaned themselves out, but everytime so far has been nasty.

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