For my Sisters: Have Fun With Your Life!  

IamWetFire 52F
739 posts
8/28/2006 9:48 am

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For my Sisters: Have Fun With Your Life!

Have fun with life.
Keep your life simple.
Remember that the little girl in you loves to play.
Play, laugh, and always have at least one good friend you can take to lunch.
Work for the joy of it,
not just for the money.
Always love for the sake of it,
not fearing the pain.
Give your best!
Do your best!
Be your best!
And, if there is ever a day or time when you cannot figure out what to do,
throw your hands in the air and dance!
God's angels are your partners.
Be Blessed, Dear Ones!

-- Iyanla Vanzant and the Inner Vision Mothers
"Don't Give It Away"



The weekends always give me the opportunity to catch up here in Blogland. I can post more than a small note here in the Grotto and I can peruse the blogs of all my friends, post replies and welcome the newcomers.

This weekend I noticed something that, as ever, disturbs me. Size-ism. In other words, the obvious distaste for any woman who is larger than a size 8.

NEWS FLASH:
Barbie is a piece of plastic.


I have been Barbie--well, Cajun Fire Barbie, granted--with my perfect Playboy Bunny body of 38D--18--35. But life is real, not plastic. And it throws curves and fuck-ups in the way of every single one of us. There are metabolic disorders and medications that destroy the body's ability to keep itself svelte and trim. It is ridiculous to assume anyone over a certain size got that way due to laziness.

Toss out that image of a fat woman lolling about on a sofa and stuffing herself with bon-bons while watching soap operas. It may happen, but NOT in my home. I can't even remember the last time I ate a piece of candy and I would rather chew tin foil while poking myself in the butt with a meat fork than watch daytime TV.

And now as I slide back down from my size 18 into a 16, I have absolutely no need to apologize because I'm no longer a "perfect" size 7. Why should I apologize, or for one moment abuse my own sense of self because someone else has narrow vision? America has created for itself a dichotomy. Eat, eat, eat to excess, but do NOT get fat. Another news flash: we are the fattest nation on the planet. Get over it.

These delusions of the "perfect" woman's body are shaped by the media; heroine addicted models on the covers of fashion magazines, or Hollywood idols who starve themselves, take pills and stick fingers down their throats. They walk down red carpets in ten thousand dollars dresses looking like holocaust victims. Wrapped in the most expensive Prada, a bundle of sticks is still a bundle of sticks.

Dressed in Roberto Cavalli or clothed merely by moonlight, I am ME at any size. I am warm. I am hot. My skin is more silky and creamy alabaster than you can imagine. My curves are dangerous and know what they're doing. I am passion made manifest in glorious flesh. Alive. Unapologetic for my overwhelming power and charisma.

And those who overlook and dismiss me because I am not that size 7 anymore have no clue what they've missed. The brain and banter alone are worth the price of admission.



Cozy_Red 50F

8/28/2006 10:09 am

Well said!! I love my womanly curves and bits of extra here and there!






ZZ_Todd 59M

8/28/2006 11:08 am

I'll take brain and bantor any day!


IamWetFire 52F

8/28/2006 11:22 am

You're a real man, though, my Delicious One! The sort who would be laid down upon sheets of satin in my Grotto's inner sanctum, my passions whispered across your flesh like paintbrushes on canvas!

And Cozy! Yet another stunning real woman in Blogland. I do love your blog, sweetie! I'm so glad you've found mine. Please come back to the Grotto anytime.


Cozy_Red 50F

8/28/2006 12:44 pm

    Quoting IamWetFire:
    You're a real man, though, my Delicious One! The sort who would be laid down upon sheets of satin in my Grotto's inner sanctum, my passions whispered across your flesh like paintbrushes on canvas!

    And Cozy! Yet another stunning real woman in Blogland. I do love your blog, sweetie! I'm so glad you've found mine. Please come back to the Grotto anytime.
Thank you very much , I certainly will be back






GraspCrownRusts 46M
780 posts
8/28/2006 12:59 pm

Who is this "Barbie" you speak of and where can I find her?

Nah, I agree with Todd on this one - personality, imagination and attitude is what makes one infinitely sexy.

To quote a very sexy gal I recently read,
"Dressed in Roberto Cavalli or clothed merely by moonlight, I am ME at any size. I am warm. I am hot. My skin is more silky and creamy alabaster than you can imagine. My curves are dangerous and know what they're doing. I am passion made manifest in glorious flesh. Alive. Unapologetic for my overwhelming power and charisma."

Zowie! Now this one's a hottie, ya'll!


kyplowboy22 61M

8/28/2006 1:39 pm

Some women (men) are just skinny by nature, some are full figured. It's just the way of things. Either one is ok by me, if it is naturally occuring. Not many arguments are gonna be won with Mother Nature.

I have no problems with women (men) who watch their diet, exercise a little and take pride in their appearance. All of that can be done within the scope of reality and in the spirit of good physical and mental health.

Where I do begin to have problems is in the realm of things that induce people to behave in ways that are contradictory to good physical/mental health. The 'fashion industry' being a primary culprit of this.

They set a synthetic standard that few can achieve in a natural state of being. Not sure of the motives there, but it is tied to profits some how, you can count on that much. Maybe the constant need for women (men) to buy more clothes as they fluctuate up and down the size scales...I dunno, but there is a profit in there somewhere for the dress makers (tailors). It has less to do with style than profit, would be my guess.

I don't know a great deal about this sort of thing, but I do know it is not natural to gag yourself until you puke. Nope. It is not natural to starve yourself to the point of weak trembles and declining health. It is not natural to seek malnutrition as a lifestyle choice. Why would you do that? Defies logic. It is insane, irrational behavior.

You can hear all kinds of excuses surrounding it, but will never hear but one reason. There is a world of difference between excuses and reasons. A mental disorder is at work there and it is causing that person to behave in an irrational way. That is the reason for it. And the fashion industry is capitalizing on the mental instabilities of a whole sector of the population. Self esteem issues? I dunno, but can only assume this is at the core of this trend. I find it rather ironic to look at the fashion moguls themselves; their little double-chinned, frumpy asses can't even fit into the clothes they design and market as 'the to die for' way to go! I find this hilarious, in a pathetic sort of way.

It never ceases to amaze me how people will let themselves be manipulated by others. Maybe it's just me, but I kind of flip the tables around on the fashion industry. Hell, if they want my money, they better put a product in front of me I can use. I look at them as potential employees of mine. I am not here to accomadate them, rather they are here to accomadate me! If Yabadabaducci wants to make a sale to me, he better be makin' it in my size. I ain't gonna waste a minute of time pukin' lunch or starving myself to fit his clothes. I'll just go to the next shelf and find something there that fits me. That is the fella that will making his car payments with my cash.

I am not skinny. Nor am I obese. 6'2"/215-220 pounds. Kind of middle of the road, I guess. I am fairly active and in pretty good health for my age and milage. No 'six-packs' anymore, but no kegs either. I'm fine with it. I dress for comfort and functionality. Those that don't like it need to go elsewhere to look. I ain't out to impress anybody with that nonsense. And I am fine with women that are comfortable in their own skins and the clothes they choose to wear. Regardless of the ripples or curves involved in it. I would much rather spend my time with a woman that is healthy and stable in compostition than one that is sickly and unsure of herself. Hell, if I want a project like that, I will go to the stockyards and get me a bottle-calf to nurse around. lol

Later

kpb


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
8/28/2006 2:37 pm

Posts on the subject:

[post 63401] and Yes, I'm Fat. So what? by Yours Truly;

The Fat Thing by moonlightphoenix


The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


IamWetFire 52F

8/28/2006 2:41 pm

Hey KPB! Thanks for crossposting your comments here. Like I said over on your blog, I just about spit my danged coffee across the room when I read your comment about the bottle-fed calf!


drivinthrough 61M

8/28/2006 2:57 pm

Definatly don't want the proverbially Barbie. Who could live with that kind of perfection, where would the personality be??


TickleMeBBW 36F

8/28/2006 3:48 pm

I hear ya sister, really enjoyed that post.


IamWetFire 52F

8/28/2006 4:46 pm

Thanks Drivin' and Shawnee!

And look. . .see what I was talking about! PrincessKarma. She's STUNNINGLY beautiful and intelligent as well. And yet, there are jackasses out there that insist on some skinny-assed bimbo without the sense God gave a doorknob because they're afraid their friends will make fun of them if they don't have "arm candy." (Yeah, you know I'm talking about all you Naval Aviators here in town! )

They're just scared. They know they can't handle a real woman! Shallow Hals NOT welcome. They don't deserve what we have to offer.


IamWetFire 52F

8/28/2006 6:06 pm

Hi ya Tickle. . .or should that be G'day?

Here you go, fellas, yet another gorgeous woman checking in.

I think we need to form our own coalition here on Passion and AdultFriendFinder. The Coven of the Luscious Articulates! (With appropriate nods to another lovely, large lady, Anne Rice.)

Thanks for dropping by the Grotto, Tickle. Please come back soon!


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
8/28/2006 9:31 pm

    Quoting IamWetFire:
    Thanks Drivin' and Shawnee!

    And look. . .see what I was talking about! PrincessKarma. She's STUNNINGLY beautiful and intelligent as well. And yet, there are jackasses out there that insist on some skinny-assed bimbo without the sense God gave a doorknob because they're afraid their friends will make fun of them if they don't have "arm candy." (Yeah, you know I'm talking about all you Naval Aviators here in town! )

    They're just scared. They know they can't handle a real woman! Shallow Hals NOT welcome. They don't deserve what we have to offer.
Awwww... shucks... *BLUSH* Thank you...

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


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