The Carrott, the Egg and the Coffee Beans  

HotTXpussy4U 48F
2177 posts
12/12/2005 12:47 pm

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The Carrott, the Egg and the Coffee Beans

Mom has been busy again - trying to boost my spirits. I just love her!!


This was too good a life lesson not to pass on! A carrot, an egg and a cup of coffee... You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?""Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity .. boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water,its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water."Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

klauskissnhug 57M

12/12/2005 1:22 pm

Thanks for this post. I wrote something somewhat similar: "Eschew Ersatz Encomium," in my blog. Resiliency- that's the ticket. Research in the field of human development suggests that this quality, more than intelligence, determines one's ability to successfully solve life problems. But there is more- the transformative healing power of the divine Arabica. Thank God that even if I was a carrot or egg yesterday, I can be coffee today.

wombat_ 48M

12/12/2005 1:49 pm

Interesting life comparissons. I see these sorts of characteristics at work everyday. We all face varied degrees of adversity all the time. Sometimes minor like running late for a meeting and other times more impacting like losing a major deal or even losing a job. How we handle is very hard to predict.

Recently we had a major incident at one of my factories that involved two people with an unhealthy hatred towards each other that began with words and ended in violence and finally in a physical attack against the factory with a fire. Those I saw (two in particluar) as quiet mushrooms in the corner who just did there job day to day suddenly sprung to life and did an amazing job of securing the safety of others. There were plenty of fire extinguishers around yet only 3 were being used whilst others ran. And surprisingly two were being held by females. Amazing stuff.

Adversity of some degree challenges our soul every day. How we react is a constant source of surprise in many people and the ability to transition from carrot to egg to cofee bean and all the way around again is somewhat a fascination and why people are people.


Kimmers777 106F

12/12/2005 1:51 pm

Great message. Definitely worth remembering and pondering some more.
Thank you.

HotTXpussy4U 48F

12/12/2005 2:03 pm

Thanks for sharing..the ability to fluctuate through every day life does make it nice to know you can be coffee any day.

Personally, I never drink the stuff. But 2 weeks ago I did, how ironic it was that I would do that and that this would cross my pages today...

Smiles - HotTx

HotTXpussy4U 48F

12/12/2005 2:50 pm

Thank you for the post.
I like to think that on most days, I am the coffee bean. But it's not until I have a day of being the carrot that makes me realize how strong I really am. Maybe it goes back to the saying of something like "you have to go all the way to the bottom before you can climb back up"..something like that. If you can't recognize your weakness, how do you know what you need to work on.

Well - those are my thoughts anyway... Smiles - HotTx

gnr8nrg 46M

12/13/2005 3:45 pm

A great story. One I want to remember. I've been all three at different times in my life. When times are really tough I ground myself and meditate. Inner peace and instant connection, but I also like to run my anger. That energy creates change in my life instantly. I try to look at the positives, so on that note all three taste good to others after being boiled and changed. Timing is everything and if your a carrot when someone wants an egg, or coffee when they want a carrot you move on, learn, change, and grow; into a carrot coffee cake. I was getting too serious there.

ArgosPlumyKooky 45F
3902 posts
12/15/2005 7:33 pm

that was great to read. thanks for sharing it.

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