I did it and I Survived!!!!!!!!!!!  

HotTXpussy4U 48F
2177 posts
8/14/2006 9:03 pm

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8/16/2006 8:40 am

I did it and I Survived!!!!!!!!!!!

I've wrote about it - I've read about it...so after all the reading..

I can't believe I'm saying this...

But I took the advice of all the MEN.

Yep - - you said to be honest....so I did it.

I stressed over it, big time. But like ya'll have said a million times - - Honesty is the best policy.

So when it was apparent that I needed to let my date from last week know - - I just did it.

I wonder now - - was an email too impersonal? It's not like we had talked on the phone but a few times. Most talk was on chat.

Well - regardless...I chose email.

So you MEN - - - did I do okay?

He seems to be okay with it...

Is there something I could have said to make it better??? I'm such a worrywart over what someone will think of me...so I can't help but wonder. In the end - I was just honest.

Tell me your thoughts........

> ---------------------------------------------------
> Sender: HotTXpussy4U
> To: (name removed)
> Date: Aug 14, 2006 6:18 PM CDT
> Hi (insert name here),
> Hope that you had a nice weekend at the lake with your friends. And that you still had running water when you got home! Other than trying to stay cool in the A/C, I enjoyed my weekend of rest.
> I felt like I need to let you know where things stand with us, at least from my point of view. If I've learned nothing from this site in the past year - - it's to not lead anyone on. Ya'll would rather be told than to pretend it's something when it's not. And I think that if we were to go out again, that's exactly what I would be doing. Sure, I do think we have some things in common..but as far as it going any further than where we are at - I don't feel like that will happen. Not that you are not a nice guy..because you very much are. But in the end, I don't think that our personalities are a good match for anything other than friendship.
> As much as I can blog and talk about things that make no sense - I hope that I at least made some sense in what I just said above. I wish you all the best and know that the right girl for you is out there. Maybe not here on AdultFriendFinder, but she's out there somewhere.
> Smiles,
> (my name)

His Reply:

(My Name),
Ok. Fair enough. You're right. Honesty is always best, and I do appreciate it. I admit that I hadn't made up my mind one way or the other, but was hoping for one more chance. But that's ok. I guess if there is no 'spark' then there's not much I can do about it. But no hard feelings. Friends?

(His Name)

So there - - I survived. I still feel like I sucked at it....but I'm learning.

67coyboy 49M  
494 posts
8/14/2006 10:17 pm

hello HotTXpussy4U,
i support your decision to be honest and frank.
the facades,drama,and headgames are what many on
this site shun.

a toast and a sip to you


rm_MustangD6644 51M
1031 posts
8/15/2006 2:31 am

Your letter was polite and straight to the point with none of that belittling bullshit of "don't you get it" or "cant you take a hint", that a lot of women come out with, like we have nothing better to do than to try and second guess a woman. We all know that's just a recipe for disaster attempting that, so the best thing is to be open and honest.

While were being open and honest, I just love your photo, now that is sex appeal.


from Marvelous Melbourne Down Under in Aussie Land

aries_flames 48F

8/15/2006 9:14 am

You did the right thing. You were tactful and polite, and never belittled him in any way. Honesty is always best, and stringing him along further would have been more malicious than telling him outright how you felt.


mygmyg 59M

8/15/2006 9:32 am

Having an honest opportunity to meet and then each of you make that decision is what the "Adult" part of the sight is all about!!

Mature, honest and direct, is what I would want every time!! And your conveyance of the "possibility of more" was polite and without malice. No one is to blame, just friends!!

his response is what he felt, no more no less!!

Hot Tx. nothing but respect and admiration for you!! (Oh and the obvious sexual stuff will always be there, but that is natural too!!XXXX )

HotTXpussy4U 48F

8/15/2006 10:24 am

Thank you all for all of your support. Your opinions do matter to me...

Hugs and Kisses to All {=}

BoTex1953 63M

8/15/2006 10:31 am

I agree with all of the above. You did the right thing in a very tasteful way. Best of luck in the future. Keep the honesty, it's missing from so many today.


HotTXpussy4U replies on 8/15/2006 12:54 pm:
And thank you for stopping by - - I see I'm your first..I'm honored! {=}

docdirk 47M

8/15/2006 5:52 pm

Very tasteful and considerate. Much better job than I could do. Of course, I'd be hiding under a rock not taking phone calls!!!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

Supervy_Sage 50M

8/16/2006 12:55 am

That was good. You both know how you feel. It might have hurt is pride a touch, but us men are tuff and bounce back quick. Honesty is always the best policy unless it will put you in front of a firing squad! haha.

Continue to be friends. Later, you might find that he was the "guy" for you. Then maybe not. Up to you.

The Super Pervy Sage


8/16/2006 8:00 am

I couldn't have said it better myself....I've heard it a couple of times, mind you...LOL

Seriously, you handled that situation as gracefully as anyone could.

Hope that all is well in your world.

Take care,

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