time to vent  

HotSC71 46M/45F
86 posts
9/9/2005 8:26 pm

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time to vent


Ok , this is confessional for me. It is 11:19 pm on Friday night the 9th of September and I am MAD. It just seems as though listening to my husband of 11 yrs snore through the bedroom door is making me crazy. I followed him in the at his early bedtime and made is pretty obvious that I was wanting to play around. His reaction was NOTHING. I finally came right out and asked, " you just don't want to be with me sexually do you. you are ok having sex 1 or 2 a month." He said I wish you would leave me the fuck alone. Well, I told him I am tired of this and not willing to live as roommates any longer. I don't know if it is me that he is not attracted to or if he is just plain depressed. I am 33 and in my prime and tired of begging for any kind of sex from him just to be let down 80% of the time. When we do have it most of the time it is ok,"BEND OVER" I don't get rubbed licked or get to cum....I think in the last year he has given me oral sex about 3 times, not something he wants or will do. But on the other hand I suck his cock everytime he lets me and have also just sucked it without sex. I thought this is a mans dream, to have a faithful wife that wants and enjoys sex. I am stuck and getting more and more frustrated,,,,,,,cheating will end a marriage on bad grounds,,,,,,,I have asked him to start looking for a place to live, the house is in MY NAME!! OK, not sure any of you care about that but I had to vent,,,,,,,thanks and love ya!

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
9/9/2005 10:00 pm

Oh, I'm sorry to hear all that. It's always sad when a marriage, especially one of such duration, comes to such a point.

I take it there are other things besides the sex-drive difference that are driving you apart but I can well understand you might want to be a little circumspect about some of it here, in a public forum (odd how much easier it sometimes is to talk about sex than other things).

There's a stereotype that men always want sex and women less so; as you've found out, that's not always so. The reasons can be hormonal or mental (depression) or, as you note, down to simple attraction. Maybe you can find out which one applies here - that requires honest conversation that you may or may not be able to have with your husband.

But as long as it isn't simple lack of attraction, there may be something that can be done to bring that pazzazz back into your marriage. Or maybe there's a marriage that can be saved ... but maybe it'll require something outside the marriage to do so ... perhaps it's time to talk to your husband about your needs.

I hope you find a way through this, ma'am ... drop me a line if you want to offload.


rm_uthaman2 52M
2 posts
9/9/2005 10:38 pm

i here you but i am male, what am i going to do?


rm_farmboy730 46

9/11/2005 6:55 am

i am sorry that you are going thru this ,my wife and i have sex almost every night and have since we got married.and we do have an open relationship on top of that,so if i can help you thru this in any way please let me now ,just drop me a post on here and i'll send you some contact info ,hopeing you the best,farmboy730


FISHINFOOL41 53M

9/12/2005 6:06 am

HEY HOTSC FISH HERE I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN ABOUT SEX. MY WIFE DOESN'T PLAY EITHER WE BEEN MARRIED FOR 11 YRS NOW AND I CAN COUNT ON ONE HAND HOW MANY TIMES I GOT PLAYED WITH IT HAS BEEN OVER 2 YRA NOW. O BUT SHE LOVES IT IF I PLAY THAT IS JUST FINE WITH HER.SO I LOOK AT IT LIKE THIS IF I CAN'T GET IT AT HOME I WILL GO SOMEWHERE ELSE.SO LOOK AT THE WRITING ON THE WALL REDRANGER522 WILL MAKE YOU YAHOO & CUM


FISHINFOOL41 53M

9/13/2005 10:29 am

HEY HOTSC TAKE THE LAST LINE IN MY LAST MESSAGE AND PUT TOGETHER E MAIL IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN LIKE REDRANGER522 AT


FISHINFOOL41 53M

9/14/2005 7:29 am

HEY HOTSC HAVEN'T HEARD FROM YOU. JUST THINKING ABOUT THE PICTURE YOU HAVE DISPLAYED AND ANY MAN WOULD BE CRAZY NOT WANTING TO DO ANYTHING WITH THAT BODY. HOPE EVERYTHING IS FINE FISH


HotSC71 46M/45F

9/14/2005 7:50 am

FISH, GET ME A picture! please????


FISHINFOOL41 53M

9/14/2005 11:15 am

HOT WANT TO SEND YOU A PICTURE BUT DON'T KNOW HOW USING FRIENDFINDER THAT IS THE REASON I TRIED TO GIVE YOU MY EMAIL AT YAHOO.COM BUT IT TOGETHER AND NOTIFY ME AND I WILL BE GLAD TO SEND YOU ONE. FISH


ProwsHomeyTarsi 42
7 posts
9/14/2005 1:11 pm

Hey, I am sorry to hear that. It can be tough and can't tell you I understand. I love sex and it would'nt take much to get me going. Of course satisfying you is what turns me on. And with a body like that I would satisfy you all night long. Ever need a boy toy, let me know. I would make you cum as much as you would want.

Jim


FISHINFOOL41 53M

9/15/2005 5:05 am

HEY HOTSC FISH HERE THOUGH I WOULD DROP YOU A LINE TO SEE IF YOU GOT YOUR PICS AND HOPR YOU ARE DOING OKAY WITH EVERYTHING.


FISHINFOOL41 53M

9/15/2005 5:08 am

HEY HOTSC FISH HERE THOUGH I WOULD DROP YOU A LINE TO SEE IF YOU GOT YOUR PICS AND HOPE YOU ARE DOING OKAY WITH EVERYTHING.I KNOW YOU HAVE ALL KIND OF MEN HITTING ON YOU WITH THAT BODY AND I'M NOT ALL ABOUT SEX BUT DON'T GET ME WRONG I DO LOVE THE HELL OUT OF IT. YOUR FRIEND FISH


HotSC71 46M/45F

9/15/2005 6:08 am

hotfun 4uinsc,,,,thanks hon, very attractive I might add, I have not yet met offline but am hoping to soon, when the schedule allows. I am only available righ tnow m-f and about 830-3, so hope to hear from you again, have a great day.


HayesBennyTufts 49M

9/15/2005 8:40 am

I'm amazed that your husband would not want to get his hands on that wonderful body of yours every chance he gets! I certainly would.


ProwsHomeyTarsi 42
7 posts
9/15/2005 8:41 am

Thanks. I have alot of free time. I am off at 12 today and can meet between 12:30 and 3. Option? Let me know. Would love to show you what you are missing!!


rm_KissThis1965 51F

9/15/2005 1:45 pm

Well Hot....you just proved to me that you really need a woman to help you get through all this stress in your life. I'm sure that I could help you forget about all your troubles and worries if only for a few hours.


heavenlyangel71 45F

9/16/2005 3:41 am

I had this fantasy about you last night.... You told the hubby you were going out and to watch the kids. He protested, but you held firm! You arrived at my place, hot and ready, but nervous. Just as I was. We spent some time talking and getting comfortable with eachother, but that didnt take long at all, since it felt like we'd been friends forever! Before long we were talking toys and porn, We were both already soaking wet with anticipation of what we knew was to cum! As I showed you my toy collection and my porn collection (especially the ones without men!!) I couldnt hold back any longer...I looked deep in your eyes and softly kissed your lips, the way only a woman can kiss. Getting more turned on, my hands find begin to explore your body until they find your breasts. gently caressing each one as we continue to kiss. I work my kisses down your neck breaking only to remove your shirt. Your beautiful tits hide behind your bra as i playfully squeeze them. then I kiss you on your lips again before I lay you down so i can continue to explore further. You are moaning softly at this point. Encouraging me to go further. As you lay there, my hands and my mouth find you body a wonderful playground. as I move across your body, removing clothing as I go along, til you are before me, naked and beautiful. I start to suck on your nipples, softly at first, then increasing pressure as my hand works its way to your waiting pussy...You spread your legs alittle more as i slide my hand on your thighs. sucking each nipple one by one, back and forth, as i run my fingers on your pussy, you let out another moan as my finger tips run teasingly over your clit, and down your soaking wet pussy lips. I look at you as i begin to play with your clit, I want to watch the look of pleasure on your face. Slow circles on your clit, then I slip my finger down to your warm hole.. up and down, I can feel you getting wetter, I know you want my tongue as much as I want to taste you. I kiss my way down til I get to your pussy...I part your lips to expose your sweet clit and beautiful opening. I take my tongue and lick from bottom to top, and then back down. Then I focus on the clit..slowly licking it before sucking it between my lips, your breathing quickens, I can feel your excitement. As I suck on your clit, I start to work a finger inside you, as I find your Gspot, still sucking your clit, You tell me you are going to cum, I dont stop...Feeling you shake underneath me, I work that pussy til you cum in my mouth, licking up every drop....

And this is only the beginning....

I cant wait to make this fantasy cum true!!!!


HotSC71 46M/45F

9/16/2005 6:52 am

GOODNESS< good thing I read my BLOG today! heavenly you are So naughty! Hey, maybe sometime IF I ever get to really MEET SOMEONE, you me and KISS can do a little 3 way...girls ONLY! HEHHEE


rm_KissThis1965 51F

9/16/2005 11:29 am

Sounds like a GREAT idea if you ask me. I'm all in for that!!! Nice BLOG today Heavenly...you've got me all wet now.....Soooo very naughty you are!!


ProwsHomeyTarsi 42
7 posts
9/16/2005 11:29 am

Hey hot. You can meet me anytime. Just a day notice and I am their! 100% real and waiting. You are too hot!


heavenlyangel71 45F

9/16/2005 12:55 pm

Ok girls, lets just forget about all these men and just get together for some fun!!! Do we really need them?? ok, well maybe sometimes...haha... Glad to hear I made ya both all wet... and that was just by putting my hands on the keyboard... Imagine what I could do to a warm, wet, naked body??? Just say when!!!


rm_joker_Z4 56M

9/17/2005 7:02 am

Hot, I'm sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time getting the attention you deserve from your husband. There's obviously something seriously wrong, since any man who would not give affection to a woman like you must be distracted by something major. I hope things get better for the both of you, and if you ever wanna vent again and need a friend that will listen, just lemme know...


LongDongStranger 50M
19 posts
9/17/2005 6:53 pm

the man is fucking crazy ur hot and sexy as hell if u are my woman i would be down on u every day.i love getting down on a woman and giving her all the attention she needs.


BigJ19852004 31M
13 posts
9/20/2005 2:03 pm

Hey HotSC71 if you need someone to make you sizzle, then I think this is the cock for you.


heavenlyangel71 45F

9/20/2005 4:09 pm

Sorry boys... that pussy's all mine now.. well, unless she finds another female to share with....hehe... JK..... Did I mention what an idiot your husband is???


rm_joker_Z4 56M

9/20/2005 6:02 pm

Heavenly is right, my dear Hot... your husband must be an idiot...


thebigone802 30M
2 posts
9/20/2005 8:18 pm

HotSC your husband is a moron im in the upstate of South Carolina real close to you so look me up and maybe i can help you out ill do anything you want as long as you want it


rm_SeXBuD4073 45M
5 posts
10/26/2005 9:52 am

Hey HOTSC71
I feel your pain! I'm on my 2nd marriage and still doing without. People change for no reason. My wife and I had great sex while we dating and the 1st year of our marriage, we even had a 3some with another guy while we were dating. Now I do good to even get to see her naked! Sorry I needed to vent too. I'm new at this site and looking for a friend
SeXbUd4073


razzledazzle28 41M
1 post
1/1/2006 9:38 pm

Fight for your marriage.
Make sacrifices for the marriage.
Be kind and treat him good.
Try to work it out.
Get counceling for you both, and check out good books.
Talk out the problem with him. Work it out.
Be prepared to make concessions.
What are you willing to do for him, in return for him pleasing you, even if he doesnt feel like it or get pleasure from it?
Research his problems.
It's a medical condition and has concrete causes.
The standard medical establishment is inept. Be willing to look outside the box.
It could be the foods he eats, maybe he is gay/bi, maybe he does not feel comfortable and at ease around you, maybe he needs good supliments, more sunshine and fresh air, some more relaxation time, less nagging/arguing. Maybe it is that you are doing everything in your power to help the relationship.

Consider demanding he cut out the stresses in his life if those stresses are the cause, or you could be the one that changes for the marriage. If you ask him to get another job, or cut back on hours, consider moving in to a smaller house and getting out of debt, and spending less...
Give the marriage everything.

It may be that if you worked as much, and was under as much stress as he was, your libido would go downhill too. Why not get a 2nd job and push yourself to the limit and see if things dont even out?

Sexual teasing and even bondage can go a long way for both you and him. It's an art that's sadly neglected far too often.

Good luck keeping the marriage alive.

If you two do seperate, chances are, one or both of you are going to go through a great deal of suffering and pain. It could spill over into your families and even your community. Divorce is an awful thing to go through, but then again, so is living with someone who denies you what is rightfully yours in marriage.

Wish you two the best.


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