HotLilSouthAngel 47F
232 posts
12/27/2005 6:24 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


Have you ever hurt so bad that you just didn’t know what to do? Has the pain been so intense you would do anything to make it stop? Has life ever felt as if there is no joy left for you, no hope, no future? Do you ever wonder why you continue the struggle only to hurt more and more as each day passes? Have you ever been confused from all the thoughts in your head and from the endless pursuit of happiness and a pain-free moment? Why does life have to be this way?

Sorceror07 54M

12/27/2005 8:01 pm

yes to all of the questions... and the reason why is as follows... and its something i've told many people and something i have to remind myself constantly too.

our pain defines us, molds and shapes us, forces us to grow, to learn to strive to get beyond our pain to a place where it does not exist though we know deep in our subconscious mind it will eventually overtake us so keep moving. our pain makes it so that we know what happiness truely is once we attain it. one cannot truely appreciate happiness unless you have experienced the depths of dispair and pain. there is no hell, we live in it now, heaven is the moments that we experience happiness and that which brings us happiness.

life is a journey... NOT a destination, throughout this journey we experience everything life has to offer... be it happy, be it painful, be it somewhere in between... to truely live life and not simply exist you are bound to experience pain as well as happiness.

do not dispair, as i've recently told a close friend, do not dispair for somehow, somewhere, something or someone will find you and enable you to be happy. did you catch that word? "enable"? no one can make you happy, no one can give you pain... we give that to ourselves... if comeone enables you to be in pain you have the choice to take it or refuse it... the same is with happiness... happiness is an inside job... well, so is pain too. it's all about choices.

a very wise man said to me once... if you are depressed or in a slump, recognize when it started... then pick when you will be done with it. so i said, well how about right now? and he said... good decision! i felt no change and told him so and he said... well, you have to start now too, not just say it you dummy! i laughed adn felt better immediately

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
12/27/2005 8:15 pm

Yes, and I have had the same thoughts many times, too many times to count. I dont know why, maybe its the only way to grow as a person. Things change, it wont be this way forever.

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
12/28/2005 11:51 pm

I don't know this existence doesn't come with a satisfactory manual to figure out the big questions.

Listen to what Sorceror, Saintli, and Nooner are saying. You are not alone Lil. Talk to someone.

You already have 70 some views on this post and I bet the majority of them would say yes to these questions. I don't know how much it helps but you are not alone in this Lil.

I don't know why life has to be this way but I have to believe there is a reason. It doesn't make sense for there to be no reason for all of this.

Please reach out to someone. You can't do this life alone. Find someone you can trust and talk to them. At this point that might mean someone not on this site. Find a counselor or an old friend you haven't talked to in a long time. Talk to someone okay.

Best wishes


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo

pleasureyourclit 66M
836 posts
12/30/2005 6:05 am

I have to agree with NB, the longer you keep it within you the more it will eat away at you. In order to love life as well as some who may cross our paths we have open ourselves up to everything that life has to offer joy, happiness, love and pain. Each will make us stronger we just have to keep the faith for you'll not along as you can see by thses comment!


gnr8nrg 46M

12/30/2005 7:00 pm

Lil,I have felt that kind of pain. However as I read it I thought to myself no. I started thinking about things in my past and I'm fine with them now. At the time they we're happening it was another story. My present attention is no longer in that past, but when it was I thought it would never get better. I guess it has.

zorgnot2 60M

12/30/2005 7:30 pm

All good posts showing compassion and concern.
Pert much everybody has felt this way at times but for the most part it passes, with or without action.
Sorceror07 puts it well with his saying it's up to you to decide when to start feeling better...and KEEP making your self feel better until it sticks. And it WILL stick if given enough time and concentration.
Some body...or mind...may never make you feel better unless you give in and see someone trained to push the right button unless fate puts you in contact with someone with a natural guiding touch.
Get out of yourself and try to help someone who is less fortunate and the goodness you bring could be the trick that turns things around.
Otherwise, you're farting in a mud puddle and calling it a bubble bath.
I hope you find a smile.
Namaste. Johnny

MillsShipsGayly 51M

1/3/2006 12:08 pm


But I am lying

rm_dammygirl 53F
101 posts
1/8/2006 10:32 am

yesssssssss to all your questions,I feel it everyday. To your last question...I don't know and I wish I did. I hope you're ok girl

Want a meatball???

MillsShipsGayly 51M

1/17/2006 7:39 am

Long time no show-up... will feel better if you let on that you are OK

Fireguy292 43M
19 posts
1/17/2006 8:52 pm

I deal with that stuff every day!!! I am a fireman. I see the worst that the world has to offer. But I come home and move on!!!

mm6342 53M
199 posts
1/27/2006 2:51 am

that would be a yes to all the questions you have , It is painfull , you feel like why me . but just look into your self and know that you in your self is more important than anything , see the real you look into your soul as you look in the mirror . it is hard but in time you will get better

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/50F
9753 posts
2/12/2006 12:20 pm

Yes I have felt like that but thank goodness for family and friends who got me out of it!

Purry {=}


Therealniceguy01 47M
35 posts
5/14/2006 10:15 am

Because if there were no lows, then there would be no highs.

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