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Honey_Dew_you 44F
57 posts
3/12/2006 5:00 pm

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Ok Men or Women

What is a spark to you?

When meeting someone to create some sense of connection, what do you look for?

rm_yukonpaul 51M
1120 posts
3/12/2006 9:34 pm

Most of the time, I am clueless. If they make eye contact and listen then I think that they are interested.

rm_KnowStuff 56M
240 posts
3/12/2006 10:45 pm

Genuine personality hun. Sure maybe the eyes, smile, sense of humor, etc... the whole package. What sparks me probably is what sparks most guys a celeb or model, a great butt in a movie or on TV, that chic in the mall, the hottie at work, all that superficial stuff -- but that's all it is -- a spark. I make no secret that I'm interested in a particular sex organ ... their brain.

You can sense a connection but forcing one typically isn't going to work. You can connect out here sight unseen but you need to listen, be open and honest, and be yourself.

There are many comments out here about the fakes and liars. Your earlier blog mentions you caught someone in a few lies. Real people have the ability to connect and relate at a level not easily faked. They have different motives and motivations.

I like reading the blogs and you'll see some popular bloggers, read their stuff, and be able to tell (like so many of the gang reading them) that they are real. MzHuny replied up here before me (she's genuine and a real pleasure) and writes some good stuff. She says a great smile? Then damn, I hope mine's great enough.

BTW==>I see you live in the basin while I'm down the road a bit. I head through your neighborhood every once in a while cuz I have family in the surrounding area. I'm real and no, not hitting on you. I have a quote which may be more forward than your question asks but it frames my answer:

"For me to say "I must get into your pants" is an overstatement.
For me to say "I must get into your head!" is an understatement."

That's kinda how I look at things now. As a teenager my sentiment may very well have been the other way around. A spark for me is a flirt or a tease or random act of kindness, a smile, a good deed.

Connection requires relating, a stronger caring, honesty, passion, understanding, and generally being yourself. Sex doesn't require any of these things. I do. Done right, sex is too small a word for it.

Can I turn the question around? What do you look for? And, do you create a connection? have them do it? or does it simply happen?

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