Feeling betrayed over losing a good friend  

HeatherCat 37F
67 posts
5/11/2005 11:29 am

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Feeling betrayed over losing a good friend

I just can't believe how each day gets worse and worse. Yesterday was a real piece of work, but I had no idea that it was going to get even uglier at night. After my bad day, I was talked into going out with friends to a bar. Yes, I drank too much, but there wasn't supposed to be any problem. We had a designated driver and I knew I couldn't get into any trouble because I wasn't alone. I'm usually not completely blindsided by anything, so this took me by surprise to say the least. Everyone else was dropped off and my friend Mark, who is gay...has always been gay.... was driving me home and I broke down and started crying over all the crap that's been going on. Mark has been a good friend for years and I always felt I could turn to him when I couldn't tell anyone else my problems. He always seemed to understand and have something helpful to say. I never felt threatened by him. I could trust him. After I finished my pathetic sobbing, he hugged me and then made a move on me. I was too shocked to do anything except move away from him and tell him I wanted to go home. He didn't try anything else and I ran inside as soon as the car pulled up. I can't believe this. He's GAY. He's never shown any interest in women and I've met his boyfriends. He never seemed bi-sexual to me. I don't know what to do, but I don't think I can trust him ever again. That's one less friend... and a good one at that. I just.... sigh.
Work was horrible again today. You try to do the right thing and you get penalized for it. Maybe I should just stop trying to do what's right. I don't know. I feel like I don't know anything anymore and I'm about to snap.

HeatherCat 37F
15 posts
5/11/2005 11:34 am

For the record....... 13 days of not feeling any pleasure. I wonder how long this will go?

lupon_69 43M

5/11/2005 12:12 pm

sorry to hear it, but gust because he made a move on you does not mean you should not be friends. you should talk to him and try to understand the reason why he did what he did. of course if it was because you had been drinking then shame on him, and I would not blame you if you told him to sake a walk. but remember that friends and especially good friends are hard to find. just a thought, and chin up, I hope your day gets better.

NightOfPassion2 58M

5/11/2005 12:17 pm

I have a comic in one of my "I need a some cheering" books. It has a guy, feeling low. A girl comes to him and says "Your the greatest on two feet, Im for you" and walks away.
He says "5 billion to 1 score is tied"
I try to do the right thing and it does have its cost.
If he was a good friend..a long time one you might be able to continue it after a talk.

But really, my deepest wish is for your days to get better. 13 days...yep gone that far and more...not that that helps. The most help is a listening ear and not everyone has those..I try to (its the shy quiet guy syndrome)....


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
5/11/2005 12:25 pm

talk to him,maybe a mis understanding,but better to find out and then lose a friend if you don't like his answer and to keep a good friend if his move was indeed a mistake

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
5/11/2005 12:52 pm

Sweetie, you said it yourself... you try to do the right thing and you get penalized for it. Maybe all he was trying to do was to make you feel special and attractive, and that was the only way he could think of to do it.

Or maybe he's just a pig.

But seriously... if by "13 days of not feeling any pleasure," you mean at all (as opposed to just sexual pleasure)... if you really have not felt good or happy or even so-so about anything in that period of time... then it's time to look for some help. See if your health insurance covers visits to a counselor, or if your job has an EAP service you can call. And if not... hey... dump on me. I'm great for that.

Wishing you the best...

lupon_69 43M

5/11/2005 3:19 pm

oh just in case you need some reasons to get past your 13 days
trying to spark your intrest
1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.
2. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.
3. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner.
4. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers!
5. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.
6. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!
7. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.
8. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.
9. Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.
10. A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.
11. Who need's a reason!!

well did i get a spark????

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
5/12/2005 9:06 am

You need to seek counseling! PLEASE! If your just yanking strings fine, but if you really are going through this, get help, professional help!

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