Whats the Difference...........  

HeartlessBitch69 46F
6876 posts
6/30/2006 8:30 pm

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7/4/2006 4:43 am

Whats the Difference...........

Between a Friend With Benefits, and a Fuck Buddy?

I seen a guys profile that read, I want either a FWB or a Fuck Buddy, your choice.

So whats the difference? I am asking, I honestly do not know.

Both are fucking with no strings attached, right?

MEL


TeddyBaral 53M

6/30/2006 8:45 pm

I've personally never liked or used the term "fuck buddy". I always found it a bit too crude and disrespectful to use in connection with someone you were having sex with.

When I think about it the main diffence that jumps out at me about the two terms is the obvious, one has the word "friends" and the other doesn't. In my mind that means that a "fuck buddy" is someone you only use for satisfying a physical urge to fuck, without any emotional aspect at all, not even a basic friendship. Its an impersonal and cold term and thoroughly undignified when talking about sex.

Over the years I've had two "steady" partners outside my marriage (not at the same time) and both of them were friends first and foremost. Friends that I had sex with or "Friends With Benifits", not cold impersonal "fuck buddies".


cuteNEway 41F

6/30/2006 8:49 pm

Well honey...most men don't know the difference. I have clearly outlined the different types of men we encounter in my post Finally! The Male Relationship Ranks and Definitions.

Hope it helps!

tee hee


leegs55 54M

6/30/2006 8:53 pm

right..but that can mean a relationship..for hot sex.


abitcrazy4sex 44M
1335 posts
6/30/2006 8:54 pm

a fuck buddy is someone you pretty much only get together to fuck.a friends with benefits is someone you hang out with once and awhile , talk , play cards , watch a movie with , go out somewhere and yet still go and have amazing sex with.kinda different.yes , either one is really a no strings type of thing


007sexy40plus 50F  
7603 posts
6/30/2006 8:57 pm

FUCK BUDDY- Someone who swoops in and fuck you and they keep coming back and they never contribute to the relationship emotionally or otherwise. They are the Bum or scrub of the relationship.

FRIEND WITH BENEFITS-Some who is there not just for sex but emotionally as well. Example when I was dealing with my FWB when I wanted to do lunch he was there I paid When I went on a trip he spent the weekend with me MY dime. When his birthday came around and christmas time and Valentines day I gave him gifts Now the thing about him being a FWB is then on these same occasions He did the same for me. Therefore that is the Friend with Benefits not just sexual benefits. When he wanted to see me he drove to a mutual place he paid every time. That way it is a 50/50 relationship, not one-sided and not just being called when his dick was hard or the pussy was wet.

So fuck buddy is no strings just sex and it may be lousy sex.

And friend with benefits is not just sex but better and hes not ready to cut to the chase and run off after the deed, but stay awhile and hear your problems and you hear his problems.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


007sexy40plus 50F  
7603 posts
6/30/2006 9:04 pm

    Quoting abitcrazy4sex:
    a fuck buddy is someone you pretty much only get together to fuck.a friends with benefits is someone you hang out with once and awhile , talk , play cards , watch a movie with , go out somewhere and yet still go and have amazing sex with.kinda different.yes , either one is really a no strings type of thing
I would have to disagree on either one being a no strings type thing. A fuck buddy may be one if its allowed, but a FWB is not. You don't fuck someone over and over and hang out play cards or have wild passionate sex and there not be strings attached. Anyone who can lay with another and not have a string attached, to me just doesn't have a conscience.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


abitcrazy4sex 44M
1335 posts
6/30/2006 9:10 pm

    Quoting 007sexy40plus:
    I would have to disagree on either one being a no strings type thing. A fuck buddy may be one if its allowed, but a FWB is not. You don't fuck someone over and over and hang out play cards or have wild passionate sex and there not be strings attached. Anyone who can lay with another and not have a string attached, to me just doesn't have a conscience.
possibly we have a different idea of what this "strings" is yes if you have a friend with benefits , there is more there than with a fuck buddy , i mean you can laugh together , share great times ... but its still not a string in the fashion that its a commitment which is what i would consider a string


antone30 48M
51 posts
6/30/2006 9:11 pm

I'm not sure but if I where to take a guess. It would be a friend with benefits is someone that you would do other things with, and a fuck buddy is someone you fuck and really don't want to see otherwise.


waerlookin4fun 50M/46F

6/30/2006 9:36 pm

well hell I don't know either......I'm too damn drunk to answer this one.......I/we've got a fwb that we hang out with and he knows it's a fwb type of situation.......and you're right, they are both fucking without strings attached


Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
6/30/2006 10:08 pm

I would associate a fuck buddy as the same as a booty call...definitely NSA.

FWB, imho, would be something more...the key word being friend.

Just my opinion...

NG61...slipping back into the shadows...


Looking4sex44240 54F

6/30/2006 11:01 pm

FWB..your friends you do things together...FB you just fuck


abitcrazy4sex 44M
1335 posts
6/30/2006 11:08 pm

    Quoting Looking4sex44240:
    FWB..your friends you do things together...FB you just fuck
that was a great way to put it


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
7/1/2006 3:13 am

Fuck buddy: Just that. You get together for booty calls, nothing else. You tend to have nothing in common but sex. No chance for friendship.

Friends With Benefits: I've had a few of these and they're beautiful. You're friends first, lovers second. When neither of you has anything going on, you have sex with each other. No pressure, no strain to the friendship, nothing. You get together for things other than sex. They're a shoulder to cry on, someone who you get together for movie night, or for dinner, or even to call when you break down. Not every meeting has to end in sex. When the sex reaches its natural conclusion, either because one of you fell in love, or it just stopped without either of you noticing, you are still friends. There are no hard feelings.


sassy1296 51F

7/1/2006 6:26 am

I have had a "Fuck Buddy" The only time we got together was to do the deed. Yeah we talked but that was minimal. It started out with a bang and ended with a fizzle

Friends with Benefits. Would do the coffee thing, be able to talk, laugh and have great sex with, but know that it was not going to amount to anything but being good friends in the end.


TeddyBaral 53M

7/1/2006 6:45 am

Seems like most of us agree then. "Fuck Buddies" may have their place for those who want them or want to be one but it's FWB that most want or want to be.

See, us sinners do have some redeeming qualities at least. lol


HeartlessBitch69 46F

7/1/2006 8:38 am

Ok, I guess what threw me is where I am from a Buddy is a Friend. So I was thinking a Fuck Buddy was just a crude way of saying Friends With Benefits.

Or I was also thinking Fuck Buddy was a Mans way of saying FWB, and Friends With Benefits was the woman's way of saying Fuck Buddy!

You all had basically the same answers so y'all must be correct.


MOfunNOWWOW 55F

7/1/2006 8:48 am

looks like its well covered {=}


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


skyking412004 53M
5363 posts
7/1/2006 9:38 am

_____Now I'm educated. I didn't know there was difference. I guess because that area of sex is new to me.


HeartlessBitch69 46F

7/1/2006 10:28 am

skyking412004--Hey your with me on that one.

MOfunNOWWOW--First time ever, everyone agrees!!!!!


dreamswyou 50M

7/1/2006 10:40 am

A "Friend with benefits" means not only do you get to fuck but you actually talk and share things.

A "Fuck buddy" means two people meet at an agreed time, fuck the shit out of each other without any talking or sharing and then they go their separate ways until booty call time comes again. Sort of like fucking a piece of meat.


Looking4sex44240 54F

7/1/2006 5:09 pm

abitcrazy4sex glad you liked it.


HeartlessBitch69 46F

7/2/2006 11:41 am

dreamswyou--I am doing a Part II on this subject.


HeartlessBitch69 46F

7/2/2006 10:56 pm

Dreamseeker1971--Sorry I am keeping your change! Cause you no visit my blog anymore like you used to and that makes me sad


CB_2 51F

7/3/2006 5:04 am

I used to have a fuck buddy, and I had no problem with the term. But we didn't have a lot in common outside of the fucking, and - looking back on it - I think he was more into the emotionless "fuck buddy" concept whereas I suppose what I was really after was a "Friends with benefits" kind of arrangement.

The irony was, when we split up, one of his issues was that I "only wanted a relationship based on sex" wherease he "wanted more than that". Clearly this was said by a different guy from the one I'd been shagging, because it sure wasn't true.

*Giggles* (only did that to annoy you Mel)

Blogito ergo sum.


HeartlessBitch69 46F

7/3/2006 5:20 pm

consideringbi2--That just sucks ass! *TeeHee*


JPP2200 63M

7/3/2006 9:04 pm

Well I started out being the fuckbuddy but I think we get along so well and see each other so often that we have got into each other's heads and hearts just a little bit and are starting to do a few things that don't involve sex. Seeing as she is married and her husband participates that is about all it is going to amount to. And that is fine. So a fuckbuddy,(her words, I think from Sex in the City), who is charming and considerate and satisfies in the bedroom becomes a fuckbuddy with benefits. So you need to add that as another category. Fuckbuddy with benefits.


HeartlessBitch69 46F

7/4/2006 4:43 am

JPP2200--I was confused enough already! lol


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