Trust........  

HeartlessBitch69 46F
6876 posts
6/23/2006 2:35 am

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6/24/2006 8:29 pm

Trust........

My bloggin friend 007sexy40plus Posted a blog about TRUST, and it got me to thinking. ( I hear ya sayin "OOOOFuck" )

Why is it that one person who has broken your TRUST, can fuck it up for everyone else you come in contact with?

Or should I say, in my case several people, make it impossible for you to totally TRUST anyone.

I am sorry to say, and a few will probably question me about this, but I can't 100% with all of my heart TRUST anyone. (Just being honest here)

Like I wrote in HER blog, I have this little voice in the back of my head that tells me "Don't TRUST em"

Just like now, deep in my heart I have this sinking feeling I am not being told the 100% truth about a few things going on in my life. (And this time I am not talking about my husband)

And when I get a feeling like this is when I start to doubt everyone and even myself.

I want to act on my feelings, but then I second guess myself cause I may be totally wrong. Or I am not wrong at all, and they just cont. to lie and make me feel like I am way off base with my thinking.

I know that someone right now is not being 100% truthful with me just to spare my feelings, because of how down I am right now. And maybe one day they can tell me what they are really feeling.

I tell myself that the people in my life right now are not the same people who have bent me over and ass me with no lube, like the people in my past!

And yes I know it is possible to FORGIVE, but you can never FORGET.

How can you fix it? How can you regain TRUST in others? Is it even possible?

(And 007sexy40plus I posted this here cause it is a huge pet peeve of mine for people to write a novel as a comment in anothers blog. And I love your work Girl Friend.)

ME :>


wistfuljester 64M

6/23/2006 3:01 am

When you attack people for no reason as you have me, I can't blame you for not being able to trust anyone.


canuhandle1968 48F

6/23/2006 3:39 am

I, too, have a problem with trust. But in a recent relationship I was with a man who had been ass- , as you put it, and didn't trust me! I explained to him that he was being unfair to punish me for what other's had done to him...and wanted him to trust me... But when I think about it, I know where he's coming from...... Does the viscious cycle ever end?


waerlookin4fun 50M/46F

6/23/2006 4:02 am

    Quoting wistfuljester:
    When you attack people for no reason as you have me, I can't blame you for not being able to trust anyone.
Fuck off and leave her alone already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "don't go away mad just go away" get it, got it..........good


waerlookin4fun 50M/46F

6/23/2006 4:06 am

I'll be back, hopefully later this am to respond to actual blog and not Mr. Asshat


goodguysneedit2 56M

6/23/2006 6:32 am

I see trust as a huge issue for many women, and MOST women here.

And that really sucks when you know you are trustable, but that's not the issue.

Anyone, male or female, who severly lacks trust has usually been burnt or harmed very badly, recently, or even long ago as a child.

If you really do want to trust again, I think it's important to slowly build the self back up to a point of strength. As long as a person has some inner security and inner peace, it gives them the ability to stand alone, thus the ability to assume risk without losing it all.

Believing-in and knowing yourself, even recapturing and rebuilding yourself is very important. That security needs to come from within.
And it's NOT easy to obtain once something shakes your world.

But it's worth the effort..every bit of it.


skyking412004 53M
5363 posts
6/23/2006 7:36 am

_____I think not trusting people is a natural learned defense.


HeartlessBitch69 46F

6/23/2006 10:13 am

wistfuljester--So I lose trust in other cause I attack them? What the hell are you talking about? Your just talkin out yer old ass again!

waerlookin4fun--G/F don't worry yourself about him!


rm_abutoo2 44M
1078 posts
6/23/2006 11:50 am

burn me once shame on you. burn me twice shame on me.
I trust God, then myself, and let others do whatever they're going to do. I just don't worry about it. I don't trust em one bit. I like em, some I even love. But trust... nah. Why waste my time?


rm_spiceee2 56F
61 posts
6/23/2006 1:58 pm

Trust- Well that is an issue for most. I have had some people in my past that have made it very hard for me to Trust
But I have also had some very good, honest people that make me think- well ok maybe not everyone is out to get me or take advantage of my good nature.
So Yes it is hard to trust and I have that little voice in the back of my head saying- "be careful" which I am but I don't let it affect me to the point of not making new friends or having new relationships, and if someone screws it up then I move on, it they are hurting themselves more than me.


readytolay_3
(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)
105F

6/24/2006 12:37 am

    Quoting wistfuljester:
    When you attack people for no reason as you have me, I can't blame you for not being able to trust anyone.
For someone who doesn't have the BALLS to allow everyone to comment in your own blog you have NO RIGHT to do so here or ANY WHERE else you GUTLESS COWARD, now crawl back to what ever shit hole you crawled out of and DON'T COME BACK....Ready

Ready


readytolay_3
(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)
105F

6/24/2006 12:43 am

There is nothing wrong with DISCERNMENT We NEED to learn how to do that so we don't leave our selves open to those who would take advantage of us and our TRUST....Ready

Ready


HeartlessBitch69 46F

6/24/2006 9:43 am

readytolay_3--Wow, what did you do with ready? No cussin? No anger? lol Damn I think my Bitch friend is changing her ways. NNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!


HeartlessBitch69 46F

6/24/2006 9:48 am

nightlady1000--Even when I think I trust someone I freakin make myself paranoid.

canuhandle1968--I don't think it ends. I think we give up.

goodguysneedit2--Good responce. You are so good!

skyking412004--I know it is for you! Let me in!


spiceee2--Then we screw it up by being too careful with a man we should have trusted and he sees we don't fully trust him and he leaves cause we are basing him off of the past assholes.


abutoo2--You can trust me!


1000ft_above 45M

6/24/2006 3:42 pm

I know exactly how you feel....Unfortunately I can't do anything about it, for you that is. I can tell you about any situation that has caused you mistrust but you are the only one who can work through it and learn to trust again.

I also know this to be true in myself...hence the reason for our temp sep.

Time will help, but ultimately it is in our hands to bring about change. Some say counseling is overrated but I find that it helps. A fresh perspective from someone who has studied the human mind and psyche can help us to understand what has happened and is happening in our head and heart.

Hope that helped...

Take Care and Stay Sweet.


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