Here's the thing..  

Hardbody4U269me 41F
888 posts
5/7/2006 1:19 pm

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Here's the thing..

OK.. for those that have followed my blog and know the luck I've been having with AdultFriendFinder (which hasn't been good).. I think that might have changed!

Here's the thing.. do you ever get excited and hopeful, but then you think maybe you shouldn't, because IF a let down happens, it will be 12 times worse?!? That's what I'm thinkin'.. and I'm actually scared to post about it because I might "jinx" it (lol) or if it doesn't work out then I'll be REALLY disappointed. So, what to do? Suppress my feelings and play it cool/safe? Or, take a risk and say what's on my mind?

Hmm.. okay.. I need to think.. maybe I'll come back to this..

And another thing, what's the proper etiquette for dealing with other AdultFriendFinder men now? If things get goin' with this guy (which is what I want), then I have no desire to meet any other men from here, YET.. it's too soon to tell if things are gonna get goin'. SO, do I continue to talk to other men/set up meetings as a back-up plan?!? Hmm.. this is tricky stuff I tell ya'.

P.S. the guy from Friday night that I said was cool.. didn't call.. so oh well on that...Here we go again...Guys I will be interested in meeting with one of you on Friday for my second time from here, who will it be.

hottest_desires 38M/21F  
15 posts
5/7/2006 1:49 pm

how about a couple!?!?!?! we're very interested.....

if we say we'll call or meet you, you can count on it.

as for AdultFriendFinder procedure, that depends on what you want.

We're just looking for one good woman, so if we find her, we won't be looking for anyone else.

Some people are looking to just date around, so it depends on what you want.

In our position, if you said you wanted to meet us, and we exchanged pics and a little chat on a proggy and we clicked, you would get most of our attention, but we wouldnt ignore incoming emails at first. Once we met you and it turns into something physical, if you were looking for something special with us too, then THAT is when we'd stop looking on AdultFriendFinder and telling other women we're not interested.

Now as for setting up other meetings with other women...let's see. If we already had a date with you say this week, we wouldnt make any plans with other women. We might tell another woman, "hey we have a date this week with a woman already, we will get back to you very soon if things don't work out"

That's just our opinion though.

Hope to talk to you soon. We sent you our pictures and our chat handles. If you've found someone specialalready we're happy for you, if not, we'd be happy to meet you and maybe be two special people for you!

PS as for the jinxing thing, I often fall into the same trap, getting supersticious. lol superstition doesnt work though. I would say anything you'd like, unless that person reads your blogs, and you've said something controvercial, you have nothing to worry about. If they get wierded out by your true feelings then your not on the same "page" anyway.


-Lee and Krystal

Djeeper1987 47M

5/7/2006 2:05 pm

Just go with your gut instincts. Be damn if you do or be damn if you don't. My motto is just go for it and hope for the best, if it doesn't work out then you learn from that experience and take it with you to your next adventure.

Carpe Diem

rm_1HardAlways8 46M
2 posts
5/7/2006 4:23 pm

Sorry to hear it did not work out, but I must say that poor sap is out of his mind and us other hopefuls are happy to be back in the game. Either way or whatever happens I wish you luck in what you are looking for.

dionysius7777 47M
4 posts
5/7/2006 5:13 pm

I have to admit, I am impressed. Brains, beauty, and boobs to drool over! Fridays are never good for me, but I'd love to be one of your aspirants. You have definately captured my interest. I play a little differently though.


rm_silcal84 44M

5/7/2006 6:12 pm

you gotta have the never give up attitude, because you neverknow when the right one will sneak up on you. im in toledo and would love to get together for a drink and shhot some pool sometime. would love to hear from you

Paul4348184 60M
69 posts
5/8/2006 1:11 pm

Hope you find what you're looking for. I'm still looking too.

1ArkAngel 46M
3 posts
5/8/2006 7:01 pm

Perhaps you are only finding what you truly are looking for-and what/who you really need has been in front of you all-along.
Some people are jerks as a rule,yet we are attracted to their style.Could just be crappy luck too,though.I have enjoyed success here because I keep my eyes and "ears" open to many possibilities,and question my conventional opinions before judging-as this is a un-conventional site.Personally this whole blog thing doesn't work for me-seems like a dorm-orgy or something!Your beauty
alone isn't enough to seduce me entirely-I'll reserve that for a private e-mail......Angel

juice44092 61M  
28 posts
5/8/2006 7:17 pm

Somtimes you have to go for it. Worrying will drive you crazy. With your looks I would think the guys are lining up to date you!

bigb69t 48M

5/8/2006 9:45 pm

I'm in the same boat. My experience has not been overwhelming... but I have had a couple encounters with one person. While fantastic, I just can't justify limitting possibilities... so go for it... send ME the email and mark you schedule.... I have Fridays off too! I love to 69 and have what it takes to make sure you're done right.

ToledoCpl4More 53M/48F

5/10/2006 2:19 pm

hello have you ever thought about meeting a couple from AdultFriendFinder. if so consider us.

rm_loking135 48M

5/11/2006 3:13 am

I would love to meet you and see what happends. Guys that dont meet woman on here or any other sight is just affraid. Lifes too short to go slow.

hotrob4neone069 35M

5/11/2006 5:31 pm

pick me pick me!!! lol. i would love to meet you.

GushyBalksMotel 39M
2 posts
5/13/2006 6:35 am

You better keep meeting people on here. Atleast untill I have the chance to meet ya. Then you would be happy enough to close AdultFriendFinder forever.

beamer52up 64M

5/31/2006 7:53 pm

As far as your success on AdultFriendFinder is concerned I would be amazed if you didn't have phenomenal success. Just look at these posts!!

As far as finding that one special partner and not continuing to look on AdultFriendFinder, that is certainly dependent upon your own personal beliefs, morals, and ethics of behavior. I believe that anyone on this site expects others on this site to have multiple partners, at least in the initial stages of a relationship. That is just the nature of this site.

If you believe you have established a relationship with another and you both agree on the ground rules, ie: see others or not seeing others then you should feel obligated to follow the behavior that you mutually agreed to.

It goes back to the basic concept that all relationships are based upon, communication and trust.

EelTongue469 51M

6/29/2006 10:11 pm

Disappointment sucks. We, as non-self-centered individuals, should be honest enough with others as well as ourselves, and have enough respect for those we come in contact with, TO DO WHAT WE SAY WE ARE GOING TO DO.

I view life as a journey. As we each travel our individual paths to our various long and short term destinations, we encounter other people as their paths cross ours (sometimes we stand at crossroads with signs around our necks, waiting for someone's path to cross ours lol). In a healthy relationship, of any duration, people communicate open and honestly about there needs, desires, and expectations.

From a dialog of this nature, a decision can be made as to whether or not there is a mutual desire to travel together. As two people travel together, they will each perceive, and react to, the things they see and experience - differently - based on their differing backgrounds, experience etc... This may or may not result in one or both of the people changing their long or short term destinations, or the path(s) they wish to take to reach them.

If open honest communication is maintained throughout our journey with others, the risk for disappointment if minimized. But the reward for the effort that that level of trust and honesty require is far greater!!!

With a foundation in reality, relationships, of any duration, can become fantasy. Instead of our differing backgrounds and perceptions and reactions being catalysts for conflict, they become they basis of a synergistic relationship, where the two people together, through SHARING the journey, experience greater pleasures than they would have had traveling alone.

You have inspired me. I am excerpting the above and starting my first blog. And it's all your fault. Thank you.


rm_wolfclan65 51M/37F

12/14/2006 2:45 pm

fortune favors the bold. take a chance and see what happens so you can say, i did it and it was.... or you will be saying, what if...?

rm_mitchu1960 56M

1/3/2007 10:52 am

Whats up! Hardbody You are definetly hot and hard looking forward to more of that

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