My Friday............  

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3/10/2006 9:59 pm

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3/12/2006 11:27 pm

My Friday............

I have to dedicate this blog to the three residents I lost today!

Marie, Irene, and Betty.

Marie was the first to go before breakfast, at 0700. It was very peaceful, like she was just sleeping! She had no family with her, due to her husband was also dieing, but at the V.A. close to where her kids were. They were divorced some years ago, but it is kinda strange them dieing on the same day!

Irene was rough, her temp. spiked up to 106.4, then she passed away at 0800. She was surrounded by family.

Betty did not pass til 9p.m. Her body finally gave up. She had alot of family staying around the clock with her. She suffered for months.

The forth one who we thought would be dieing soon, was showing signs of improvment today! He ate his meals and was up out of bed! I loved seeing how happy his wife was when she came in and I told her.

The last one is still hanging in there, he is younger, and with a strong heart. So he may still be there when I get back to work monday.

His wife tonite had me help her with making a plaster mold of his hand, so she can give it to their young son (9) So whenever he is missing his dad, he can put his hand in the mold like he has his hand with his dads! I almost lost it when she told me what she was doing, but it was so sweet!

They have been married for 14 years. She has spent all day just holding his hand and sleeping on his chest. I can't even imagine losing someone like that! The pain she must be feeling! He is not awake at all, and she will not leave his side! And all his co-workers come everyday to see him. He must have been an awsome boss!

And one of our co-workers lost her battle with cancer, and her visitation was today. She will be missed as well!

Just makes you think of how easy it is to lose someone close to you!

But this just so happens to be part of my job, the bad part, but it is what I do. I deal with loss daily. No two are ever the same, and no matter how many years I have been doing it, it never gets easier!

The picture is FORGET ME NOTS, they are gone but will not be forgotten!


loadeddice05 44M

3/11/2006 12:24 am

Thanks for bringing me down! I give you alot of credit though! I don't think I could deal with all that! I can joke and laugh off most things! HMMN! Not to good with the feelings?? Anyways! sorry!


3/11/2006 12:33 am

Babycakes, most are not good with feelings, but hey I luv ya still!

rm_two3somes 51M

3/11/2006 2:06 am

thanks for the boob post on my blog,nice

scorpmail66 50M
260 posts
3/11/2006 3:48 am

hiya hunny,

A very powerful post, just brings it home to you that we should enjoy the time we have left, H&B the job you do is very hard and yet has its rewards,keep up the great work that you do bringing joy into these peoples lives and ours to


firestarter665 42M/39F

3/11/2006 5:48 am

I give you a lot of credit for what you do. It must be very hard to see things like that on a daily basis. At least these people have someone as kind hearted as you to help them.

(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

3/11/2006 5:57 am

You deal with it all with such wisdom, warmth and grace....I am in awe in your ability to do..Take care.....Ready


wantonwill 60M

3/11/2006 6:22 am

none of us is given any guarantee with regard to the length of our lives, but with caregivers like you around, each moment is made sweeter and precious!

radionational 50M
3 posts
3/11/2006 8:44 am

may a gentle breeze and blue skies bless a travelers journey.


3/11/2006 11:54 am

TY all!!! The part of the job I hate the most, is monday these peoples rooms will have new people in them! I just don't want any of my peeps to be forgotten!

After 21 years, it is just a way of life now! You know you all can come visit my work, I'll show ya around!

rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
3/11/2006 5:00 pm

your blog today brought back allot of memories. I'm glad there are ppl like you out there. I couldn't handle the med. field anymore. Got too close to them. Could not watch another leave

scorpmail66 50M
260 posts
3/11/2006 6:12 pm

hiya Hotnbothered

that has to be the worst part of your job thanks 4 the invite to you work you never know we may all take you up on your kind offer


3/12/2006 1:07 am

cru1972-- I have to say I loved the mental health field more then the elderly. In the mental health I was preparing people to go out and live a life, and show them the skills to survive. And in the elderly I am making them comfortable to leave us. I do get really attached to them and their families. I got really close to a resident and family once, and when he died, I was crushed, I cried for days. I still have his old navy pic from when he was 21, and a pic before he got sick, and one of him and I before he died, I am still apart of his family today, 7 years later. Sometimes it is ok to get close.


3/12/2006 11:27 pm

mzhunyhole-- That is kool as hell!!!

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