What is love?  

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2/22/2006 1:35 pm

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What is love?

Love isn't just when you see your crush and your hands get all sweaty or when your heart skips a beat. I think that love is something that you have to develop with the one you're with. It takes time to develop that. You have to understand each other like no one else would understand him or her. Love isn't when a foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction is there. That’s infatuation not love. Love isn’t when you're physically attracted to each other. That just means that you have sexual desires for that person, it isn't love. Love is when you take away the passion, the caring, the lust and you still find that you want to be with them that you L - O - V - E them with all your heart because they are who they are.Love just isn't something that you can fall into or fall out of it is something that you should always treasure with all your heart.

Why do people want to fall in love???
The simple reason is because that the experience makes you feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may last for the longest time or not. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives.


I wrote that six years ago and to this day I still read it. When I do it makes me sad to know that I haven't found anyone that could make me feel that way or want too.

Maybe one day right?

- - Sarah

hardtrucker59 57M/50F

2/22/2006 4:02 pm

sarah it will happen when you least expect it. I was suffering from a break up with my marrage of eleven years not looking for any more relationships because I was always told three strikes your out so after this second marrage i was giving up. One day at the lake I say my soul mate, My heart did a back flip and something told me to start a conversation. I do not think I have ever been in love until now. You can take everything away and I still want to be with this man. We have been together now almost four happy years and I seem to fall more and more in love with this man everyday. Keep your chin up he is out there

pocketrocket {=}

spivey237 38M
1 post
2/23/2006 2:30 am

Hiya sarah paul here 27 from yorks, you looking for love maybe wanna chat a little>

rm_eualma 51M
1 post
2/23/2006 2:54 am

Hello contact whith me
AdultFriendFinder, y want to see your lovely pussy

whats4dessert2 49M

2/23/2006 3:29 am

Hey S...cool to see you started a blog...

I half way agree with you. I think to some degree all love starts with infatuation. It begins with a sometimes unreasonable connection. Sometimes that connection is physical attraction and sometimes it's an emotional or intellectual one.

Once that connection is made, it will either evolve or devolve into love.

Regarding your assessment around taking away the passion, the caring and the lust - my only modification to that is that you can never take away the caring because if you truly love someone and that someone loves you back, at the root of your heart and soul that person is ALL you really care about and it becomes a matter of not only wanting to be with them but NEEDING to be with them.

If the rest of the world when away and the person that you loved was the only person left, you'd be content to spend every second with them. You could spend that time talking, or just walking and holding hands or just laying on a picnic blanket for hours under the sun in absolute silence and feel comfortable knowing that that person is there and feels exactly the same.

You'll find a person to love who loves you back and that person will not only become the biggest part of your life. That person will BECOME your life. You'll still have your identity and your career and all that good stuff but, as important as those things will be, their value will be even more enhanced with that person as part of your life.

rm_Thickdick762 41M

2/23/2006 3:43 am

The more I think about your position, the more I am convinced that you should not compromise your high standards. On the other hand, I think it is unlikely that you will meet Mr. Right "by accident" and certainly not on this website and almost certainly not at a bar.

Perhaps this advice sounds unromantic, but I think you should go to the best or the most suitable or the longest-established (which may be all the same) match-making agency in your city, pay [or have your family pay;0) a large sum of money and get some high quality dates.

If it does not work, well then your family is out some money, but you will not have wasted your time, because at least it will become clearer in your mind what you do NOT want. My opionion is that going this route will greatly increase your odds of finding a soul mate--this year.

A second idea, in case you do not want to go to the match making agency, is to join your university sailing club and learn to sail. A sailing club is a wonderful context in which to meet people and find out what they are really like. Also, sailing is a marvelous life-long skill.

Everyman1111 41M
2992 posts
2/23/2006 4:46 am

Hi Sarah

You have many years ahead of you to explore the exhilarating yet sometimes rocky road of love.

Perhaps you may wish to read what Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet" says about love. Thought-provoking (or so I thought). You may wish to search for it through Google.

I'm sure you will find that special someone, when you are 'ready' and the time is ripe. I realize that sounds a bit parental, nonetheless I feel we need to discover - or should I say uncover - more of who we really are and what we have to give. And as we grow, so does our perspective of ourselves AND what love means.

I agree with HardTrucker, keep your chin up.

xoxo E.

BorerWaxerTests 57M

2/23/2006 6:13 am


If you go looking for love you will not find love...Love will happen when you least expect it...I agree with Thickdick don`t compromise your high standards and it`s highly unlikely you will find love on this site.

After my divorce, i was married for almost 20 years, The bar seen for me wasn`t right (don`t get me wrong i do enjoy a beer or two)..lol.. But it wasn`t right for me to meet someone, so joined a dating service ( not AdultFriendFinder )..lol.. where you filled out a profile for yourself and what your looking for...I have met some very nice women just not the right one for me, "love happens" so you just have to go out and meet people and see what happens... I`m very hopefull and you should be also...Take care.....fun

letuscum232 53M

2/23/2006 6:39 am

That,s a very nice story Sarah!,i,ll have to agree with hardtrucker59,it generally happens when you least expect it to.I,ve been searching for awhile now,and have been in-love 3-times in my life,and each time was at a point when i actually was giving up looking and some woman came along and opened my emotional vault,LOL.I think that if your looking for something,you,ll find it in your mind anyway,but in reality it just isn,t there at all.Being lonely does not help the search,so just have fun and if love is meant to be than you will know it soon enough..(Most of all! respect yourself and your morals)don,t change to hide the loneliness, it will come back to bite you and HARD!..

Rushmore414 45M
2 posts
2/23/2006 7:40 am


You are so young -- and I mean that in a good way. Love doesn't happen often, but it will come around. In the meantime, enjoy yourself and the people you share your life with. I think you can gain something from every relationship, even the ones that don't qualify as "true love." Good luck to you.

trackcoach1971 45M

2/25/2006 8:36 pm

I liked what you said. I would just add that love is a choice it is saying I choose you and that is what makes it special.

pronoforpyro 45M

2/27/2006 3:16 pm

Sara. First I must ask myself why the hell I am on this site and typing in your blog. Ok, now I have passed that akward moment let me just remind you that the scumsucking media industry has been hoodwinking you for years - ever since your mom cracked open Cinderella at your bedide. Do not fall for the 'love myth' because in reality, you will confuse infatuation with love and then when you are with somone after a period of time and the infatuation wears off you will find youself on a floor in a pool of vomit in some smalltown bar in Northern Ontario singing 'there's a teer in my beer.." ya, well, maybe i'm projecting that a little, but you get the point. Love happens between two people that have mutually compatable life goals, who have moderate sexual attraction, who make each other laugh and generally after 10 years are not eyeing the rat poison up a little too intensely if you get my obvious drift. There is no need to fall in love now or 10 years from now. The harder you look for it the worse this is all gonna turn out.

pronoforpyro 45M

2/27/2006 3:18 pm

oh damn you spell sara with an H - my apologies.

RedlyOozesHying 57M
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2/28/2006 8:38 pm


rm_wantu4me1962 54M

2/28/2006 8:38 pm

Hi Sarah,

Joe is my name. Not that it matters but I felt I should tell you. Nice to meet you! Love? Hmmm,Well I think you nailed it. I was married for 21 years, getting divorced next week actually, hope that goes well! HA! I'm a little scared to go through with it but since she lives with someone else i have no choice. I thought I loved her, but looking back I don't think I really truly loved her. I just liked her enough to hang on til it was over. I have three beautiful kids out of the deal so it wasn't for nothing. I say love comes when you least expect it and is not always a two sided street - maybe that's infatuation or lust or whatever, but until you both have to love each other to make any relationship last. It's hard to say if true love can really be found the way you descibe it, but I am sure that's what we are all looking for, I know I am. I think if you love someone and you prove it to the other person they will either tell you to beat it or they will come to love you if they didn't in the first place. maybe that's wishful thinking!

weebles1000 52M
2 posts
3/3/2006 8:21 pm

Sarah, Love is when you know everything about a person, the things that make you smile, and the things that make you frown. When you know their attributes and their faults. When you know everything there is to know about that person,...and you like them anyway. You want to spend time with them even if there is no payoff, no reward, no prize,...because the payoff, the reward, the prize,...is just being together with them. That's what love is,.........Weebles1000

BeachlessCeasar 55M

3/10/2006 9:38 pm

Don't know about love Sarah...but i'll make you breakfast in the morning.

rm_jovknee 42M

3/15/2006 3:54 pm

That was very touching, probably cause it is very true. Don't worry you aren't the only one who hasn't found that special love. I like to beleive that we'll all meet that 'special' someone one day. Now my only wish is I hope I didn't flip her the bird in traffic one day and ruin everything.

TouchFondleLick 55M

3/17/2006 1:23 am

Sarah Love will find you one day when you least expect it and could happen anywhere! Love is an all encompassing thing and is hard to describe but it will take over you - heart, mind & soul. I had true love and lost it and I still can't seem to find it again.

You're young so enjoy what you have, live for today and celebrate that you're alive and free.
Don't do what you like, Like What You Do!

Touching You,

rm_deefa45 56M
3 posts
3/26/2006 4:36 am

hi sara , I hate to disapoint you but to a male the only true love is when his cock is hard , men are led by one thing and one thing only , you will learn this as you grow , no matter how much a man says he loves you when your not around its a free for all and most of them will fuck anything that moves . Having said all this ,the one thing we all forget is we are animals and thus have instincts , thats the truth as I see it , PS if you ever want to be consumed by passion

StilltheOtherGuy 56M

3/28/2006 12:29 pm


You will find it ... there is absolutely no way that you wont. I believe that it is simply that the most worthy and fascinating man you ever imagined is on his way to you - he just hasnt arrived yet. He's coming Sarah, trust me, and it will be worth the wait.

TripleHARD3 56M

4/2/2006 12:05 am

my 2 sense...

most claim 2 no luv lost is luv found; luv 2 me is never lost or found it just is

most claim true luv is reserved for that "special one" yet fall in and out with out a doubt;i say let luv be and then see that luv is not about u r me!!!

most claim 2 luv u if they can have u other wise they would not be here dear

i do not claim luv and would not want it any other way; luv 2 me is and always will be a work in progress; eternal without a beginning or end yet in the end is the beginning

"straight as an arrow
cupid claims your heart
straight as an arrow
silencing thought"

founder and ceo of the institute of preinstitutionalizationizm

"luv is a dog from hell"
luv poems by Charles Bukowski

TripleHARD3 56M

4/2/2006 12:13 am

me bad that should be the institute of preantiinstitutionalizationizm not wanting 2 steal anothers' thunder; i presume a freudian quip

TripleHARD3 56M

4/2/2006 12:26 am


IMHO for someone who has never been there u know a whole lot more then the pre tenders and i quote

"Why do people want to fall in love???

The simple reason is because that the experience makes you feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may last for the longest time or not. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives."

sounds orgasmic i would add "leaving us with memories that we treasure for all time"

rm_Thomasisme 32M
1 post
4/5/2006 3:28 am

Hi Sara, I just wanted to say that Love is not an emotion it is not a feeling. It is a connection. Just like you were giving a cudoes to nice guys girls do that sort of thing to and that is love. You don't need to have sex with someone to love them, you just need to be their friend. Never give up becuase like you said one day everyone comes around and that love will be there. You may already have it and just not know it yet. So don't worry about love just be yourself and go with the flow. You will know love when you are ready to and it will never die or leave you.

Take care and never stop loving.


rm_poker2face 59M
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4/6/2006 10:39 am



ExtreamPleas1000 45M

4/8/2006 1:38 am

The thing about love that makes it the worst part of love, and can be only learned through experiance. Is you truly only know how much you are in love when it is gone.

markshere3 48M
1 post
4/15/2006 11:57 am

love is not something you find, it finds you. it`ll happen eventually, at least i hope so lmao.

pornisgoodforyou 46M
2 posts
4/15/2006 4:31 pm

You are so wrong on so many levels. Not to sound negative but I just have to point it out. Anyways why are you taking about love on this site to guys with their dicks hanging out?

rm_imaloneoak 42M
3 posts
4/20/2006 5:09 am

love your love explination,,I crave love and beauty,
love is truth love is honor love is unconditional
love is knowing when why and where
love is what i have longed for since my conception,
love exists, love is what i hope finds you and you find it mutual
enchantment, trust and devotion eternally,
love is the light in the darkness of humanity
and love is difficult to find and almost imp to be given in return
cant buy it force it or sell it o love ya lol may all your wishes be granted your needs met and love abound for you it is real though

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