Sefe Sex  

Greenguy96 43M
43 posts
8/14/2005 4:11 pm

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Sefe Sex

This is my first post on my blog, and I want to start with safe sex. I have read stories from some people here that they practice it, but I wanted to know how others handled this subject. I like to have safe sex. I have bought all kinds of condoms for myself and even give them to friends as gifts. But how do you talk about it with a partner and even know if they are not lying. I have a girls lie to me at first and then only months later tell me after I fond medication or have a "brake down". We did practices safe sex, but after they told me our sex life died. She said she never wanted me to know because of embarrassment. How do you get over this. So many people have an STD, but if you practice safe sex you can prevent the spread. I just wanted to know what others did.

frogger1995 39F

8/15/2005 7:12 pm

A lot of women (read:girls) don't seem to understand that we have the upper hand when it comes to safe sex. Guys are usually much more anxious to do it than us and most would be willing to use a condom even though they "don't feel anything." We also have the added benefit of not having a condom compromise our sensation (maybe even enhancing it with the right type). My point is, since I know I have the upper hand I simply say, in a various ways, "no condom, no sex"

Barbiebunny69 43F

8/16/2005 3:23 am

Usually I suggest the thinner kind, if feelings an issue with the guys, but ive found they get used to it just fine...I just insist on it..otherwise its a no go.

But I get tested every 3 mo, and talk to my partner about it. If something is suspect then of course tell him!! Ive had a few close calls, but nothing ever came of them... but communication was key. Just be honest, and you'll be respected. If you dont make this an important issue, and they dont take it seriously, then u need to get out of their bed asap.

Greenguy96 43M

8/16/2005 9:12 pm

Thanks for writing and the advice. I've been getting tested about every 6 mounths. It's a great releaf when your told your clean.
As for condoms, most women(i met) don't plain on useing one with Oral sex, I have tried to make it fun saying "wait.. I have grape or strawberry" and pulling out flavor condoms. which worked last time, she thought it was funny and picked grape.

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

9/10/2005 4:09 am

Condoms would ruin oral sex. i think its better to be honest and open with the person you are with at the time,

Grape condoms? lol yukkkkkkk

rm_CecileB 41F
186 posts
9/13/2005 3:53 pm

Hi Greenman, nice to meet you ! What a good idea to bring up safe sex to start with...very logical!

I think as you found out mentioning Stds, past or possible ,just puts off the other party.And to my mind, but it depends on how it's introduced (the subject not the object!) ,offering someone a condom has an air of "I'm hungry but you 're tainted meat" about it.It shows quite a lack of basic trust.

So many people avoid the issue and cross their fingers before they open their zippers.

Unfortunately many neglect to use condoms when they're at their most useful,= when the perpetrators are drunk!

rm_CecileB 41F
186 posts
9/13/2005 3:55 pm

P.S. I love your spelling!It gives new meaning to old words ("brake down")

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