Why am I here?  

Got42DDD 49F
168 posts
8/1/2006 12:26 am

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Why am I here?

My ultimate goal was to find a person, who was open minded and sexual, for a long term relationship. Many people have told me that Passion is not the place to find a relationship. I was attracted to Passion because it advertised "Sexy personals for passionate singles" which is what I was looking for. Not knowing it is the same site as AdultFriendFinder which is a hook up swinger site.

Maybe match is a better place to find love, but there are certain things I am into that I can't put on a match profile. Such as... Strapons, threesomes(mmf), swinging as a couple etc...

Hook ups are not a problem for me - it is finding a partner who wants to do things together inside and outside the bedroom. Something with a future.

I don't understand some men on this site. No one seems to want a relationship. Seems like they are content with jerking off at home by themselves rather than date someone.

I have enough friends and booty calls I could make if I wanted that. It is love that I am seeking.

Hope I explained why I am on here.

Happy Hunting, Got42DDD

rm_lickdpussy 55M
1 post
5/28/2010 10:17 am

You have a guy on here thats jerking off at home, looking for woman
and coming up empty. Yes I tried adult friend finders but to see what type pf person is out there. I believe that you can go out to a pup and have a great time with someone and then take her home ,kiss her goodnite and go to bed. Thats what I want. She has to be smart. Someone to talk to. Dont give up on the world, there are a lot of nice guys out there.


tungnursnatch2 50M
4 posts
11/24/2008 3:27 pm

well sounds all good more like a farytale i hate to burst your bubble butyour here to find MR.RIGHT on the wrong site will never happen .you should try e-harmony all you will find here are men who are looking for casual encounters why bother getting comited anyway its over rated you could find a ltnsa which isnt bad its a win ,win situation

Got42DDD replies on 12/1/2008 4:54 pm:
this is advice coming from a married guy - maybe if you found your partner on here, you would not "need to fill the void" in your life now.

BandsHenryAzide 39M
1 post
11/22/2008 2:02 am

Hello if u did not find what your lookin 4 look no furture we do have something in common we both want the samething I belive there's still hope on here 4 people like us maybe were compatiable but i would like to get to know u if u want 2c a pic of me i can send one thru ur e-mail address or camrea phone

wecan1965 51M/50F

7/20/2008 9:17 am

hey! i met my significant other on a dating site, and we don't look back, sex is great and now we swing with others, we look forward to the next meet and greet. all though it took a while to for us to open up about what we wanted, but once it did, BOY! i am one lucky fellow! and she is one lucky gal!

Got42DDD replies on 7/22/2008 11:12 am:
Another success story - I am going to wait also!

BadAngelCpl 45M/43F
11 posts
7/9/2007 10:13 am

I met my husband on AdultFriendFinder and we are now happily married with kids. So it is indeed possible to find love on here. I have also met many great friends on here which is just as important. Stick to your guns and you will find what you are looking for, along with some fun along the way I am sure .

What I like best about meeting people on AdultFriendFinder is they are open minded. Since me and hubby met on here, we know we are both open minded to new ideas. Who wants a stick in the mud that they found on Match or Harmony? They might work for straight and narrow type of people or for relationships with no sexual zest....but I was looking for a complete package.

As long as you are honest and upfront, which you are, with what you are looking for then GOOD LUCK ON AdultFriendFinder....it is possible to find true love.


Got42DDD replies on 7/10/2007 12:37 pm:
YEAH!!! Finally I hear a success story about this site. Most women have had only bad experiences with the men from here. I am so glad you did find your true love. Hopefully I will one day be as lucky as you two are. Thanks for stopping in and raising my spirits today

rm_ironmantee65 51M

6/19/2007 10:01 am

Not Spam,btw,just to be clear,lol.. Yea,most the guys are right about here,as or meeting that someone,I have known more than a dozen couples who've met on Bookof matches & married in the last 2 years.

Got42DDD replies on 6/21/2007 7:29 pm:
Are you getting a commission for promoting the other site LOL Just kidding. I don't know if that other site is just a dating site, and I don't know if they allow all of the sexual stuff on there - but it seems to me that because I am on this site as a sexual woman, I am expected to sleep with just anyone. If the guys on this site would try to understand how a woman thinks, they would get laid more often LOL !!!!! Thanks for stopping in!

rm_ironmantee65 51M

6/19/2007 9:59 am

Do you have a bookofmatches profile? I'd swear I saw you there. Well theres a very similar looking woman whos from the Island on there..

Got42DDD replies on 6/21/2007 7:25 pm:
No that is not me - because I have never heard about that site - but I would be interested in seeing who this look a like is. Maybe her and I could double date LOL

rm_Archieball2 38M
332 posts
4/22/2007 3:32 am

Kind words and friendship
I sure have found here.
Words full of strength
Love, friendship and courage.
Many of you here
Have touched my heart of gold.
So today I am sending
An angel to watch over
Every single one of you.
To wrap their wings around you
And give each one of you a big hug.

Knowing much better than falling in love..ALL THE BEST HONEY!!!
I'm here to wrap and healing you when you're in pain.

rm_syracusesob 41M
4 posts
4/12/2007 1:10 am

To tell you all the truth.... Well it works both ways... (man I feel a diatribe forming, get your boots and shovels folks.) See there is the whole NSA fun. Now that works for alot. And the there is the LTR thing and some find that but what about in between? Well what about distance, job, kids, spouse, what about in between. Where is your house, job, kids, family? Now we have Issues right. So then there you are still horny, lonly, bored and your situation makes it very difficult to find your Bliss. So then what? On One night stands or NSA's are only fun for a while. But then you want more... so you look and find it and are truly rejected (It happen twice so far). I think I digressed. Like me I have certain tastes, and life issues. why do I get those that CAN"T qualify? hmm why do I have to settle oh yeah Life Issues. Look I am not sure why I started this I guess to play "devils'" Advocate. I am both I have friends w/benefits, and we know that is all there will can be. Then I do want a relationship but who will put up with my life, tastes, and issues and still be what I want in return? No One so far. So I am in between and that means nothing or very little to you the reader unless you are there too. I guess I went into a rant... I can see both sides, Yet I am frustrated because I can't have either and be content. So I guess that is all G'night and G'Luck.

Got42DDD 49F
160 posts
4/1/2007 11:26 am

    Quoting freebirdhavu3:
    You are a trip. The more I read of the things you say, the more I wonder is maybe, This site is not just for playing and messing around. When I joined I and my ex just wanted to play on the cam. well I'm still here and I am one looking to meet in an unexpected place. Just as you are
    Compromised on the color. not pink but neither is a strap on real.
Well actually - I tried to get a more purple color - because one of mine is purple! LOL

I made those blings in the beginning, I am better with colors now.

Happy Hunting, Got42DDD

freebirdhavu3 51M
2 posts
4/1/2007 3:27 am

You are a trip. The more I read of the things you say, the more I wonder is maybe, This site is not just for playing and messing around. When I joined I and my ex just wanted to play on the cam. well I'm still here and I am one looking to meet in an unexpected place. Just as you are
Compromised on the color. not pink but neither is a strap on real.

nycsnapper126 50M

3/23/2007 5:13 pm

If you are seeking love, AdultFriendFinder definitely isn't the site for you. I hope that you find what you are looking for. I have been there a few times and it is magic when it happens.

Got42DDD 49F
160 posts
11/30/2006 5:39 pm

am0r0us It is true, I joined Passion.com - you can go there and log in with your AdultFriendFinder username/password and wa-la, same site. So you see my confusion in the beginning when men where emailing me about swinging. LOL

Happy Hunting, Got42DDD

am0r0us 45M
46 posts
11/29/2006 11:50 pm

didn't know that AdultFriendFinder and passion were the same site.
it may be more rewarding if seeking lust here, not love.

good luck to you!


Got42DDD 49F
160 posts
11/3/2006 6:22 pm

This is the best way to describe why I feel like I do when it comes to a "no strings" thing.

If I have all "fun" buddies, then my kitty is full but my life is empty.

Happy Hunting, Got42DDD

rm_nhtyger 38M
53 posts
11/2/2006 8:50 pm

    Quoting NiceManners:
    What a NICE LADY, beautiful , sweet and HONEST. I look forward to meeeting and seeing IF AdultFriendFinder can actually introduce two NICE people to each other and .............Another "deal" from your "favorite Wall Street Guy. You are a truly Sweet Lady and I appreiciate that , more than you know
I really agree, and I wish you luck, but I have little faith. I really think her post is very astute and I regret some of my earlier comments...I was going through my divorce at the time and the thought of a ltr was terrifying. Good luck to both of you, but I think it's long shot that you'll find a ltr here...wish I could be more positive. You seem like people who deserve to be happy

rm_nhtyger 38M
53 posts
11/2/2006 8:37 pm

You're right of course, but it is simply one of those frustrating differences between men and women. It's also supply and demand.

I could have a relationship easily, but not casual sex. I'd prefer casual sex, and then a relationship.

You could have casual sex easily, but not a relationship...right? But you'd prefer a relationship, and then sex in that order. Supply and demand, really, but it is frustrating, I agree.

The one thing women don't seem to understand about men...check that, maybe you understand it intellectually, but can't seem to understand why, is that sex is an impulse for men, and it's not always pleasant for us, regardless of what any man says.

The one thing men can't seem to understand about women is...everything.

Got42DDD 49F
160 posts
9/15/2006 7:04 pm

YOU are completely right Girlfriend! I knew we thought alike.

Happy Hunting, Got42DDD

NiceManners 55M

9/4/2006 8:49 am

What a NICE LADY, beautiful , sweet and HONEST. I look forward to meeeting and seeing IF AdultFriendFinder can actually introduce two NICE people to each other and .............Another "deal" from your "favorite Wall Street Guy. You are a truly Sweet Lady and I appreiciate that , more than you know

Got42DDD 49F
160 posts
8/7/2006 4:47 pm

Well some men on this site (some of the one's I have come in contact with) expect that a woman would meet them in a hotel and have the wildest sex ever before exchanging names. Now if you think about it, how many times has that happened in your lifetime when meeting someone in a bar or club?

EXACTLY, none or very very few... why should the internet women be any different?

I guess the point I am trying to make is: Be honest about what you are looking for upfront. (I am totally honest and if someone is looking for something different, I do not meet them - why waste eachother's time)

Happy Hunting, Got42DDD

rm_nhtyger 38M
53 posts
8/7/2006 12:51 pm

Anyway, what's wrong with no strings sex? Why are women so opposed to this? Don't you understand you're doing us a favor? Especially shy guys like me.
Why does sex always have to 'go somewhere' Are you that unhappy alone? I don't get it.

rm_nhtyger 38M
53 posts
8/7/2006 12:48 pm

I don't think this is a good site anymore. All the women are looking for love, all the men, including me, are just looking for sex. Somewhere here there's a disconnect. And you're wrong about the men, I think. At least this man. I'm tired of jerking off at home. I don't want to date, though, I want a friends with benefits relationship. No women want it, that I can find. I'm frustrated and so aren't you. Men and women want different things.

Anyway, good luck to you.

ZZ_Todd 59M

8/1/2006 8:23 am

Stick around the Blogs... no, wait... that's not an accurate statement... Get ACTIVE in the Blogs... this is where you will meet the kind of people you're looking for; folks here seem to be more willing to open up... to let people get to know them. It's how we "go beyond the profile"... where real people share more of ourselves with one another. The Profiles are just ads... people aren't commodities, and this site really isn't a supermarket!

So... Welcome to our World! You are about to be amazed!

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