The Need to be Needed.  

Goldenhairgodess 63F
471 posts
10/18/2005 11:12 am

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The Need to be Needed.

The Need to be Needed.

Nearly everyone here has the “No strings” requirement in their profiles. What is meant by “No strings” can vary depending on their definitions. Yet, it is human nature to want to not only be wanted, but also to feel needed by the other person. So how exactly do people show that they need the other person without it appearing to be strings? What sort of needs are people willing to accept or would defiantly be too much? Are guys really attracted to self sufficient woman, or more so to the Ladies in distress?

RailBaron2 54M

10/18/2005 1:19 pm

I personally am more attracted to a lady in distress,I want to love & be loved by a woman I am not seeking a no strings or a one night or a friends with benifits relationship, but a woman who finds me attractive,that I find attractive in return,who enjoys & wants to make love more than a couple times a month.

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
10/18/2005 10:53 pm looking for a cock..gotta be 10 inches or bigger...gotta drive an expensive car ...and i dont want no cheap meal....i want sex when i want it....and i want money too.

that sounds horrible...why in the hell would anyone want that....whatever works...i believe that there is a reason for everyone coming into our lives...whether we find that answer now or later... there is no way that i cant find myself to have nooo need to want to feel an embrace in the center of my soul!!!

live more, laugh often, love much

DallasPhallus56 60M

10/19/2005 6:34 am

Unfortunately, I seem to be attracted to ladies in distress, and they to me. That makes for an unbalanced relationship, since I end up on the giving end. This is different from the "no strings" aspect of a sexual relationship, however. That simply means no jealousy, no emotional attachment, no regrets. Just sex. However, we tend to develop emotional ties with people with whom we share any kind of intimacy, and sex is the most intimate act of all. Consider the famous spy, Mata Hari, and how she got men to tell her all kinds of secrets.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
10/21/2005 10:03 am

Well so far the responses seem to bear witness to the need to be needed. The Lady in distress wins out over the self sufficant woman. I am soft hearted and may reach out to a troubled soul sometimes. But I avoid those who are struggling with the exact same issues as I am having. How can either of us help the other? It would be like the blind leading the blind. At best, all we could do is cry on each others shoulder.

Hockeyplayer4you 43M
3 posts
10/22/2005 3:43 am

Strings.....They mean different things to people at different stages of life. Try to get a 18-24 year old to leave any strings and I would be impressed. It defintely has a little to do with age, maturity, and experience. I would agree that sex is intimate, but sometimes for people it is a release and and an enjoyable one to leave as just that. For example, while at a party at a beach home, I walked along the beach with a pal and ended up meeting and having sex with two hot young women looking for guys to hook up with. We all ended up on a lifeguard tower naked and then kissed eachother a fond farewell.
In the end, it is all about who you are with that strings attach themselves to or not. Some in your control others perhaps not. Party on, -T

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