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Strings from tamethytension
Strings from tamethytension
Used by permission from tamethytensions.
His Posting and my response:
My take on "No Strings":
No strings = no guilt NOT no emotional attachment. With the understanding that it is not forever and exclusively, express exactly what you are feeling. So long as he comfortable with that knowledge, he may just be willing to express exactly what he is feeling. I have felt a sincere love with most of my affairs. A feeling I hold for most of my companions long after we have parted as lovers yet remaining friends. I genuinely care for them and ask after their health and well-being. That this is so is because I was able to make plain my sincere feeling of love within the context of an acknowledged casual affair. The words "I love you" should not be forbidden, simply understood to mean not necessarily forever and exclusively. Of course, in time stronger bonds may be forged such that level of commitment may be re-visited. But provided you assure the guy that the "rules of engagement" have not changed, then I think an open expression of feelings is more likely forthcoming.
I agree 100% with what you are saying. I cannot give myself to someone without a part of my heart going with it. And it hurts me when the guy feels so threatened by my caring that they feel they must sever any ties, least they become entangled with strings. Or go out of their way to prove that they do not give a damn about me. I do not want to possess them as mine and mine alone-unless they want to be exclusive. At the same time, If I am there for them when needed, It should be no big deal to come through for me in a time of need. Why is that so hard for them to understand?
9/28/2005 8:24 pm
you know i had the passing thought just yesterday. a guy i was corresponding asked me how i can put my feelings so deep and so far when it will more likely freak a guy out. I said i cannot hide who i am nor will i try. If i am into someone or we are together then thats great...im going to express what i feel. It may not be forever...but the memory sure does stick around for a while...just like a scar....or wound...the deeper the cut...the greater number of stitches....the harder is is to hide the wound. i say this because with every type of relationship you have boundaries, you have given facts, you have your needs, wants, desires....be it friendship, lovers, sisters, cousins...any kind of contact you make with another individual will have some sort of connection to makes you want to deal with the person in the first place.... |
communication is key to every relationship and its sorta important to know the intentions of all parties....everyone is on the same page...everyone is happy!!
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