Am I asking for too much?  

Goldenhairgodess 63F
471 posts
7/11/2005 5:51 am

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6/16/2006 2:25 pm

Am I asking for too much?

I have been told that I have high standards.
But are they too high? The only measurement I
can use is my self. So if I ask for acceptance,
then that is what can be expected of me. If
it is compassion, trust worthy ness, ect, ect.
Then I hold myself to that also.
Am I infallible? No. And I do not expect others
to be either. So what ever my stated standards
may be, understand that perfection is not
required. The only inflexable standard is that
of honesty. Without that, there can never be a
"we". And eventually a "we" is what I really
really want. I do not expect it instantly of
course. It will take time to develop. So do not
let that scare you away. But for those who are
determind never to fall in love and F*** as
many people as you can, I am not a good choice
for you. So just be real and honest about it.
For those who are in for the chase-I do not
want to be the prey to boost your ego's. For
the very, very young, (under 32) I can be no
more then a mother figure for you. Fair enough?

redmustang91 57M  
8658 posts
7/12/2005 9:08 am

Yes, you are asking too much! I suggest you relax your standards to allow a few real men into the castle, beyond the moat. Over time some will turn out to be bette than you imagined and others will drop by the wayside. Hve mercy on the poor male gender.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
7/13/2005 4:51 pm

I will have mercy on the male gender when I am no longer held to
judgements about my worthiness for them. When how many men I have
been with is no more important then how many women they have been
with. Or how soon I am inimate with them is not a reason to leave me.
You see, I am the one needing the mercy. My high standards are the
only defense I have against the judgements that they would make.
To avoid a Lable that could hinder my chances for a meaningful
and true relationship in the furture. And for that I will deal
with the deferred gratification. if I am asking too much for you
and in your opinion then all I can say is thank goodness! There is
a silverlining! Thank You for posting!

Apolybear 54M

7/15/2005 12:12 pm

Honestly, I wouldn't worry so much about what others may think. I realize the double standard is still allive and well. So, keep your radar open for those men who share your values. We're out there...

Be yourself, keep your standards and trust that you'll find what you seek...

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